Saving a Marriage after an Affair

People generally have an affair if they are unhappy with their current relationship or

marriage. Saving a marriage after an affair means you have to understand why it happens

in the first place. Below is a list of facts that may destroy your personal beliefs about affairs

or cheating.

Fact #1: Both men and women cheat

Women who are in their 20s and 30s cheat as frequently as men their age. Research does

show however that men from the baby boom period tend to cheat more.

Fact #2: There is no specific profile of a ‘cheater’

Anyone may be prone to have an affair given the right set of circumstances that triggers one.

It is a myth that there is a recognizable “type” of person who tends to be unfaithful. Affairs

tend to happen unintentionally and more often than not, these people who have affairs did

not plan for it to happen. It can happen when the person is caught off-guard, feeling down or

stressed out.

Hence, one of the ways to prevent from being unfaithful is to avoid possible situations that

would make you vulnerable. Say for example, you are a friendly and helpful type of person.

Be on guard by not confiding about your personal information, personal life or personal

problems to your colleagues of the opposite sex. This sets up a safety boundary line to

prevent you from getting close to a particular person.

Fact #3: It does not happen due to boredom

An affair can happen early in the marriage or late in the marriage. Research shows that it

happens more often during the first two years of marriage. Women may cheat out of

curiosity whether they made the right choice in marriage partner or not. Men may cheat

because it is a “guy thing” to do and this belief may come from their upbringing or

background.

Fact #4: Cheating does happen in a happy marriage or relationship

People can be happy in a marriage and still have affairs. There are so many factors that can

make a person lose control and drive that person to cheat. For example, the relationship

has grown apart or cold, the opportunity seems too good to be true, there is no impulse

control, the marriage lacks excitement, etc. Hence, keeping in touch with your spouse or

partner is critical. There is a need to have daily, one to one intimate communication with

your partner to remain close.

Both men and women cheat and most of the time the betrayed partner is often in the dark

about the affair. Finding the root cause of the affair is important. In order to save the

marriage, both partners must recommit themselves to the relationship and give their

promises or vows of fidelity. However, it is essential that both partners go through the facts

above and understand that it takes self control and support from each other to make the

marriage work again after an affair.

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