save our marriage! - how to save your marriage when counseling has failed

2
Save Our Marriage! - How To Save Your Marriage When Counseling Has Failed Regardless of how much you may want to save your marriage, you must understand that this may not be possible, so you must be mentally ready to react, however matters turn out.This is not thinking negatively but being ready to face up to realism if that's how things go. Then things take a turn for the worse. As the actual story of the film starts to unfold the comedy falls flat, like it was sprinting down the white sand beaches pictured in the film and hit the ocean to fast causing it to fall over. As the comedic scenes dry up so that we can have some romance the film completely loses its charm until it feels like a romantic comedy from hell replete with a Guitar Hero showdown of epically stupid proportions and all four couples magically working everything out at the exact same time in the exact same location. Gone is the actual quality humor of the first hour and it's replaced with the kind of stuff you expect to find in a romantic comedy about married couples going to an island. Basically, unless there is some sort of abuse issue present in the marriage which would then make divorce the optimal choice, you should make it clear that divorce is not happening. Divorce is a two person process. You can decide that the divorce will not happen while your spouse can see it as a mere delay. In any case, take this time make the effort to do everything possible to improve the state of the marriage. So the steps you should take before even thinking about taking the step of divorce is to really first think about some marriage counseling. Think about whether your marriage can be saved. marriage counseling You must make this move. Your spouse may have had time to think about your decision and may be on the verge of thinking it might be a good idea after all. Myth 2-The counselor needs to be of my ethnic background- Although it may initially be more comfortable to speak with an individual of your background you may find that this is actually detrimental. Trying to find a counselor exactly like you will only leave you with the false expectation that the counselor will always be on your side. This will only lead to frustration with the counselor, as it will seem as though they are against you. The goal of the counselor is not to be your best friend but to act as a family coach.

Upload: snottyalbum7242

Post on 14-Feb-2017

64 views

Category:

Documents


2 download

TRANSCRIPT

Save Our Marriage! - How To Save Your Marriage WhenCounseling Has Failed

Regardless of how much you may want to save your marriage, you must understand that this maynot be possible, so you must be mentally ready to react, however matters turn out.This is notthinking negatively but being ready to face up to realism if that's how things go.

Then things take a turn for the worse. As the actual story of the film starts to unfold the comedy fallsflat, like it was sprinting down the white sand beaches pictured in the film and hit the ocean to fastcausing it to fall over. As the comedic scenes dry up so that we can have some romance the filmcompletely loses its charm until it feels like a romantic comedy from hell replete with a Guitar Heroshowdown of epically stupid proportions and all four couples magically working everything out atthe exact same time in the exact same location. Gone is the actual quality humor of the first hourand it's replaced with the kind of stuff you expect to find in a romantic comedy about marriedcouples going to an island.

Basically, unless there is some sort of abuse issue present in the marriage which would then makedivorce the optimal choice, you should make it clear that divorce is not happening. Divorce is a twoperson process. You can decide that the divorce will not happen while your spouse can see it as amere delay. In any case, take this time make the effort to do everything possible to improve the stateof the marriage.

So the steps you should take before even thinking about taking the step of divorce is to really firstthink about some marriage counseling. Think about whether your marriage can be saved.

marriage counseling You must make this move. Your spouse may have had time to think about yourdecision and may be on the verge of thinking it might be a good idea after all.

Myth 2-The counselor needs to be of my ethnic background- Although it may initially be morecomfortable to speak with an individual of your background you may find that this is actuallydetrimental. Trying to find a counselor exactly like you will only leave you with the false expectationthat the counselor will always be on your side. This will only lead to frustration with the counselor,as it will seem as though they are against you. The goal of the counselor is not to be your best friendbut to act as a family coach.

marriage counseling When things go down hill in a relationship asking you wife to take you back notalone asking for forgiveness can be a daunting task. But you have to suck it up and be a man. Grabyou partner by the hand and look dead in her eyes and ask tell her that you are sorry.

The next step you can take with the concept of getting a team together to support you throughgetting this divorce, (if thats where youre headed), is to talk to an attorney. There are so many legalissues that come up with either a separation or a divorce. You really should get as much informationas you can about it before you even discuss divorce with your spouse.

help get ex back, save a failing marriage, marriage right