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RESTARTING & REFRESHING
A YOUTH MINISTRY
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BEFORE WE
BEGIN
• I s t r ugg le j us t l i ke you
• Ta l k i ng i n G ene r a l i zed t e r m s
• W e a r e seen as a se r v i ce
i ndus t r y
• The i dea o f “ Su r v i v i ng t he Day ”
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MYTHS ABOUT
YOUTH MINISTRY
I NEED A BIG
BUDGET
T he re a re so many f r ee
r esou rces ava i l ab l e
and commun i t y i s bu i l t
i n i nexpens i ve ways .
I NEED AN
AWESOME YOUTH
ROOM
K ids a r e l ook ing
f o r c om m un i t y and
au t hen t i c i t y .
I NEED TO HAVE A
BIG YOUTH
GROUP
T he l a rge r you r g roup
ge t s t he more t ime you
spend wi t h i n t e rns &
adu l t s .
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THREE THINGS FOR A YOUTH
MINISTRY OF ANY SIZE
Discipleship Building
Community
Opportunities to
Serve
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TWO IMPORTANT THINGS TO
KEEP IN MIND
• 4-6 is the amount of teenagers that an adult can know
personally in a spiritual mentor type role
• Our youth groups have to be systems (mind-sets) & not just
programs (temporary)
• Example: a computer
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DISCIPLESHIP
RESEARCH
Research shows that teens will only
remember 2 or 3 of our lessons
2 TO 3
LESSONS
NOTHING COMES FOR FREE
Research shows that teens learn better
1 on 1 or out of their comfort zones
COMFORT
ZONES
WHAT DO YOU REMEMBER Tour of a jail, crossing a creek, visiting
a cemetery, when you were real
FORMER
TEENS
GET UNCOMFORTABLE Sometimes our greatest growth
comes when we are uncomfortable
FAITH
IT’S ACTUALLY EASIER Plan your lessons ahead of time
and do one every two months
SMALL
GROUPS
DIVIDE & CONQUER Retreats, small groups, & mentors look for
ways to make your teaching come to life
BIGGER
GROUPS
“W hen a l l i s s a id and done , t he l i f e
o f f a i t h i s no t h i ng i f no t an
unend ing s t r ugg le o f t he s p i r i t w i t h
eve ry ava i l ab le weapon aga ins t t he
f l es h . ”
D ie t r i c h Bonhoe f f e r -
The Cos t o f D i sc ip l esh ip
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BUILDING
COMMUNITY
THINGS TO NOTICE
Each kid is special & created an
atmosphere to have fun & learn
MR. WHITE’S
CLASS
WALKING IN THE DOOR
Research shows they need to know
they are going to be accepted & valued
EVERY
TEEN
WE OUR FAMILY We need to encourage our teens to
look outside themselves to others
CONSTANT
REMIND
OUTSIDE THE WALLS Invite the whole group to go and
support another teen
ALL WEEK
LEADER REQUIREMENT Every patrol leader is challenged to do
one activity a week without a leader
BOY
SCOUTS
FIND WAYS TO GET THEM TALKING
Simply challenge them to reach out to those
who need it or Private Facebook page
COMMUNICATE
“Fe l l ows h ip i s a p l ac e o f g rac e ,
where m is t ak es a ren ' t r ubbed i n bu t
r ubbed ou t . Fe l l ows h ip happens
when merc y w ins ove r j us t i c e . ”
R i c k W ar ren
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OPPORTUNITIES
TO SERVE
WHY WOULD THEY VOLUNTEER?
Why would college students
volunteer for no money or credit?
WHY SERVE?
RESEARCH SAYS THE OPPOSITE
Research shows the past 2 generations
are eager to invest if they are passionate
TEENS ARE
LAZY
TEENS WANT TO VOLUNTEER 68% of teens are either already involved or
want to be asked to help the church
CHART
TEENS WANT TO BE INVOLVED In their church and feeding the
homeless in their city
TOP 2
THINGS
NOT TOMORROW; TODAY Teens who are equipped and encouraged are
drawing people to their church or ministry
TODAY'S
LEADERS
TAKES TIME
Look for opportunities for our teens to serve
and keep coming back even after they say no
PRAY FOR
GOD’S
LEADING
W e f ee l wha t we a re do ing i s j us t a
d rop i n t he oc ean , bu t t ha t oc ean
wou ld be l es s w i t hou t t ha t d rop . “
Mo t he r Te res a
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FULL FAMILY MINISTRY
DEALING WITH CURRENT ISSUES
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WARMTH, CONNECTEDNESS, &
LACK OF AN AGENDA
The research showed that parents just
being present in the house showed
lower levels of depression, higher
school functioning, lower risk behaviors,
and better peer relationships if the
parents showed 3 things while at home:
Main point of the
research was “Many
parents feel their
adolescents hardly Need
them anymore” and the
adolescents “wish their
parents were Around
more often”
DECEMBER CBS NEWS REPORT
“POTTED PLANT PARENTS
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THIS GENERATION OF TEENS IS DRAWN TO ONE
THING MORE THAN ANYTHING ELSE
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Authoritative • Goal of most parents
• Most effective & beneficial according to
psychologists
• There is a balance between involvement
& discipline
• High expectations with understanding
• Communicate without judgment or reprimand
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Authoritarian • These are strict parents
• “It’s my way or the highway”
• There is little open dialogue
• Relies on punishment for obedience or
to teach a lesson
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Permissive • These parents avoid confrontation
• Few rules are set or rules are inconsistent
• Parents want to come across as loving &
are afraid punishment will harm child
• Kids crave sense of structure to feel safe
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Neglectful • Little care for child’s emotional or
physical needs
• Very selfish and/or addictive personalities
• Long periods of time away from home
• Finds excuses for not helping or
participating in child’s life
• Only gets involved if child is in trouble
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YOUR JOB IS TO ASSIST PARENTS,
NOT REPLACE THEM
We a r e m en to r s , r o l e m ode l s , & sp i r i t ua l l eade r s
We w i l l neve r be ab le t o f i l l t he r o l e o f a pa r en t
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BEGINNING THE
PROCESS
INTRODUCE YOURSELF
Setup a time to meet or just
leave a voice message 1
LEARN THEIR STORY
The more you understand their
struggles, the more you can help
2
YOU'RE ON THEIR SIDE
Always side with the parent even
when you do not agree
3
BE RESPONSIBLE Every event, game, or activity you
do provide a safe environment
4
COMMUNICATE Parents don’t feel equipped. Give
them information & resources
5
DON’T BE BULLIED
Never let anyone else run the
ministry God has called you to lead
6
Andy S t an ley onc e s a id , “ I don ’ t
have t he ab i l i t y t o f i l l anyone ’ s
c up ; I do have t he ab i l i t y t o emp t y
my c up f o r s omeone e l s e ”
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FINAL THOUGHTS
REASSURE OR
NUDGE
Reas s u re t hos e
pa ren ts who
t h i nk t hey a ren ’ t
do ing enough
and nudge thos e
t ha t a ren ’ t do ing
enough .
FIND MENTORS
Be ing a pa ren t i s
d i f f i c u l t and the re
i s a l o t o f s t r es s
t hey f ac e da i l y .
F ind those who
have gone th rough
the j ou rney t o
as s i s t t hem.
PARENTS AS
LEADERS
I t ' s i n c red ib l y
d i f f i c u l t f o r a
pa ren t ( no t
impos s ib l e ) t o
make dec i s i ons
t ha t a re bes t f o r
t he g roup and no t
j u s t t he i r k i ds .