“Refuse to Choose”:

A revolutionary program for doing everything that you

love

Concept presented by Kelly Roughton, EFT Coach

www.InnerShining.com - 514-770-1608

A book written by Barbara Sher

Some cultural generalizations to question:

You must pick ONE career, ONE area of specialization.“Perennial students” are lazy or immature, won’t “buckle down”, won’t “do the hard stuff” required of more serious people.You should study something that you can put to use.

I can never stick to anything.I know I should focus on one thing, but which one?I lose interest in things I thought would interest me forever.I keep going off on another tangent.I get bored as soon as I know how to do something.I can’t stand to do anything twice.I keep changing my mind about what I want to do and end up doing nothing.I work at low-paying jobs because there’s nothing I’m willing to commit to.I won’t choose a career path because it might be the wrong one.I pull away from what I’m doing because I’m afraid I’ll miss something better.I’m too busy, but when I do find time I can’t remember what I wanted to do.

Are you a “Scanner”?

What is a “Scanner”?Love lifeLove new experiencesAre interesting peopleAre intensely interestedHave difficulty choosingLearn faster than othersMust explore many thingsCan’t have fewer interestsDon’t want fewer interestsAre most talented at learningHave low tolerance for boredomHave intense curiosity about numerous unrelated subjects

Rewards – What drives you?Different types of Scanners say:

Knowing how to do lots of things so you can always jump in and help; makes you feel capableInsights, revelations, discoveries, glimpses that make you say, “I never knew that!”Anything new: people, places, experiencesHaving impact, being seen (like teachers, performers, ministers, gurus, politicians)

Exercising intelligence because it feels goodSensation: hearing, moving, smelling, seeing, touchingUsing all parts of yourself, your logic, intuition, empathy, abilities

Scanner Types

Cyclical

Sequential

Cyclical Scanners: Features

Know their interestsSame 2 – 20 interests that come up again and againDrop them but always return to them

Types of Cyclical Scanner

Double Agent Minimal number of

interests

Sybil A lot of interests

Plate SpinnerMany interests at the same time

Life Design Models (Cyclical)

TelecommutingSchool Teacher

FarmerSeasonalParallel Lives

School DaySpyPhysicianLearn, Try, Teach and Leave (LTTL)Random Acts of PassionAlternating Current

Sequential Scanners: Features

Once done with an interest, they’re doneIt seems the list of interests is endlessDuration of interest varies (10 minutes to years)All Scanners like to learn: Some need to solve the puzzle Some need to master the skill

Types of Sequential Scanner

Serial Specialist – Goes deep, gets outSerial Master – Masters and moves onJack-of-All Trades – got a plan

Wanderer No plan

Sampler Taking little bites

High-Speed Indecisive Multi-tasker

Life Design Models (Sequential)

Walter MittyRepertoireMost Valuable PlayerGood Life

OdysseusItinerant Preacher“I Might Need That Someday”SmorgasbordQuarterly Creative ProjectEverything 101City Desk Reporter

Tools for Scanners

“Busting Open Either/Or Thinking” Game2-Year Wall Calendar PosterDestination Steamer Trunks15-month Goal CalendarRotating Priorities BoardScanner DaybookScanner PlannerKitchen Timer Career TryoutScanner’s Finish

Tools for Scanners (cont’d)

20 or 30 3-ring BindersProject BoxesSetupAvocation StationLife’s Work BookshelfLetters from the Field

The SoiréeThe Private MuseumThe Annual Show-and-Tell PartyDa Vinci Write-UpCatalog of Ideas with PotentialPortable Idea DeckThe Never-Ending ResuméWeb e-Mail Account“Everything I Don’t Want” List

Careers for ScannersReplaceable/temp jobsIndependent workHighly paid short-term workPortable jobsJobs with built-in travelThe Good Enough JobTalent AgentCareer/life coachAthletic coachContract workTelecommuter

Written translations Multiple income streamsHome businessNonprofit IncubatorExpertise for saleCatalog compiler/ copywriterInventorStockbrokerSlush-pile reader

Careers for Scanners (cont’d)

Umbrella Careers Writer Teacher Historian Public Speaker Troubleshooter Information broker Journalist Researcher Librarian Editor

Personal assistant Foundation officer Your own business Consultant Business skills

Some thoughts to ponderYou don’t always have to use things you loveIt’s not always so practical to be practicalDelicious dilettantism pays its way by making you remember every day that life is amazing and there is no end to the wonder of itAristotle, Goethe, Leonardo Da Vinci, Benjamin Franklin, and others had very diverse interests and each pursued many. These people did not:

Feel guilty leaving projects unfinished Feel obliged to choose just one subject Settle on one career Appear defensive or apologetic about it

Suggested Reading

“I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was” – Barbara Sher

“Refuse To Choose” – Barbara Sher

THANKS!!!Kelly Roughton

www.InnerShining.com 514-770-1608