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Recovering From Redundancy

A Personal Journey"Hold yourself responsible for a higher standard than anybody else expects of

you. Never excuse yourself. Never pity yourself. Be a

hard master to yourself-and be lenient to everybody

else.” ― Henry Ward Beecher

Building Emotional Resilience

http://maryjaneryan.files.wordpress.com/2009/08/resilience

Creating Personal Motivation from the

Emotional Fallout• Disbelief• Flight

• Acknowledge the situation• Accept and move forward

Patience – since rushing into action is not the answer (HBR

Essentials)

A word or two on each of these

Disbelief

• Slow realisation – Finality & Future

• Wake up and nowhere to go• So many things rushing through

my mind• Seeing the fear in others

Motivations arising from Disbelief

• If I can’t do it for myself do it for others• Start thinking about destinations and

how to get there• Write it down – Lists are not enough –

Create stories• Communicate with everyone• Put together a financial plan

Flight

• Fear of the future• Uncertainty

• Anger and short tempered – need to protect others from

myself• Unable to consider taking risks

Motivations arising from ‘Flight’

• It is harder to hide when many are looking for you

• Putting myself out there – ‘slowly and safely’

• Taking small steps and creating small wins

• Play with change• Communicate

Acknowledge the Situation

• It is a positive step forward but not a leap

• Those colleagues of the past – may well be the past

• Start to create distance but say goodbye

• Build on the small wins

Motivations arising from Acknowledgement

• I have said ‘goodbye’ now I want to say hello

• Creating a new narrative is fun• The last 30 years have prepared

me for this• Consolidate my learning and

identify the gaps

Accept and move forward

• It is a semi colon moment in my life

• So what I have learnt and what do I need to learn?

• I continue to set goals• It is a work in progress

Motivations arising from acceptance

• In 10 years time I want to be able to take my grand daughter

to Disney in Florida • I know its going to be hard work

but I am starting to believe I can get there

• Be a constant learner and keep a journal

“Whenever I begin to feel a little blue, I remember to

start breathing again” -Woody Allen

And Finally three metaphors for

‘resilience’ - which resonates the most with

you?

The Organic

The Architectural

The Historic

• Any comments / questions and

thoughts?