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YOUR PARENTS' DIVORCE WILL AFFECT

THE WAY YOU SEE THE WORLD:

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* Anger is one of the most powerful emotions one can have. If you

don't figure out how to handle anger, it can also hurt you. When

you are angry all you see is red! So time to talk:

*There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with being ANGRY. You

get angry when something happens to you, that hurts you. You get

angry when things happen to you that you have no control over,

that you did not cause.

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*Get your anger out, why don't you yell, scream or shout. Give

yourself 30 seconds to air son1e anger out!

*If your parents' divorce 1nade you angry, do one of the following:

a. Write a letter to your parents, telling them exactly why

you feel the way you do.

b. Draw a picture, how did your parents' divorce affect you?

c. Talk in a group; let everyone in the group say one thing

they are angry about.

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****PUT ON YOUR GLASSES!****

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Seeing Red

Put on our 3-d glasses and what picture do you see?

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When you put down the glasses, what colors did you n1iss by just

seeing red?

a.

b.

C.

d.

What else are you missing out on when you are angry and all you

see is red?

a.

b.

C.

d.

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Mary is six years old and is angry about her parents' divorce.

Mary blames her Mom for the divorce. Mary does not talk about

how she feels and keeps her anger inside. Mary doesn't like

hanging out with her friends anymore-it's just not the san1e. Mary

no longer enjoys playing basketball and finds herself more by

herself.

Mary looked at herself at the mirror and then looked at a

picture she took of herself a few months ago. Mary starts to cry

and wonders what she can do to get back to the person she used to

be. Mary hates her Mom n1ore and more, and blan1es her for

feeling the way she does.

Did it help Mary to not tell anyone how she was feeling?

How did anger hurt Mary?

If you were Mary's friend, what would you tell her?

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now?

Letting Go of Anger

Anger is powerful, anger is comfortable. Many people never

ever let go of the anger that they have. Keeping your anger

or letting go of it is a choice you must make.

You have to weigh the benefits of keeping your anger with

what you are losing BECAUSE of it.

So let's ·write a list. Describe how you saw yourself before your

parents' divorce. What did you like to do?

1.

2.

.) .

Now let's move onto the second list. How do you see yourself

1.

2.

3.

If the two lists are different, what do you think happened? Do you miss

the person you used to be? What would you do now to change and go

back to what you used to like doing?

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HELPFUL HINTS:

Checking your Feelings

Time for a Diary: A diary is a great way to see how you're

feeling day to day. Write about your feelings and then look

back and see if your feelings change over time. What does

your diary say?

"TACKLING FUEL"

In the movie the "Waterboy", Bobby Bouchet uses his anger

and is invited on his college football tean1. Bobby was

fatuous for controlling and focusing the emotion of anger if,

as, and when needed. How can you channel your anger into

something positive?

ENROLL IN SPORTS!

Your local conununity is filled with sports and lots of other

activities for you to choose from. Focus your energies on

something positive by joining a soccer, baseball, dance,

gymnastics or football team today!

FIND SOMEONE TO TALK TO

If you still need help and feel totally lost, let your parents

know. A few talks with the school counselor or a therapist

1night be just the thing you need to sort things through.

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Being sad makes sense.

Divorce isn't a happy time.

What do you do about being sad?

When Life serves you lemons what do you do?

There is a saying that when life gives you le1nons you make

len1onade. What does that saying 1nean?

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So let's talk lemons - what is making you sad?

How did you find out your parents were getting divorced?

Do you think that you are not going to see your Mon1 as n1uch as you'd

like to after the divorce?

How about your Dad?

Did you think you caused your parents divorce?

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Because Conflict Hurst Kids

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