pursuit of success
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“It’s the fear of fear you fear. The fear itself hurts more than the thing you are scared of.”
-‐Darren Hardy, Editor in Chief Success Magazine, Author of The Entrepreneur Roller Coaster
By pracIcing happiness and opImism, people can overcome their fears that disable people from posiIve and producIve outcomes.
Vs.
Water FiltraIon Mess-‐Up
Darren Hardy’s First Business • $5000 iniIal investment (all his money) • No one Bought • Grandmother bought first system – got her friends to buy as well
• Major leak in Grandmother’s home • Fear of wrecking 18 other homes
Out come
• Grandmother had insurance • Grandfather and plumber went to fix other systems
• $5 Million a year • $20,000 a month in sales and commissions
Fear Jack in Don DeLillo’s “White Noise” • Fear of death, technology and society
– “I WOKE IN THE GRIP of a death sweat. Defenseless against my own racking fears. A pause at the center of my being.” (DeLillo 79)
– “But we look around and see no response from the official organs of the media. The airborne toxic event is a horrifying thing. Our fear is enormous. Even if there hasn’t been great loss of life, don’t we deserve some agenIon for our suffering, our human worry, our terror? Isn’t fear news?” (DeLillo. 253) “We’re falling out of the sky! We’re going down! We’re a silver gleaming death machine!” (DeLillo, 146)
– It is surely possible to be awed by the thing that threatens your life, to see it as a cosmic force, so much larger than yourself, more powerful, created by elemental and willful rhythms. This was a death made in the laboratory, defined and measurable, but we thought of it at the Ime in a simple and primiIve way, as some seasonal perversity of the earth like a flood or tornado, something not subject to control. Our helplessness did not seem compaIble with the idea of a man-‐made event.” (DeLillo, 199, 200)
Jack’s Fear
• Fear of death consumes him. He has been fearful of death all his life. It bothers him from sleeping and having enough energy.
• Technology always seems to be blamed. His issues with Television, Radio, Media and even TransportaIon (Planes) – will Jack ever fly a plane again?
• Jack believes that the Toxic event was man-‐made. If those labs and experiments didn’t exist the leak would have never happened. What about all the breakthroughs that come out of those labs?
How can one ever live a fulfilling life? Is Jack’s life considered complete? Happy? Is there a beger way?
“Happiness is a moral obligaIon”
Happiness is neither a feeling nor an emoIon it is an acIon. Happiness is something that people need to work on; it is a habit and a character trait. “Happiness — or at least acIng happy, or at the very least not inflicIng one’s unhappiness on others — is no less important in making the world beger than any other human trait.”
Dennis Prager, Radio Talk Show Host, Public Speaker and author of “Happiness is a Serious Problem.”
(Prager 2012, St. Petersburg College, appliedethicsinsItute.org)
Finding Meaning – Having Faith SomeImes a faith in some form of higher power helps us believe that there is some form of greater good in play, we simply don’t see it yet. By finding meaning, people tend to be more posiIve, which in turn leads to their happiness.
“People need to find a meaning in life, a reason for them to be happy. Despite anything and everything they went through.”
Psychologist, Holocaust Survivor and author of “Man’s search for meaning.“ Victor Frankl
Aqtude People who have a negaIve aqtude will only look to feed it, they are not looking for any soluIons. Fear is what capIvated these individuals from their negaIve aqtudes. Fear of the need to change their thoughts, acIons and views, is what blocks these individuals. Therefore it is fear that does not allow people to take necessary steps to achieving their desired successes.
“Aqtude is everything, those who are angry and are not happy, they look for agenIon, they are not looking for soluIons”
(Ziglar, Inspire, YouTube.com 2008)
Naysayer
People that are hurt, are suffering from pain, cannot forgive easily. How can they be happy?
Very Valid point!
“Take this fear, take this pain, take this hurt and mourn it for a short period of Ime. But keep it short, then get up and get to work. Use that pain and rejecIon as your building blocks towards your success.”
(Corcoran 2015, Entrepreneur.com)
MulIbillionaire, Real Estate Mogul and Investor Barbara Corcran
Conclusion
• Working hard means, planning out your happiness schedule by acIvely behaving happy, despite your emoIons or your feelings. (Gretchen Rubin, “The Happiness Project”)
• “Children act how they feel, adults act how they should” (Prager 2012, St. Petersburg College, appliedethicsinsItute.org).
• “OpImism and the lack of fear from failure. It is ok to fail, it’s all about how you get back up and do it beger.” (Branson, Why OpImism Pays Off, Virgin.com)