publisher: not sure what this artwork and design ... · i battled with insecurities my entire life....
TRANSCRIPT
Publisher: Terri Savelle Foy Ministries///Founder and President: Terri Savelle Foy///Managing Editor: Isaiah Shook///Artwork and Design: Micah Herrera///Photography: Terri Savelle Foy Ministries,
Edmonson
The Routine is published by Terri Savelle Foy Ministries, a non-profit corporation.
© 2011 Terri Savelle Foy MinistriesPrinting and distriburtion costs are paid for by donations from TSFM partners and friends.
All material published in The Routine may not be reproduced without prior permission from Terri Savelle Foy Ministries.
www.terri.com
Not sure what this is?
Search “QR Code” on your smart phone app store and gain instant access to more from Terri!
Satan attacks our identity more than any-
thing else. He wants you to think you’re
someone you’re not. He wants you to dislike
who you are, compare what you look like and
wish you were someone else. Why? So you
will never have the confidence to do what
God put you on this earth to do.
I battled with insecurities my entire life. I was
so insecure growing up that I would not even
go swimming in my own backyard without
first putting on an entire face full of make-up.
It was only my sister and me at the pool, but
I felt so ugly. Plus, I hated my freckles, my
“knock knees”, my giant eyes, my red hair,
my baby voice (to name a few things). I even
disliked my personality. I wanted to be bold
and loud not sweet and soft spoken.
Later, I dealt with major insecurities, stem-
ming from some very painful experiences,
that lasted in me for many, many years.
There is no way I could be ministering now,
in front of people and TV cameras, if I hadn’t
allowed God and His Word to drastically
change me from the inside out. I now know
how it feels to be free, but more importantly,
I know how to get free!
Nearly everyday we receive letters and emails
from young women like this needing help:
“Hi, Terri! I am sure you get a lot of emails, and not sure if you will actually read this. But, I am just so desperate. I am a disappointment to my family. Worthless. I am a college stu-dent. Everyone knows me as the hot cheer-leader, and the guys are only after me for my looks. The girls hate me... I got wrapped up into drinking and being with the boys. This wouldn’t be a big deal... but I feel lost. I was the good Christian girl, then I came to col-lege and everything just did a 180... idk. I feel super lost... I honestly don’t even know why I am emailing you... I am not even worth it to respond back to. I don’t even know... have a great week.”
- H.B. (facebook)
It’s been said that what you hate is what you were created to solve.
I hate insecurity. I hate seeing women (and men) walk around with
their head down, poor posture, feeling insignificant, sleeping around,
disrespecting themselves and ultimately, believing Satan’s lies about
them. That’s why this issue of The Routine is dedicated to inspiring
you to change the way you see yourself, step out of your comfort
zone, overcome the insecurities that are trying to hold you back and
build your confidence like never before.
I’ve discovered that one of the best ways to get free is to sow into
someone else’s freedom. As a supporter of TSFM, you are aggressively
taking a stand against Satan’s attacks on our teenage girls. It’s been
reported that:
* 1 in 5 young women struggle with an eating disorder.
* 1 in 3 girls becomes pregnant at least once before age 20.
* 1 in 4 young women has admitted to committing self-harm.
We are changing that. How? By investing the truth into their lives.
The Lord clearly put it on my heart to “invest in teenage girls” and
“they will produce a harvest.” At our Icing women’s event the altars
are filled with young ladies crying out to God and being filled up with
His love and life-changing resources to take back home with them.
We also invest my books, CD’s and financial support into girls’ homes
and outreaches committed to rescuing the 350,000 reported cases of
human trafficking in the U.S. All of this is possible because of you!
As you read this magazine from cover to cover, go ahead and straight-
en up, pull your shoulders back, get your head up and get ready to
walk confidently towards the dreams God has put in your heart.
“If you think you’re too small to have an impact, try going to bed with
a mosquito in the room.”
TO ALL MY FRIENDS AND SUPPORTERS,
R
Did you know that you can spot an insecure
person from across the room without ever hearing
a word they say? At the same time, you can locate
their insecurities very clearly by listening to the
words they say. How do I know this? I studied body
language in college; but more importantly, I was filled
with insecurities from head to toe...
We all have things we would like to
improve and that’s OK, but when
you dislike yourself and wish you
were somebody else, you are an
open playground for Satan to walk
all over! He knows that in
order for you to carry out
God’s assignment for your
life, you must be confident
and secure in who you are
in Christ. You must be!
So, it makes sense why he
would do his best to make
you feel insecure. It will
stop you from ever stepping
out.
What is insecurity? By defi-
nition it means worrried,
anxious, afraid, shy, unsure,
timid, self-conscious,
vulnerable, wide-open,
unprotected; likely to fail
or give way, lacking in se-
curity and self-confidence,
not safe from attack.
When you are insecure, you
are not safe from Satan’s at-
tacks. He preys on insecure
victims. He loves weakness
and he will do his best to
absolutely destroy any confidence or self-esteem
you may have. Why? It’s all in an effort to keep you back
from doing what God wants to do with your life.
Studies have found that when a rapist is looking for a
victim to attack, he looks for those who appear timid and
insecure. How does he know? In the way they carry them-
selves. Your body language reveals more than you may
realize. Body language is 55% of how we communicate.
The body language of an insecure person includes: stooped
posture, dropped head, looking down, a weak voice, folded
arms, wringing hands, touching the face frequently in
conversations, and many other visual signs.
Did you know that you can spot an insecure person from
across the room without every hearing a word they say?
At the same time, you can locate their insecurities very
clearly by listening to the words they say. How do I know
this? Well, for one thing, I studied body language in
college; but more importantly, I was filled with insecuri-
ties from head to toe. I have
been so eager to prepare
this teaching on insecurity
because of how God has
changed me so drastically.
Yes, I still battle with fears
and inferiorities from time to
time, but now I know how to
fight them head on. Rather
than bow down to those fears
and coward away from step-
ping out, I’ve learned how
to overcome them with the
Word of God.
I am so passionate about this
message, because I know
God had me prepare it. He
specifically said to me build
my girls up (and you too,
guys!). Basically, we have
been “down” for far too long!
It’s time to get built up –
spirit, soul and body. This
is your time to build your
confidence in who you are in
Christ like never before.
Let’s look at some behavioral signs of insecurity:
Defensiveness – She cannot be corrected without becom-
ing very defensive or on the opposite side, she will agree
with the correction to such a degree that she feel worth-
less and just wants to give up.
Make sure you take the
Insecure Test on page 12. Find out how you
rank and the ways you can improve your confidence!
6 Routine///SPRING/SUMMER_2011
Avoiding Silence – she fills every void
with meaningless talk. Silence usually
requires that we reflect on ourselves. Inse-
cure people want to avoid that at all times.
Critical – I have heard this described as
the “double put down”. Insecure people
either put themselves down hoping that
somebody will disagree with them and
build them up or they put someone else
down in an effort to make themselves look
better. When someone constantly makes
fun of other people, it’s a clear sign of
insecurity.
Rehashing Past Conversations – they
will rehearse their conversations with
people wondering what the other person
meant. They over analyze every word
spoken.
Fear of being alone and habitually letting
others “walk” on them are also some of
the behavioral signs of an insecure person.
Some of the relational signs of
insecurity:An inability to express emotions – for
some, it is a fear of rejection.
Overly Sexual – for women who are
severely insecure, they learn that they
can receive a lot of attention from men by
displaying their sexuality. They use their
sexuality as a validation of their worth.
Stays in an Abusive Relationship – in-
secure people tend to be attracted to each
other. In many cases, abusive men end up
with women who take the abuse.
Continued on pg. 9 »
8 Routine///SPRING/SUMMER_2011 TERRI.COM
1010Quick Tips to
Build Your
Confidence
#1. Stop speaking negatively about yourself.
#2. Compliment
Other People.
#3. Speak up.
#4. Change your appearance.
#5. Work out.
#6. Stand up straight.
#7. Look
people in the
eyes.
#8. Set goals for yourself.
#9. Help
someone else.
#10. Receive God’s love continually.
Irrational Jealousy – constant worry about being cheated
on, excessive questioning, etc.
Do you recognize any of these signs of insecurity in your
life or someone you know? There are many other signs
and signals that indicate insecurity; but you can overcome
this tactic of the enemy with the Word of God.
God addresses the issue of insecurity throughout His
Word. In Psalm 18 (Psalms Now) we read, “It is no wonder
that I love You, O God, You have granted me a security
that I could never find among the things of this world.”
God is the cure for the insecure! Insecurity is rooted in
fear. It is a fear that you’re not good enough. And Satan
is the one who operates through fear. God doesn’t. Yes,
there are many reasons why a person becomes insecure.
Whether it is from being put down, made fun of, abused,
rejected, betrayed or abandoned, a spirit of fear (timidity,
insecurity) can enter a person at a very young age.
People who are insecure expect to be cheated, rejected
and depreciated in life. Their view of themselves only
validates what later happens.
God’s Word tells us in 1 John 4:18 that “fear involves
torment.” It is tormenting to be insecure. It is torment-
ing to be afraid to step out into what God has for you. It’s
tormenting to feel that you may never get married. It’s tor-
menting to feel ugly, fat, worthless and insignificant. Satan
is the “tormentor”. You have to learn to torment him back.
1 John 4:18 also says, “. . . but perfect love casts out fear.”
Whose love? God’s love. His love for you will drive fear
right out of your life. The Message Bible states it this way,
“Well-formed love banishes fear.”
Building your confidence in who you are in Christ is an
inside job. God always works from the inside out. Filling
up with His love is the foundation in building security and
confidence.
“Your eternal love is beyond comprehension. No wonder
Your children constantly reach for it and find security
within it. Within that love, O Lord, You answer our needs
and fulfill our desires.” Psalm 36 (Psalms Now)
I want to build you up just like the Lord instructed me to
do. Why? Because I absolutely hate to see people falling
for Satan’s lies about them (the way I used to) rather than
trusting God’s truth about them. I hate to see people waste
their precious and valuable lives because of insecurity or
fear.
This is your time to be free – to go higher than you ever
have before in your relationship with God AND in your
calling.
I want you to confidently carry yourself with dignity,
honor and value – like the price Jesus paid for your life. I
want you to stand before God and say, “I did exactly what
you assigned me to do!”
Routine///SPRING/SUMMER_2011 9
WATCH: Terri’s 4-Part podcast on
Building Your Confidence
R
*at terri.com or youtube
On August 21, 2010 while prepar-
ing to minister in Jonesboro,
Arkansas, I was spending time in
prayer and God began to speak to
me about France. I got my pen
and hotel notepad out and started
writing as fast as I could. This is
what I heard:
“You will preach all over France.
I have called you for this as-
signment. You will travel from
city to city taking the Word and
investing it every where you go. Your
heart of giving will open their hearts up
to you. You have favor with the French.
They love you. They’ll sense your
prayers. Twenty cities, Terri. Count
them. Twenty cities will come together
and change the nation. I will show you
one-by-one the cities I have called you
to. You are a divine instrument through
which my love and favor will flow in a
mighty way. Your voice has called this
into being. Declare it, Terri. France
20/20. Do it. I will rapidly send the
twenty. I will rapidly send the wisdom,
the ideas, the resources, the favor, the
relationships. Obey, Terri. Just do it.
My vision for France is crying out. Go,
Terri, full speed ahead.”
This year, God has opened doors for us
to reach out to 2 new French cities in
2011: Vichy and Marseille.
The 2011 “To France with Love”
Tour will begin by minister-
ing in the city known for Per-
rier water, Vichy. It will be a first
to minister in this thriving church,
Rivivre Centre Chretien. We will travel south to one of the
largest cities in France, Marseille, to minister with Pastor Marie-
Helene Moulin who is a pioneer in this country of less than 2% Christian.
From Marseille, we will travel to the Riviera in the one of the most beauti-
ful resort “villes” in the Mediterranean, the city of Nice. We will teach and
distribute my books in French at youth meetings and church services each
day. From Nice, we travel North to the City of Lights, Paris. I will be joined
by a group of ladies for this experience of a lifetime.
“Icing: Paris” will take place at Hillsong Paris. French girls love the petite
gateaux (little cupcakes)! We have ladies meetings planned with Hillsong and
Paris Centre Chretien where thousands of women will be inspired to pursue
God’s plan for their lives. We will conclude the meeting venues at Hillsong’s
Sunday service and evening serving with Paris Centre Chretien. As we
distribute our French minibook, Vous Avez de la Valeur aux Yeux de Dieu,
(You’re Valuable to God) throughout the streets of Paris, we will reach our
goal of approximately 8,000 copies given away free of charge - thanks to the
amazing partners of Terri Savelle Foy Ministries! That represents at least
8,000 lives touched by the written word of God.
Mark 13:10 “And the gospel must first be published among all nations.”
We have recently translated My Personal Dreams and Goals workbook into
French and will have them from the printer in June! We also received con-
firmation that contracts have just been signed by our publisher to translate
Make Your Dreams Bigger Than Your Memories into French!
Partners and Friends, thank you for helping us take the Gospel message to France. To give a special donation, give online at terri.com and select the “France Outreach” option.
Merci
Beaucoup!
InsecureTEST
THE
Here are some nonverbal signs that reveal whether or not you’re insecure:
□ Limp, weak handshake
□ Weak, soft voice
□ Dropping head and looking down
□ Rigid, stooped posture
□ Folded arms, crossed legs
□ Clenching or wringing hands
□ Playing with hair constantly in conversations
□ Touching your face or covering it with your hands
□ Hiding your face underneath your hair
Here are some internal signals that reveal whether or not you’re insecure:
□ Extremely sensitive to others’ opinions
□ Self-consciousness about appearance or performance
□ Viewing people as competition
□ Habitually rehearsing past conversations or situations wondering what the other person thought about you.
□ A critical view of others - putting others down attempt-ing to make yourself feel better or putting yourself down hoping others will build you up.
□ Engaging in ‘clingy’ relationships (*insecurity is VERY unattractive! If you want to push your partner away, be clingy and insecure. Confidence is attractive!)
□ Inability to receive compliments
□ Demonstrating self-defeating behaviors behaviors (overeating, sleeping around, using drugs, self harm, etc... doing things you hate which only magnifies how bad you feel about yourself!)
□ Allowing people to use and abuse you
□ A fear of being intimate due to fear of trusting others or rejection.
□ Difficulty receiving God’s love.
□ Dependence on material possessions for security.
□ Inability to express emotions for fear of being vulner-able.
Psalm 23:
“The Lord is my constant companion. There is no
need that He cannot fulfill. Whether His course for me points to the mountaintops
of glorious joy or to the valleys of human suffering,
He is by my side.He is ever present with me.He is close beside me, when
I tread the dark streets of danger, even when I flirt with death itself, He will not leave me. When the pain is severe, He is near to comfort. When
the burden is heavy, He is there to lean upon.
When depression darkens my soul, He touches me
with eternal joy. When I feel empty and alone,
He fills the aching vacuum with His power. My security is in His promise to be near me always and in the knowledge that He will never let me go!”
Develop godly confidence and security by reading
what God says about you. The Bible is His ‘parents’ keepsake journal’ to you. Read it over and over and over until you believe it.
What you repeatedly hear, you will eventually believe. You can trust God’s Word.
He loves you.
WHAT DOES GOD’S
WORD SAY?
you can make a difference
Partnership enables each of us to do more than we could ever do on our own. Partners truly are the ones that make the ministry possible.
More than ever there is a need to help people,
especially woman, discover their true value
and purpose in life. If we don’t then many
lives will struggle with guilt, failures and mediocrity
while never reaching their God-given potential.
Terri is committed to share with anyone and
everyone what she has learned about breaking free from
the past, developing a vision for tomorrow and building
a strong personal relationship with God.
Together, we can do so much more than we can on
our own. That’s why we’re asking you to partner with us. Through partnership, you provide ministry to
people all over the world through our media outreaches,
help rescue young girls from human trafficking, support ministry work in France and more.
We have a special calling to help teenage girls
develop value, discipline and vision so they can live
a regret-free life. As a partner with Terri Savelle Foy
Ministries, you are aggressively taking a stand against
Satan’s attacks on our teenage girls.
We are investing the truth into the lives of young
women. At our Icing women’s events, each year we give
away thousands of life-changing resources for teenage
girls to take home. We also invest ministry books, CD’s
and financial support into girls’ homes and outreaches
committed to rescuing the 350,000 reported cases
of human trafficking in the U.S. All of this is possible
because of your partnership.
France is often thought of as a dream vacation des-
tination. However, spiritually, France is a nation in great
need of Jesus. A major ministry focus for Terri Savelle
Foy Ministries is to make an eternal impact in France.
Pakistan and Saudi Arabia have more Evangeli-
cal Christians per capita than France. Only 6%-8% of
France actively attends church. 80% of French people
have never owned or seen a Bible.
As a partner, you enable French-language re-
sources to be printed and distributed throughout France
and other French speaking countries and regions. You
also send Terri and a ministry team to France regularly
to share God’s love and truth to a nation in great need.
So, thank you for prayerfully considering partner-
ing with us to share the Good News of Jesus Christ and
teach people how to live out their God-given purpose.
become a partner today!
www.terri.com/partner
ship
14 Routine///SPRING/SUMMER_2011 TERRI.COM
LET GO OF YOUR PAST. CHANGE YOUR SELF-IMAGE.EMBRACE YOUR FUTURE WITH HOPE.
“You will be encouraged, inspired and motivated as you read this book.”
- JONI LAMB, Daystar Television Network
“I am excited to use this book in our Mercy programs as a weapon
against the enemy.” - NANCY ALCORN, Mercy Ministries
“This book will be a turning point for many hurting people.”
- WENDY TREAT, Christian Faith Center only
$15 U.S.$
Book 6025-BK
Order at our online store: www.terri.com