Protocol & Protocol & EtiquetteEtiquette

What Not To WearWhat Not To Wear

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What Not To Do!What Not To Do!

Etiquette Etiquette

What is it?What is it?

EtiquetteEtiquette is just the basics of is just the basics of kindness and politenesskindness and politeness

Good MannersGood MannersConsideration of OthersConsideration of OthersThoughtfulnessThoughtfulnessGeneral CourtesyGeneral Courtesy

When in doubt, do the kindest thing When in doubt, do the kindest thing possiblepossible

ProtocolProtocol

Protocol:Protocol: “A code of diplomatic or “A code of diplomatic or military etiquette or precedence”.military etiquette or precedence”.

More simply put it is understanding More simply put it is understanding the established official, diplomatic the established official, diplomatic code of ethics or behavior.code of ethics or behavior.

The term The term Service Etiquette or Service Etiquette or Military Etiquette is Military Etiquette is interchangeable with the term interchangeable with the term Protocol.Protocol.

FLAG ETIQUETTEFLAG ETIQUETTE Stand and salute or place your hand Stand and salute or place your hand

over your heart as the American Flag over your heart as the American Flag passes youpasses you

Hold it there until the last note of the Hold it there until the last note of the National Anthem is played or sungNational Anthem is played or sung

Be the example for those Be the example for those around you- they may not around you- they may not be aware of the properbe aware of the properway to show respect for way to show respect for our flagour flag

Stand for the flag or anthem Stand for the flag or anthem of other nations as wellof other nations as well

Respect for Rank or Respect for Rank or PositionPosition

At Ceremonies and formal programs At Ceremonies and formal programs Flag Flag Officers and often Captains as well as Officers and often Captains as well as guests of honor may be announcedguests of honor may be announced before before they enter after everyone else is seated. A they enter after everyone else is seated. A band may play “Ruffles and Flourishes” for band may play “Ruffles and Flourishes” for Flag Officers.Flag Officers.

At dinner functions military may seat their At dinner functions military may seat their spouse, but will stand by their chair for the spouse, but will stand by their chair for the ranking officer at the table to arrive, ranking officer at the table to arrive, waiting to be seated at their cue. waiting to be seated at their cue.

At a Ceremony, service members will be At a Ceremony, service members will be called to Attention to Orders or Attention to called to Attention to Orders or Attention to Award. Award. Service members will standService members will stand, , civilians remain seated unless asked to civilians remain seated unless asked to stand.stand.

Receiving LinesReceiving Lines Receiving Lines can be extremely formal or Receiving Lines can be extremely formal or

quite casual with little in between.quite casual with little in between. At a At a Formal eventFormal event state your name to each state your name to each

person in the line as you shake their hand. person in the line as you shake their hand. Speak only briefly to keep the line moving. Speak only briefly to keep the line moving. Follow the example of those in front of you.Follow the example of those in front of you.

At a At a Casual eventCasual event such as a CPO Pinning, such as a CPO Pinning, first the members of the Chiefs Mess, and first the members of the Chiefs Mess, and then the guests congratulate the new then the guests congratulate the new Chiefs. Guests at this event are usually Chiefs. Guests at this event are usually familiar with some of those in the receiving familiar with some of those in the receiving line and conversations should be kept brief, line and conversations should be kept brief, but are usually much more personal and but are usually much more personal and heartfelt than in a formal receiving line.heartfelt than in a formal receiving line.

IntroductionsIntroductions Always greet or speak to the Senior or elder Always greet or speak to the Senior or elder

person first. Introduce using rank or title. Use person first. Introduce using rank or title. Use Mr. or Mrs. for spouses unless invited to use Mr. or Mrs. for spouses unless invited to use first names.first names.

Rule of thumb is to introduce Junior to Senior, Rule of thumb is to introduce Junior to Senior, Non-Official to Official, colleague to customer Non-Official to Official, colleague to customer and younger to elder, introduce children before and younger to elder, introduce children before adults.adults.

Be prepared and comfortable introducing Be prepared and comfortable introducing yourself.yourself. Our spouses are often occupied Our spouses are often occupied behind the scenes or may be participating in behind the scenes or may be participating in the event. the event.

Have confidence when introducing yourself.Have confidence when introducing yourself. It is okay to tell someone “ It is nice to see you It is okay to tell someone “ It is nice to see you

again, I am so sorry I cannot recall your name”.again, I am so sorry I cannot recall your name”.

InvitationsInvitations ALWAYSALWAYS respond or RSVP within 48 respond or RSVP within 48

hours of receiving an invitation.hours of receiving an invitation. NEVER NEVER arrive early, bring uninvited arrive early, bring uninvited

guests, or children (unless specifically guests, or children (unless specifically invited).invited).

KNOWKNOW who the Host and Hostess are who the Host and Hostess are and their relationship to your spouse as and their relationship to your spouse as well as what type of event you are well as what type of event you are invited to.invited to.

If you have a dietary restriction or If you have a dietary restriction or allergy inquire and allergy inquire and inform the inform the Hostess Hostess when you acceptwhen you accept expressing the expressing the simplest of solutions.simplest of solutions.

Hostess GiftsHostess Gifts It is polite but not necessary to bring a It is polite but not necessary to bring a

small Hostess Gift if you desire ($10 to small Hostess Gift if you desire ($10 to $15 or less) to a non-official function held $15 or less) to a non-official function held in someone’s home.in someone’s home.

Avoid a gift that requires immediate Avoid a gift that requires immediate attention such as flowers as the hostess attention such as flowers as the hostess will be busy with guests. will be busy with guests.

Candles, a small plant, set of cocktail Candles, a small plant, set of cocktail

napkins, or something personally to her napkins, or something personally to her liking if you know the hostess well would liking if you know the hostess well would all be acceptable.all be acceptable.

Expressing ThanksExpressing Thanks

A hand writtenA hand written Thank You note is aThank You note is a MUSTMUST after attending a party or after attending a party or gathering in some ones home. An gathering in some ones home. An email will NOT doemail will NOT do..

Write a thank you within 24 hours Write a thank you within 24 hours while memory of the event is fresh.while memory of the event is fresh.

Mention something specific so they Mention something specific so they know you enjoyed yourself and it is know you enjoyed yourself and it is not generic.not generic.

NEVERNEVER pre write a thank you and pre write a thank you and leave it for the hostess to find.leave it for the hostess to find.

Traditional Social EventsTraditional Social Events

Khaki Ball-Khaki Ball- within 2 weeks after Pinning within 2 weeks after Pinning Navy Ball-Navy Ball- some time near October 13 some time near October 13thth

CPO Birthday Ball-CPO Birthday Ball- near April 1 near April 1stst

Dining Out-Dining Out- upon planning by the Mess upon planning by the Mess Spouses IncludedSpouses Included

Dining In-Dining In- upon planning by the Mess upon planning by the Mess Active Duty OnlyActive Duty Only

Community Balls-Community Balls- planned by planned by associationsassociations Submarine, Surface, Aviation, SeaBee, Submarine, Surface, Aviation, SeaBee,

Supply Corps, etc..Supply Corps, etc..

Interpreting InvitationsInterpreting Invitations FormalFormal White TieWhite Tie Black tieBlack tie Semi-FormalSemi-Formal OfficialOfficial BusinessBusiness Business CasualBusiness Casual InformalInformal CasualCasual Open CollarOpen Collar Very CasualVery Casual

Anyone been to Anyone been to Hawaii??Hawaii??

Aloha RoyalAloha Royal Aloha Aloha Aloha CrispAloha Crisp Luau on the BeachLuau on the Beach Resort CasualResort Casual Tropical AttireTropical Attire

HELPHELP What will What will

I wearI wear!!

From THE NAVY WIFEFrom THE NAVY WIFEcopyright copyright 19491949

““Then, too, there will come a day when Then, too, there will come a day when you get lonesome, blue, and homesick. you get lonesome, blue, and homesick. Buying a frivolous new hat does wonders Buying a frivolous new hat does wonders for the feminine morale on such an for the feminine morale on such an occasion. Try it and see for yourself!”occasion. Try it and see for yourself!”

Dressing to the UniformDressing to the Uniform If it is a uniformed function, no matter If it is a uniformed function, no matter

what phrase is on the invitation you must what phrase is on the invitation you must determine:determine: What Uniform will your spouse wear?What Uniform will your spouse wear? What type of event are you attending?What type of event are you attending?

Your choice of outfit should match the Your choice of outfit should match the level of formality of the Uniform your level of formality of the Uniform your spouse will wear or the role they have at spouse will wear or the role they have at the event.the event.

To “Dress to the Uniform” is to align what To “Dress to the Uniform” is to align what you wear to the importance of the event you wear to the importance of the event and the level of formality of the uniform and the level of formality of the uniform your spouse will wear.your spouse will wear.

Formal Social OccasionFormal Social OccasionDinner Dress Blue JacketDinner Dress Blue Jacket

Navy Navy BallBall

Formal Military Formal Military BallsBalls Military Wedding PartyMilitary Wedding Party Social Social

BallsBalls

Formal Social Occasion Formal Social Occasion Dinner Dress White JacketDinner Dress White Jacket

Navy Navy BallBall Military Wedding PartyMilitary Wedding Party Social BallSocial Ball

Formal Formal Military BallMilitary Ball

Formal Social OccasionFormal Social OccasionDinner Dress Blue Dinner Dress Blue

Navy BallNavy Ball Formal Military BallFormal Military Ball

Military Wedding PartyMilitary Wedding Party Social BallSocial Ball

WHAT NOT TO WEAR!WHAT NOT TO WEAR!

Formal CeremonialFormal CeremonialFull Dress BlueFull Dress Blue

Change of Change of CommandCommand CommissioniCommissioni

ngng

InauguratInaugurationion

ChristeninChristeningg DecommissioDecommissioningning

ParadesParades

Business/Official MeetingBusiness/Official MeetingService Dress WhiteService Dress White

Dinner Dinner MeetingMeeting Guest Guest

SpeakingSpeaking

RetiremRetirementent Navy League Navy League

LuncheonLuncheon

PromotionPromotion FuneralFuneral WeddingWedding

Business/Official Meeting Business/Official Meeting or Socialor Social

Summer WhiteSummer White

PromotioPromotionsns Socials - RetirementsSocials - Retirements ReceptionsReceptions Ombudsman AppreciationOmbudsman Appreciation

Luncheons- DinnersLuncheons- Dinners Weddings- FuneralsWeddings- Funerals

Informal or CasualInformal or CasualService KhakiService Khaki

OmbudsmanOmbudsman AssemblyAssembly

Casual Business LunchCasual Business Lunch

Khaki BallKhaki Ball

CPO PinningCPO Pinning

Khaki BallKhaki Ball

Khaki BallKhaki Ball

ONLYONLY ONLYONLY

Casual AttireCasual Attire

WHAT NOT TO WEAR!WHAT NOT TO WEAR!

Very Casual- Picnic or Very Casual- Picnic or BBQBBQ

What Will I Wear?What Will I Wear?

Remember...Remember...

DRESS TO THE DRESS TO THE UNIFORMUNIFORM

……It is easier than you thinkIt is easier than you think