post-divorce daily life of parents: a comparison between single mothers and co-parents
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Post-divorce daily life of parents: a comparison between single mothers and co-parents. Wilma Bakker and Lia Karsten University of Amsterdam. Introduction. Daily life has become more complicated Balancing act of dual earners extensively studied Previous research: Consequences of divorce on: - PowerPoint PPT PresentationTRANSCRIPT
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Post-divorce daily life of parents: a comparison between single mothers and co-parents
Wilma Bakker and Lia KarstenUniversity of Amsterdam
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Introduction
Daily life has become more complicated
Balancing act of dual earners extensively studied
Previous research: Consequences of divorce on:
children’s well-being the parent-child relationship single mothers economic circumstances
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Research question
How do single mothers and co-parentsshape and coordinate post-divorce life, withwhat result and how to explain thedifferences?
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Post-divorce living arrangements
Arrangement with a single mother (75%): children stay 2 to 6 nights a month with their
father
Co-parenting arrangement (15%):children stay at least 12 nights a month with
each parent
The living arrangement gives shape to a major part of daily life of the divorced family
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Theory: shaping post-divorce life
Life-course approach (Giddens,1991):
People are actively involved in shaping their own life
People have multiple social identities
In face of their identities people develop commitments
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Theory: shaping post-divorce life
Commitment:Life choice with long-term consequences
Shaping daily life can be seen as a trade-offbetween commitments
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Theory: coordinating everyday life
Coordinating everyday life is about balancing all responsibilities and activities
An absolute distinction between the work, care and leisure domain does not exist
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The more responsibilities have to be combined in the same time, the more constraints will be experienced
source: Karsten, 1995
Figure 1. Three overlapping life domains
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Methods
Qualitative data:
18 individual in-depth interviews with survey-respondents of the Netherlands Kinship Panel Study (NKPS)
8 co-parents (3 men & 5 women), 10 single mothers
Semi-structured, 60-100 minutes
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Results: post-divorce daily life
• Cyclical element of the post-divorce living arrangement shapes everyday life
• Cyclical element based on the commuting rhythm
• Days with the children & days without the children
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Results: post-divorce daily life
Example of a two-weekly cycle of a single mother:
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Results: post-divorce daily life
Examples of two-weekly cycles of co-parents:
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Responsibilities:
in the care domain in the work domain
Support of others is necessary:
child care support financial support
Results: daily life of single mothers
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“I don’t know how I would have survived without my parents. Formal childcare was not an option. I could not afford it.
I work 22 hours a week, in the care sector and my wage is low. So one day I said to my ex-partner: ‘You have to give us more alimony or you have to take care of the children more often, because I don’t know how to fix this anymore’.
But of course he did not listen”.
(Daphne, a single mother with two teenaged children).
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Results: daily life of single mothers
Constraints:
Impossible to be there for the children as much as they want to
Feel obliged to be available for the children during work time
Only personal leisure time when the children stay with their father
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“Last year I realized that I had to work more hours to improve our financial situation. So I had to work four days a week.
I said to my daughter: ‘This implies that you have to be on your own for a few hours after school on a daily basis’.
Of course she did not like that, neither did I.”
(Maria, single mother with an 11-year-old daughter)
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Results: daily life of single mothers
Constraints:
Impossible to be there for the children as much as they want to
Feel obliged to be available for the children during work time
Only personal leisure time when the children stay with their father
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“When something unexpected happens I have to be at home or at school really fast.
Recently one of my children was injured during gym class. I was present in a few minutes.
My colleagues know I’m a single mom and that I do not have a back up at home.”
(Karin, single mother with three sons)
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Results: daily life of single mothers
Constraints:
Impossible to be there for the children as much as they want to
Feel obliged to be available for the children during work time
Only personal leisure time when the children stay with their father
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“Every day which I am not working, every holiday, I spent with my children. Sometimes they are sick, sometimes we go on holiday, we are going out, or we have to see the dentist.
All my personal free time is about the children. Except for the weekends the children stay with their father.
(Beth, single mother with two daughters)
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Results: daily life of co-parents
Responsibilities:
- in the work domain- in the care domain
Two-weakly cycle:
One week they can be there for the children as much as they want to
The other week is dedicated to work and personal leisure time
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“When the children stay with me I work less hours and I also stay home in the evening.
Of course I could arrange a babysitter. But the other week, when the children stay with their mom, I can do all the things I want. So when they stay with me I want to be there, exclusively for my children.”
(Frank, a co-parent with four sons)
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“It’s a whole different world. It is quite schizophrenic; one half of the week I am head of a one-parent family. The other half of the week I am a single man.
That is a big difference. Both situations can not be compared to a normal nuclear family.”
(Jack, a co-parent with a son and a daughter)
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Main conclusionBeside the traditional group of single mothers,
who experience a lot of constraints in combining work, care and leisure in daily life, there is a growing group of co-parents, who better succeed in balancing daily life
In a co-parenting arrangement half of the time a boundary exists, both in space and time, between the parent and his or her children