perfect ties family is the first school of formation each of us goes through, whether we like it or...
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PERFECT TIES
Family is the FIRST school of formation each of us goes
through, whether we like it or not.
The school where we learn how to behave loveget angry and how to communicate.
Our family is our social laboratory
where all our emotions are displayed.
A GENOGRAM isa format for drawing a family
treethat records information
about family members and their relationshipsover at least 3 generations.
A GENOGRAM isan instrument to know more
about the family through
The use of a diagramShowing the different feelings of the members of the familyand how they are related
What things in the FAMILY are looked into:
Action: ways of facing or avoiding experiences
Emotional: unresolved grief, experiences that
brought great pain
Beliefs: rules in the family, rituals, family secrets, etc.
What need to be discovered:
Personal issuesSystems of relationship
PERSONAL ISSUESa. “Wounds”/delicate pasts/aspect of
personhood1. weakness2. failures3. experiences that brought great pain4. unresolved issues: grief, loss, acceptance,
identity5. lack of knowledge: relationships, child-
rearing, vulnerability/openness
b. Issues that are reasons non-acceptance
or denial1. denial and wrong opinions2. unresolved conflicts –loss,
anger,resentment
c. Strengths learned1. feelings2. understanding3. ways of facing or avoiding
situations4. facing crisis situations5. ability to solve problems
Systems of relationshipsa. being near or far intimacy or distance
family togetherness or separationb. hierarchy of power dominance or subservience
traditional or acceptance of modernity
c. repeated ways of acting/relating triangulating ways of acting from negative feelings: anger, sadness, rebellion, avoidance of
responsibility, using forbidden drugs, drunkenness, gambling,
illness due to emotional reasons, lack of discipline in studies.
d. Family beliefs1. rules2. rituals and traditions3. fantasy: anito/alamat a. what are they? Why do they stay? b. What is right and what is wrong?4. issues of faith and religious beliefs5. how we live our faith in God: belief
of the role of God in our life, way of
looking at suffering, etc.
DIAGRAMS USED IN MAKINGA GENOGRAM
A GENOGRAMdisplays family information
graphically providing a quick gestalt of complex family
patterns and a rich source of hypotheses how a problem
maybe connected to the family
context
A GENOGRAM helps us see:StructuralRelational and Functional information about a family –
viewed horizontally and vertically
A GENOGRAM helps us scanthe current family context to see theconnectednes of the immediate playersin the family drama of each other,as well as the broader system,and to evaluate the family’s strengthsand vulnerabilities in relation to the over-all situation.