parenting in the 21 st century; the roles and responsibilities of parents
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Parenting in the 21 st century; the roles and responsibilities of parents. By Shakirah Olajobi PGD (Guidance and counselling ), M.Ed (Educational Psychology) CEO, Brainy Educare Services, Lagos. Definitions; What is Parenting What is effective parenting? - PowerPoint PPT PresentationTRANSCRIPT
Parenting in the 21st century; the roles and
responsibilities of parents.By
Shakirah OlajobiPGD (Guidance and counselling), M.Ed (Educational
Psychology)CEO, Brainy Educare Services, Lagos
Outline of presentation
Definitions; What is Parenting What is effective parenting? What is peculiar to the 21st century?
Parenting The transitions Parenting styles Basic Elements The endangered species? The game plan Lets be the change that we seek
Chat House
The life of a young elephant
It is trainable
It has been primed
It never crosses its mind to make another attempt
What is parenting?
Parenting is the process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social
and intellectual development of a child from infancy to adulthood.
Features:
Full time jobNo formal trainingNo vacation or breaksNo one-method solves it allNo preparation!
b
Parenting can sometimes be like being lost and alone in the desert
Effective Parenting
A style of raising children that increases the chances of a child becoming the most capable person and adult he or she can be.
The 21st century challenge
The transitions
Adult
Child
2
Why are they peculiar?
They have conflicts in their head.
They are egocentric and feel they can handle any situation.
They always feel attacked especially by their parents comment
They believe their parents have suddenly become old fashioned
They believe so much in their peers and believe that adults don’t
understand them
They want financial freedom
They feel over-protected and therefore wants less restrictions from their
parents.
They gravitate toward the very things you fear and dislike
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They want their privacy and enjoy being on their own, especially when at
home.
They begin to pull away from you, their life style suddenly changes and they
develop ‘attitude’; they question your authority
They may become disrespectful and unruly
They pick up funny and sometimes unhealthy habits
They want to explore very dangerous grounds without giving a thought for the
consequence
They want to start relationships with the opposite sex.
They want to choose their meals or they want to eat incessantly
They become overly concerned about their appearance
Years of Crises
Physical Changes
Emotional changes
Intellectual changes
Psychological changes
HORMONES
There is therefore a need for self identification
?
Parenting styles
Authoritarian ParentsAuthoritative Parents
Permissive ParentsNonchalant Parents
Basic Elements
Unconditional LoveCommunication
Discipline
The endangered specie?
Being Africans;◦Our past can’t help but hunt us◦With new challenges, should come new
strategies.
Being 21st century Muslims;◦Breeding confident children requires going the
extra mile.◦We need to provide exciting alternatives for our
kids.
Just like the young elephant.
GAME PLAN ICatch them young………
Moving parent-teenager relationship to the next level
THE GAME PLAN II Now that they are already grown……
Trust
Compromise
Persuasion
Lets be the change that we seek
Seek help as soon as possible; don’t wait to have big crisis in your hands.
Co-operate with your spouse
Join a parent group or support group where you can share ideas and rub minds on becoming even more effective.
Parting words
“We put so much effort into leaving a better world for our
children that we forget to leave better children for this world”
-anonymous
Jazakumllahu Khairan!
Thank you for listening;Parents are the greatest of
teachers.