Frequently heard statements by teens:

1. No one in my house has gone to college. I would be crazy to think that I could.2. My parents and I will never get along. We are too different.3. Being smart is a white thing.4. My teacher hates me and is out to get me.5. She’s so pretty. I bet she’s a jerk.6. You cannot get ahead in life if you don’t know the right people.7. Me? Thin? Impossible. My whole family is fat.8. It is impossible to get a good job as a teenager1. What is a paradigm?

a. The way that you see something, your point of view or frame of referenceb. Our paradigms are often way off the mark and limit usc. Often, what we see is what we get-self fulfilling prophecy

2. Are your paradigms helping or hurting you?3. Paradigms of others

a. Troubles at home create personality changesb. Insecurity comes off as standoffishnessc. How to deal with a new kid

4. Paradigms of lifea. Friend centered

i. They change, move, are fakeb. Stuff centered-things or accomplishments with titles

i. Hard to make real connections with othersc. Boyfriend or Girlfriend centered-

i. The more this happens the less attractive you are to this persond. School centered-

i. So focused on grades or achievement that you take no joy in childhoode. Parent centered

i. Living only to please your parents is not healthyf. Sports-centered

i. Impacts college, social life, what about injuriesg. Enemy centered

i. Prevents you from really enjoying the great parts of your lifeh. Hero centered

i. So wrapped up in worshipping someone else, their problems become yoursi. Work centered

i. So much time is devoted to work that you sacrifice fun and free timej. Self-centered

i. So worried about yourself that you are clueless about the world around you5. Principle Centered living

a. Honesty, love, hard work, service, gratitude, moderation, fairness, integrity, loyalty, responsibilityb. Principles will never failc. Principles will make you more successful with the other center issuesd. Success in life and leadership comes from principal centered living