2015

John A. Foley

OnlineDatingTriumph.com

6/20/2015

MEN’S ONLINE DATING

GUIDE

Discover my proven highly effective

format that you should follow when

writing her a message for the first

time

Get up to 1200% more responses with these message techniques

Secrets of successful profile that gets attention from every girl

Horrible first messages you’ll stop using immediately after you read this

Conversation techniques that will keep her interested as long as you want

Discover how you can get at least 2 dates a week

CONTENTS

FACE YOUR REALITY ................................................................................................................................ 3

PROFILE ......................................................................................................................................................... 3

PROFILE HEADER .................................................................................................................................. 3

PROFILE PHOTOS .................................................................................................................................. 3

PERSONALITY ......................................................................................................................................... 4

INTERESTS ............................................................................................................................................... 4

APPROACHING WOMEN .......................................................................................................................... 5

NEVER SEND THESE TEXT ................................................................................................................. 7

CONVERSATION .......................................................................................................................................... 7

LIVE DATE ..................................................................................................................................................... 8

THANK YOU .................................................................................................................................................. 9

FACE YOUR REALITY

Girls look at photos

Well, before starting, I won't promise you will get the best looking women on the internet. I won't promise you will date the first woman you'll chat with. But I promise you, that YOU WILL get many replies, phone numbers and dates, if you follow these simple instructions which lead to up to 1200% more responses from girls – this is my estimate which I calculated when started to message girls the right way.

Asses yourself

You can get a lot of pretty girls, 10 starred, but it's more difficult than accepting your reality and go for a girl which you can get tomorrow or next week. Always aim for girls that have approximately the same visual appearance or just slightly better than yours. It’s the key to get a girl fast! It's easier and it's fair!

Of course it is possible to stunning girls even if you’re not that attractive, but it’s harder, because it requires higher level of self-confidence. Note: You can get good looking girls easier if they lack confidence, but that is another topic, maybe I'll tell you something about that later on...

PROFILE

New profiles get much, much more attention. Because Badoo and other dating websites like new users to stay on their website once they registered, they show your profile to much more girls at the beginning. Do you have an older, outdated profile? Well, register a new one and follow the steps for creating your profile in this tutorial.

PROFILE HEADER

It’s really necessary to avoid boring and general profile headers like: “I am the one you are looking for!” or “I’am honest and modest“ or “I’m just a normal guy”.

Entertaining Profile Headlines that make women click you

You can return me in 15 days if not satisfied!

Only you can save me from from going to speed dating!

Willing to share my couch!

Add to cart – your order will be dispatched immediately!

More fun than your ex boyfriend!

PROFILE PHOTOS

Basic NO rules:

no ugly face distortions

no blurred photos

no large distance photos of you

no sad photos

no untidy hair

no photos with other people on it, especially your mom

DO RULES

get dressed well for photos

take photos with at least a decent camera or phone

take photos at good light conditions

some handsome close up photos of you smiling a little - it shows your positive and happy

take a photo of you from near distance so your figure can be seen

Take a lot of photos and choose 3 best

PERSONALITY

Be honest, but not boring and don't show desperation.

Don't choose just:

romantic

understanding

helpful

honest

modest - left this out completely, women like men with balls, who get what they want (woman, money, ...)

agreeable

Chose more interesting, fun:

ambitious

determined

realistic

fun

decisive

Women don't want a pussy, they want a man

INTERESTS

Choose your best interests. There s nothing wrong if you're into gaming or computer programming, just as long this isn't your only hobby or profession. Think well and choose more. Like hanging out with friends, reading books (nice girls appreciate this), reading magazines, sunbathing, swimming, watching animal planet, national geographic,

documentary movies,... Pick something that doctors, lawyers or athletes would choose (you may have many things in common).

Maybe tell a funny story about dating, or about a hobby or interest of yours. Avoid the tired old stereotypes of putting things like "not into head games", or "looking for someone honest". 75% of all profiles on the internet have these phrases in them and it becomes very boring very fast. Make up something creative and unique that inspires an emotional reaction, like laughter, and it will stand out amongst the crowd. If you succeed in triggering someone's emotions right off the bat, you will get noticed.

Don't choose too many boring ones! Long walks, walks in the park, romantic dinners, writing romantic poems, talking about love,

Never forget to add a sport or two – if you do it.

APPROACHING WOMEN

You may be limited to text if you don't pay subscription but even that will be enough.

Perhaps the most difficult part is getting that initial response. It is important to hedge your bet by sending out plenty of messages, but don't spread yourself too thin. It is important to put something meaningful and personal in the message you are sending.

Form letters are a big turn-off. 99% of the messagess are:

1) You are so hot 2) Hey you ok? 3) hey / a princess / super sexy / etc or 4) Hi.

The other one percent are almost as lame "Would you like to talk?", "How is your day?", etc. They all scream, "Could I be any less original or any less interesting." Of the 1000+ messages girls get , 95% are the same. You have to have a game! The best openers aren’t from copy and paste. They’re tailored to a girl’s profile and her personality. You can learn a lot from reading, you know? So, imagine a hot girl receiving tons of lame "hi" and "you're sexy" and all of a sudden something interesting appears? You will do super well just by bringing any sort of game to the table.

From start on you should go to find women nearby. As you know, nearly 99% of women don't reply to stupid pickup lines. You can improve that many many times. The key is to write to women one by another. Go to Nearby women / women you like and see photos. If you find one you could match with (face your reality) just write her! Immediately. But not with stupid openers. Then close her profile and go to the next one. Repeat process. Write to as many girls as you can.

Don't skip offline girls. If you pay a little subscription you can write to as many women as you like, at once. Some will answer shortly, some in a day or two, but you'll get responses! Some will never text back no matter how good looking you are or what pickup line you have chosen. But with this system you'll get so many responses in a day and a lot of potential dates! And there are millions more women online, a lot of them right in your neighborhood.

Try saying something in response to one of the comments in her profile, but don't waste too much time writing long winded messages on first contact. Also, don't waste your time reading her whole profile. Skim it quickly, in just a few seconds, and pick out anything that obviously stands out to work with in your initial message. Ideally, the shorter the initial message the better, but make sure whatever you write is intriguing enough that she will want to hear more. Messages like "hi, how's it going?" sometimes work, but if you say something more to the effect of "your picture reminds me of olden days, do you like dancing by any chance?" is way better. The best initial message is one which refers to something she specifically mentions in her profile. For instance, if she talks about liking dogs, ask her what her favorite kind of dog is. Or if she says she likes camping, say something like "you should hear about this one time I was camping and I forgot the tent!" If you put in a reference that alludes to a longer, more interesting story that will get her interested and wanting to read more. This is much like how newspaper journalists write a "hook" in the first couple sentences of a story. Make sure that whatever you write is truthful. Liars are always found out sooner or later and that will be the end of you right then and there. Also, if you can throw in a question, which will give her an obvious starting point for a reply, so much the better. Some women are stupid and uncreative and can't figure out how to respond to open-ended messages. Always provide some direction for a response. Sending messages without a leading question will definitely lower your conversion rate.

Don’t ask her difficult stuff… If she has to think too hard about her answer, she won’t remember, attraction isn’t logical. This means that if she’s thinking, she isn’t feeling attraction. In addition to being easy, the question must also be entertaining. Get her emotions stimulated. Ask her about the kinds of things that touch women on an emotional level. For instance, boring old interview questions don’t stimulate her emotions. Ask about drama, conspiracy, and adventure… these subjects engage her emotions and allow attraction to build.

You can say something like:

“I noticed that, like me, you also have an expensive addiction to travel. So tell me…if someone offered you an all-expense paid trip to anywhere in the world leaving tomorrow, where would you head?”

Or:

“So you mention that your friends say you’re outgoing, kind and open-minded… that’s great. But, really, what I want to know is…what would your enemies say?”

See the elements of drama, conspiracy and adventure in these? An attractive woman will

feel compelled to respond, because you’ve lead her to a place she can’t resist.

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NEVER SEND THESE TEXT

1) how’s you day going? 2) What u up 2? 3) Hope you got home safe” 4) hey 5) How are you? 6) Want to talk? 7) …similar

CONVERSATION

The next step is to get a witty banter going. After her first reply you should read her profile more thoroughly. Based upon what she wrote in her profile and her initial response, you should pick up on what some of her interests are and ask about those. It is important for her to think you respect her on an intellectual and emotional level as a person, so at no point should you talk openly about anything sexual at this point. Here is where you can write a more lengthy response because you have captured her interest enough for her to make that initial connection with you. The same principles apply as with the first message. Humour is good, sex talk bad. Follow these guidelines, have a little patience, and online dating success will be yours. A good rule of thumb is, don't say anything to a person online that you wouldn't say in person, or that might get you slapped. Just because you're sitting in front of a computer screen does not mean there is not a real person out there who you are communicating with. It is just as real as if you were sitting in the room together talking.

After about half a dozen or so fairly lengthy messages back and forth, she should be feeling comfortable enough to make the next step with you. This is usually talking on the phone. Try to make a set day and time when one of you will call the other so that you will both be expecting it. Talk to her on the phone for a little while first to get comfortable at this next level. Again - ABSOLUTELY NO SEX TALK!!! I cannot stress this enough guys. Don't even hint at it as most of you aren't near clever enough to be able to pull it off and you will just end up creeping her out and lose any chance for a date and sex later on. Oh and for crying out loud, PLEASE, do not EVER send pictures of your wang!

Talk to her like she's a long lost friend who you are catching up with after several years. Women like to be treated as if they are your friend, and will feel that it shows respect

towards them and will respect you for it in return. During the conversation, test her resolve by hinting at that you might like to go out sometime. Say something like "so what are you up to later this week?". If she hesitates or says something to shut you down like "oh I'm busy", you've probably blown it, so give up while you are ahead. Tell her that you should probably be going now and to have a nice day. If she isn't totally creped out by you yet, this will at least demonstrate to her that you aren't a crazy stalker freak, and it will give her time to calm down and think that maybe she overreacted and should give you a second chance. Wait for a few days and if she doesn't send you a message, test the waters by sending her an email asking how it's going. If she doesn't respond, then scratch her off the list of potentials. If she does, then you can try again starting from that point forward and trying again on the phone, but ask first before calling her again. It is always important to keep messaging several different women at once so that when one flakes out on you like this, you have several alternatives and don't have to become desperate or weird and stalker-like. Women like a guy who is aloof enough to not talk to them for a few days and then sends them a message indicating that she hasn't been forgotten.

LIVE DATE

Women Like a Man Who Makes Decisions

Pursuing her means showing her you can handle coming up with a plan to take her out, and can show her a good time. Say something like, "I'd love to take you out on Saturday for a drink or dinner at this great place (insert name of place here) I know downtown. How does around 6pm sound?"

She'll take your decisiveness as a sign that you can think for yourself, that you're not a mama's boy always looking for a woman to plan or do everything for you, and that you're interested enough to set a specific time to put her on your calendar.

When you finally do go out, keep it simple. Go out for coffee, a drink, dinner maybe. If you aren't much of a conversationalist try a movie or mini-putt or something distracting so that you won't feel the pressure to keep talking all the time. Once you've been out once or twice, you can step up the romance a notch by going for a walk in the park, or to a scenic spot in the area.

THANK YOU

I am sure you’ve found something useful in this e-book. I’ve written it honestly and realistic. For more articles and special stuff visit my website http://onlinedatingtriumph.com. If you have any questions or would like to criticize or compliment my e-book, please email me to john@onlinedatingtriumph.com.

I’ve written this eBook based on my experience in online dating at Badoo. But this guide will work on any online dating websites, where you can message girls.

I’ve chosen Badoo because it’s free to use as long as you don’t need extra features, which are also very cheap. They have a lot of girls online and almost none fake profiles.

If you aren’t a member yet, you can read a review here.

Thank you

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DISCLAIMER:

I CAN NOT GUARANTEE THAT THIS SYSTEM WILL WORK FOR EVERYONE BECAUSE I DON’T KNOW IF YOU WILL DO EXACTLY WHAT I SAY IN THIS BOOK. ALSO I CAN’T INFLUENCE ON YOUR DESIRE TO ACHIEVE YOUR GOALS. MANY FAIL BECAUSE THEY GET BORED OR DON’T FOLLOW INSTRUCTIONS. AS AN AUTHOR OF THIS EBOOK I MAY EARN SOME MONEY BY PROMOTING OFFERS TO YOU AND I FEEL I EARN IT, IF I CAN HELP YOU TO BE SUCCESSFUL IN ONLINE DATING. ADVICE IN THIS GUIDE AND MY WEBSITE ARE ENOUGH TO BE SUCCESSFUL IN ONLINE DATING.