Online Dating: Is it better?

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“An extraordinary number of people spend an extraordinary amount of time online connecting with other people.” - Hara Estroff Marano, Cyberspace: Love Online

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In the US, 40 million people use online dating sites.

- Reuters, Herald News, PC World, Washington Post

• Love?

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20 million Use eHarmony

Reuters, Herald News, PC World, Washington Post

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Match.com has

15millionmembers!

-Reuters, Herald News, PC World, Washington Post

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52.4% of participants are men.47.6% of participants are women.

- Reuters, Herald News, PC World, Washington Post

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In the US, the average online dating participant paid

$239a year! -Reuters, Herald News, PC World, Washington Post

How do you know which online dating site is right for

you?

• eHarmony• Christian Mingle• Match.com• How about we• OKCupid• Plenty of Fish

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“Match.com and E-Harmony are for people who are looking to get hitched…”

“… J-Date is the site you sign up for to appease your Bubbe.”

-Stephanie Georgopolis, Dating online: How do you choose which site is for you?

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Do Relation ships Last Longer when the couple

meets online?

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The average length of a relationship that begins from and online dating

site is 18.5 months.

The average length of a relationship

that did not begin on an online dating site is 42 months.

-Reuters, Herald News, PC World, Washington Post

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‘Historically, commitment has

been the goal. You could say online dating is simply

changing people’s ideas about whether

commitment is desirable.’

- Greg Blatt, How online dating is killing commitment: Millions of women think love is just a click away. But easy-come, easy-go internet romance can ruin your chance of a lasting relationship

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“While cyber relationships can be more sincere and open than offline relationships, they also leave a great deal of room for deception.” - Hara Estroff Marano

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do you know what’s real?

“80% of online daters lie about their height, weight or age.The older you are, though, the less likely you are to fib.”- University of Wisconsin-Madison and Cornell University

“50% were untruthful about their heights in their online profiles.”- University of Wisconsin-Madison and Cornell University

“Nearly one-third of men in the BeautifulPeople.com study admitted to lying about their age, compared to just 17% of women.” – Women's Day

“42% of men in the BeautifulPeople.com survey admitted to lying about some aspect of their job.” - Women’s Day

“Photographs were identified as the single most deceptive element of the person’s profile.” - Dr. Toma, Women’s Day

HOW,

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"Online dating is great. It allows people access to potential partners, they otherwise would not have."

- Eli J. Finkel, Ph.D.

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Now that love is just one click away, Is it better than dating the old fashioned way?

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“Wheaton College media ecologist Read Schuchardt is concerned about the implicit messages that

dating sites send, especially those like eHarmony that claim to find your “ideal match.” These sites

feed the illusion, Schuchardt said, “that the perfect one is ‘out there’ and all you have to do is find them through this fine-toothed comb called online dating.

The reality is just the opposite — no matter who you find, it will take a lifetime of sacrifice and

accommodation to learn how to tolerate living with the other while they attempt to learn how to

tolerate living with you.”- Read Mercer Schuchardt, Online dating has gone mainstream – is that a good thing?

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The researchers say, “one of the weaknesses of online dating is an over reliance on ‘profiles,’Although most dating websites feature photos and detailed, searchable profiles covering everything

from personality traits to likes and dislikes, this information isn't necessarily useful in identifying a partner.”

-Finkel and his coauthors, Psychologists highlight pitfalls of online dating

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“Some services, such as eHarmony and PerfectMatch.com, claim to minimize the guesswork involved in online dating by using mathematical algorithms to match couples according to various traits…”

"Not only is there no scientific evidence, despite the claims, but my team of co-authors have become pessimistic that there could ever be in principle an algorithm that could match people well based on the approaches these sites take.” - Finkle: Psychologists highlight pitfalls of online dating

-Psychologists highlight pitfalls of online dating

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