nÚcleo pensamento & ação coaching and conviviality arline davis pathways to the future...

Coaching and Conviviality

NÚCLEOPensamento & Ação

Coaching and

Conviviality

Arline Davis

Pathways to the Future Congress

August 2008



Conviviality isAn approach to life’s

relationships



I am a mobile linkWe are organisms that actively move in the landscape and connect habitats in space and time. We provide cross-pollination, seed dispersal, and pest control. Biologists say we are essential components in the dynamics of ecosystem development and ecosystem resilience. Bindegliedarten



Thought to ActionCoaching Cycle©

© NÚCLEO Pensamento & Ação

(Evaluation)

(New Cycle)

Evaluation

Foundations

FormulationImplementation

Transformation

Consolidation



The Wheel of Life – Resourceful Relationships

Enviroment & Personal Organization

Finances

Health & Well being

Career

Relationships

Personal development

Spirituality

Leisure



Otherness

What is Otherness? It is the capability of recognizing the other as a legitimate other, in his completeness, his dignity, his rights, and above all, his differences.



Otherness

The existence of the “individual I” is only allowed by contact with the “other”

Or, as Gregory Bateson put it, “It takes two to know one”.



Where and When?Rio de Janeiro, 2002



Who?

Mostly engineers and therapists

Ivan Illich

Martin Buber

Maturana e Varela



R.E.D.E.

The Network for Education, Gifts and Expression

3rd sector



For Whom?



Cultural Creatives



The relationship of “I” with “Other” (people, society, nature, the market place, our planet) can take on different forms depending on the perspective of “I”.

“Other”

“I”



“I” the agent and the “other” as the object.

There is a separation of the “I” that stands before the “other”. This can be healthy.

Land based tribe – tree as a canoe or wood for the fire, White Elk as the warrior

Sunset as beautiful sight – “Look at that beautiful sunset.”



And there is also a oneness: in seeing the other , we can see ourselves.

If not, we stop being human beings and start becoming just strategy machines for the use and the consumption of others.



The relationship of “I”-“other” is a duality, separation and wholeness alternate all the time.

Conviviality is exactly that – a healthy alternation.



In a convival relationship, the Other is seen as an equal, stablishing a sense of respect, openess and

caring.

Conviviality is becoming present to the other – in all meanings that this word allows.



However, there is a risk of forgetting little by little that we belong to the whole. Without balance from wholeness, separation degrades to utilitarism.

In an utilitarian relationship, the I subordinates the Other to his interests and personal goals. The other is reduced to an object, an instrument; control prevails.



“Instrumentalization”



The other as a legitimate other



Conviviality is an attitude

Not allowing the other to be reduced to an object or instrument to fulfill self interests

Being present for the other

Of recognizing oneself in the other

So that through indentification comes respect, openess and care



Our ConvivialityStories



Recognize and affirm that:

Limitations, contradictions and incoherence are inherent to the human condition and are part of the process of development.

Cooperation is human nature

Life is self-organizing

Conviviality Principles



Conviviality Practices

Sharing of information and knowledge results in the well-being of all

We will freely and fully share the Conviviality principles and information pertaining to Mission and Principles.



Dimensions of Conviviality

I

Myself

Other

Marketplace

Society

Nature

Spirit



How do you get there?

By living it and practicing it.



Conviviality Practices We intend to:

Practice Conviviality

Practice a permanent ethical reflexion

Practice and promote volunteerism

Respect, value and preserve human individuality

Invest in the potential of newness which resides in diversity



Conviviality Practices

We intend to:

Strive to preserve the interdependent diversity of individuals, communities, institutions and culture

Endorse people’s autonomy and initiative

Solve conflicts by creativity and cooperation, without resorting to any form of violence, whether that be psychological, economical, social ou physical



Dialogue – David Bohm

Free flow of meaning within the group

Wisdom comes when we can sit down together and discuss our differences without having to do anything about it.

Gregory Bateson



Tonight is a good night to dance.



What the hummingbird taught the researcher.

Augusto Ruschi



Coaching andConviviality

Thank you!

[email protected]

nÚcleo pensamento & ação coaching and conviviality arline davis pathways to the future...

Documents