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    ST. LOUIS, MO PERMIT #3659

    ST. LOUIS CHAPTER BEREAVED PARENTS U.S.A. P.O. BOX 410350 ST. LOUIS, MO 63141 RETURN SERVICE REQUESTED POSTMASTER: Dated Material Contained within… please do not delay!

    “Candlelight 09” ..................... 1 & 2 Angel of Hope ............................... 3 Margaret’s Corner ......................... 4 St. Louis Bulletin Board ................ 5 “Thankful?” .................................... 6 Sponsorship Page Sean Anderson .... 7 Love Gifts .............................. 8 & 9 “We are Only Human”.................... 10 Sibling Page ................................ 11 Telephone Friends & Calendar .... 12 Toddler & Infant ........................ 13 “For the New Year” ........................ 14 Meeting Times and Places .......... 15

    November • December 2009 November • December 2009

    Bereaved ParentsUSA St. Louis Chapter Newsletter

    or our affluence is or what faith we uphold as we confront the tragedies of our children’s deaths. Together, strengthened by the bonds we forge at our gatherings, we offer what we have learned to each other and to every more recently bereaved family. We are the Bereaved Parents of the USA. We welcome you.

    We are the parents whose children have died. We are the grandparents who have buried grandchildren. We are the siblings whose brothers and sisters no longer walk with us through life. We come together as BP/USA to provide a haven where all bereaved families can meet and share our grief journeys. We attend monthly gatherings whenever we can and for as long as we believe necessary. We share our fears, confusions, anger, guilt, frustrations, emptiness and feelings of hopelessness so that hope can be found anew. As we accept, support, comfort and encourage each other, we demonstrate to each other that survival is possible. Together we celebrate the lives of our children, share the joys and triumphs as well as the love that will never fade. Together we learn how little it matters where we live, what our color

    Bereaved Parents of the USA Credo

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    Amy Camie December 1, 2009

    Shaare Emeth Congregation

    11645 Ladue (Ballas & Ladue)

    St Louis, MO 63141

    Candlelight —Sharon Krejci,

    Every year in early December, our St. Louis Chapter holds a Candlelight Memorial Service to honor and remember our children who have died. The service itself includes music, poetry, and special words of understanding and hope. The highlight for most of us is that moment in the service when we see our child’s picture, hear our child’s name read aloud, and light a candle in their memory. Is it difficult? Yes – it can be. But it is a beautiful tribute to our children as well as a healing and peaceful experience for those that attend. The Candlelight is a ‘no miss’ in my life. Each year, I begin my holiday season by lighting a candle for Andrew and remembering how he is still (and always will be) a part of my life. If you have any questions, please call me at 636-532-0033 or the Bereaved Parent. Please leave a message, your call will be returned.

    In Memory of our Children

    Service starts promptly at 7:30 pm Registration from 6:45-7:15 pm

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    Meeting T imes & Places ARNOLD-IMPERIAL

    Please see So. County Fenton Group

    BOWLING GREEN (3rd Thursday, 7-9 PM)

    Prairie Edge Garden Center, 18011 Business 161 S. Bowling Green, MO 63334 Fac: Cindy Morris (636)462-9961

    Bowling Green’s SIBLING GROUP (Meet time same as Bowling Green)

    Fac: Wendy Koch (573)822-6123

    TROY, MO Group (2nd Tuesday, 7 PM)

    Ingersoll Chapel in Troy Fac: Cindy Morris (636)462–9961

    Troy’s SIBLING GROUP (Meets same time as Troy)

    ST. PETERS (1st Thursday, 7:00 PM)

    Knights of Columbus Hall 5701 Hwy N, Cottleville MO Fac: Cindy Morris (636)462-9961 Greg Klocke 636-441-5304

    St. Peters’ SIBLING GROUP (Meets same time as St Peters)

    Tri-County Chapter (2nd Thursday)

    First Baptist Church 402 North Missouri St Potosi, MO 63664 Fac: Brenda Wilson (573)438-4559

    JEFFERSON COUNTY, SOUTH (1st Thursday, 7 PM)

    St Rose Catholic Church, Miller & 3rd St Desoto, MO Facs: Ginny Kamp (636)586-8559 Co: Debbie Larson

    Meeting T imes & Places BPUSA St L Chapter's Business Meeting: Nov. 14 Facilitators Meet: Dec. 12 Saturdays @ 9:00 AM

    Creve Coeur Gov’t Center Room #1

    300 N. New Ballas Road All interested in how our chapter operates are welcome. Questions?

    Call: Sharon Krejci (636) 532-0033

    Newsletter Submissions: Cut off date for JAN • FEB issue is DEC 20th

    Send your submission to: Jamie Ryan

    6309 Washington Ave St. Louis, MO 63130

    Include a self addressed stamped envelope, please make checks payable to BPUSA Thankyou!


    SOUTH COUNTY Fenton (2nd & 4th Monday, 7 PM)

    Abiding Savior Lutheran Church 4355 Butler Hill Rd. St. Louis, Mo 63128 Fac: Kathy Myers (636)343-5262 Co: Darla McGuire (636)671-0916

    WASHINGTON MO Group (3rd Tues, 7 PM every other Month) First Baptist Church (use East door) 11E. 14th St. Washington, MO Fac: Betty Werner (636)3904422

    NORTH COUNTY Group (3rd Saturday, 9:30 AM)

    Coldwell Baker Gundaker Bldg (rear) 2402 North Hwy 67 Fac: Pat Ryan (314)605–3949

    Volunteer interpreter for hearing impaired, call ahead!

    WEST COUNTY Group (4th Tues, 7 PM)

    Shaare Emeth Congregation, 11645 Ladue (Ballas & Ladue) MO 63141 Fac: Judy Ruby (314)994–1996

    Parents of Murdered Children: Meetings: 3rd Tues 7:30 p.m.

    St Alexius Hospital 3933 S Broadway

    Mata Weber (618) 972-0429 Butch Hartmann (314) 487-8989 LIFE CRISIS CENTER: (Survivors of Suicide)

    2650 Olive St, St. Louis, MO 63103 Meetings: Weds 7:00 p.m. (314) 647-3100

    P.A.L.S. (Parents affected by the loss of a child by suicide) Meetings: 2nd Tues 7:00 p.m. 4th Sat at 10:30 a.m. St Lukes Hospital (141 & 40) St. Louis, MO (314) 853-7925

    A Candlelight Service In Memory of Our Children...

    Tuesday, December 1, 2009 Service starts promptly at 7:30 pm

    Registration from 6:45-7:15 pm NEW Location

    Congregation Shaare Emeth 11645 Ladue Road

    (corner of Ballas & Ladue) St. Louis, MO

    Please RSVP by November 16, 2009

    This evening is dedicated to the memory of our children who have died, but will never be forgotten. Come hear your child’s name and share in the

    words of hope and beautiful songs dedicated to our children.

    Slideshow Information

    Along with your RSVP, please send a picture of your child, with a self addressed return envelope for the slide presentation. If you choose not to participate in the slide presentation, your child’s name will still be read. There is no need to send a picture if you sent one last year. Your RSVP will ensure that your child will be included in the

    slide presentation.

    Candlelight 2009

    Donations to Support

    BP USA are Welcomed

    with Registration

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    You, your family & friends are invited...

    Angel of Hope December 6, 2009

    7:00 pm. Located at Blanchette Park,

    St. Charles, MO. Take Highway 70 West to North 5th Street;

    make a left on Randolph to Blanchette Park.

    It is customary to bring a white rose and a candle.

    For further Angel of

    Hope information

    contact: National SHARE

    office St. Joseph Health Center

    1-800-821-6819 or visit,


    Angel_of_ Hope.htm

    —Mary Ehmann, TCF, Valley Forge, PA

    Instead of the old kind of New Year’s resolutions we used to make and break, let’s make some this year and really try to keep them:

    Try not to imagine the future. Take one day at a time.

    Allow yourself time to cry, both alone and with your loved ones.

    Don’t shut out other family members from your thoughts and feelings. Share these difficult times. You may all become closer for it.

    Try to be realistic about your expectations of yourself, your spouse, other family members, and friends. If each of us is unique and different, how can there be perfect understanding?

    When a good day comes, relish it. Don’t feel guilty and don’t be discouraged because it doesn’t last.

    Take care of your health. Even though the mind might not care, a sick body will only compound your troubles. Drink lots of water, take vitamins, rest (even if you don’t sleep), and get moderate exercise. Help your body to heal, as well as your mind.

    Share your feelings with other compassionate friends, and let them share with you. You will find that as you begin caring about the pain of others, you will start to come out of your shell - a very healthy sign.

    I know that following these resolutions won’t be easy, but w


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