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MYCHILD
IS MISSING
Internet Resources for Wisconsin
A Guide to Finding Your Missing Child Using the Technology at Your Fingertips
Documented and Prepared by Patty & Bob Begin
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It is important to note, if you are using this as an e-book, all underlined words are links for websites. Emailing and accessing websites is much faster if you are using this booklet on disk or
online. All web & email addresses were valid addresses at time of printing.
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Table of Contents
Foreword pg 4
Acknowledgements pg 5
Introduction pg 6
Causes and Warning Signs pg 7
Prevention pg 8
Before your Child Becomes Missing pg 9
The Goal is to BE PREPARED pg 10
The Situation: Your Child is Missing pg 11
Recommendations for an Area Search pg 15
The Effects pg 16
Police Departments of Wisconsin pg 17
Wisconsin Media pg 47
Shelters for Adolescents in Wisconsin pg 50
Mass Transit Lines of Wisconsin pg 52
The Recovery pg 56
The Aftermath pg 57
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Foreword
On January 23, 2003, our daughter (and another female patient) escaped from a locked psychiatric hospital. With help from police, family, friends, media, missing children organizations, and strangers we spent three long weeks distributing more than 15,000 flyers, and promoting media attention to “get their faces out there.” The hard work and dedication of so many brought a happy ending to our ordeal. It is our hope that no family ever needs to live the nightmare we endured. This is not the end however. We are currently living through the aftermath and taking notes as we go. Supports need to be put in place. That’s our next goal. This handbook is for the others that will someday unfortunately be walking the path we just left.
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Acknowledgements
Finding our daughter and creating this booklet would not have been achievable without the help of so many individuals and organizations. We owe a debt of gratitude to so many; it is not possible to include every name. But those who stand out in the crowd are our families, who supported us throughout the ordeal; most especially Nikki and Joe, Chris and Lois, Maureen and Gil who drove hundreds of miles in the search.
Andrea Watson from Parents for Residential Reform, without whose help we would never have been able to generate the media attention, not to mention handling the barrage of media in the aftermath. Cheryl Nardelli logged hundreds of hours on the Internet; what a “surfer.” We thank Trooper Keith Pantazelos of the Massachusetts State Police for his dedication to the case and understanding of family commitment. The hundreds of people who helped distribute flyers.
Our thanks to those who prayed then and still pray today for our family. Our gratitude to the people we met along the way during our search. They showed us that there is so much goodness in people and that they really do care. We give thanks to God for you and for all those who touched our life during this most frightening three weeks.
But most especially we owe our thanks to the alert individual who did exactly what we wanted. She saw the flyer, recognized the missing girls, notified the police, and essentially saved the life of our child.
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Introduction
There are four different situations under which missing children fall. They are lost, abducted, throwaways or have runaway. This book deals with runaways but some of its resources are applicable in all situations. One in seven children runaway; 75% are girls. The average age is 14-18 y/o, some as young as age ten.
The Biggest mistake that we as parents/ guardians can possibly make is to think for one second that, “this won’t happen to my family.” The second biggest mistake is to not be prepared for such a potential tragedy.
Most runaways are from ordinary, average middle class families. However, every family is at risk, no matter what monetary class you may fit into.
Once any child runs away, chances are they WILL fall victim to drug and alcohol abuse and exploitation. They fall victim to these life-threatening situations through the people they meet. Be very aware that there are people out there very willing to exploit and expose ANY child they feel or know is a runaway to drugs, alcohol, and sexual exploitation.
Because runaways need money to support new habits, the exploitation and prostitution option can easily overtake them. If the child is unfortunate enough to be recruited by a pimp it may not be possible for them to escape alive.
Some children will end up coming home on their own, but some do not and remain on the streets. Of these some do survive but tragically some are killed; others die from drugs, or disease. Be very aware there is a market for your child. Yes, it is unpleasant to think about, but there are many people just waiting for your child to “come to market.”
Special Note: Any child with special needs is at an increased risk of falling prey to these people and situations. They may not
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be able to make sound safe choices about the people they meet or to safely control situations to which they are exposed.
Major Causes, Warning Signs
Causes or “Why Would My Child Run?”
• To avoid an emotional situation• To escape from an unpleasant or difficult time• To escape the loss of privileges• To be with people they “think” are supportive• To get away from problems they feel they can’t cope with• Feelings of being a burden on the family• Has peers that have run away• Wants to help a peer who wants to run
Note: This list is not complete. Many more issues from low self-esteem to abuse are some additional causes
Warning Signs
• A word of caution if your child has a network of unsupervised peers with access to drugs or antisocial tendencies. Know your child’s friends.
• Increase in irrational behavior, impulsivity, emotionally abusive, threatens to run.
• Take notice if any of your child’s peers have run away previously
• High sustained anxiety level
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• Watch for radical changes in your child’s attitude, and peer groups• Threatens to runaway; this is no joke, take it very seriously
Prevention
• Never call your child names• Be honest. Do you understand what he/she is feeling? If not,
ask him/her to explain• It is important you understand your child, and okay if you
don’t agree• Keep the lines of communication open• Really listen to what your teen is saying• If you get overwhelmed during an argument tell your teen that
you need time to get yourself together• When your teen isn’t talking, ask him/her, “Do you feel you
need to tell me anything else?”• Even when your teen starts raising his/her voice, don’t raise
yours, and stay calm (This takes lots of practice and patience).• Never interrupt your teen when he/she is talking or trying to
explain his/her feelings (again, easier said than done).• Invest in a computer-monitoring program and tell your teen
he/she will be monitored for their safety.• Know who, what, where, and when. It’s not just for drugs. And
check out all the facts. Be vigilant in attaining this information, check in on them where ever they say they are
• Talk to all your teens peers and their parents• Know your child. Is he/she a leader or a follower
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Before your Child Becomes Missing
Yes. Your Search starts BEFORE your child is missing!
• The following information helped us so much to expedite the creation of flyers in order to get our child’s face “out there.” A few things we had to learn as we went. A major slow up was getting copies of her school picture. Since it is copyrighted, an official camera store would not let us make copies of the picture. This is vital to a case of missing child. We were lucky that a friend worked at a store where they have a Photo Maker. We pled our case and they let us make the copies. We made eight copies, which is plenty. Had we known this would be a problem, we would have already had a scanned picture of her on our computer.• If you don’t have a computer, get one and learn how to use it now. Make sure your computer has Internet capability and make sure you know how to fax and send emails with an attachment.• Own a digital camera with the ability to view and print pictures from your computer. Know how to use it before you ever have an emergency. Take pictures of your child regularly, to have them on hand in the event of an emergency.• A computer scanner is handy, each year after you get your child’s school photo, scan it into your computer, and then delete last year’s picture. This is vital. Missing child organizations say the best photo to use is a school photo.
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• If you already have a computer and your child uses it to access the Internet, a monitoring program is absolutely vital. We use a program called Big Brother; it records ALL activity on your computer. Warn your child that you are monitoring the use of the computer. Print out and save any disturbing actions in a locked file or safe, especially ALL phone numbers and addresses.
The Goal is to BE PREPARED
Have a recent photo of your child (preferably already on your computer) and prepare a missing persons flyer in .pdf format (cannot be altered and e-mail’s faster). Include height, weight, hair and eye color, clothes wearing when last seen, where last seen, any identifying features (glasses, braces, birthmarks, etc.)
Know all your child’s friends’ addresses phone numbers and screen names.
Know who, what, where, when and how. It isn’t only about drugs it’s about YOUR child and their safety.
Who are they with What are they doing exactly Where are they going When will they return home How can you get in touch with them at a moments notice Watch for changes in peer groups Know your child’s tendencies Enroll your child in the CHIP program. To learn more
contact the Safety Officer at your local police department or go to the following website: http://www.mychip.org. This is a program run by the Masons and it is free and helpful. This program is mostly for children who get lost, but it could also aid in identifying your child if the worst situation presented itself.
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The Situation: Your Child is MissingFirst Contacts
State Police Barracks covering the town from where your child is missing
The detective unit of your town police. They can be very helpful. They can help sift through any papers, notes, or phone numbers your child may have left behind.
http://www.missingkids.org Center for Missing & Exploited Children 1-800-690-FIND
http://www.operationlookout.org Operation Lookout –Missing children organization
The above contacts will instruct you on the next steps they will take. Your next step is to physically get your flyers out as fast as possible. As in advertising, you need to get your child’s face out to the public. The more flyers you distribute, the more your child’s face will be seen. All it takes is one flyer for your child to be spotted. But which flyer is it? Is it the one you haven’t yet printed? We contacted our church and friends and enlisted more than 100 people to flood a target area with the flyers.
Make a flyer in .pdf (cannot be altered) format. An excellent flyer making tool can be found at http://www.beyondmissing.com/parentflyer1.shtml Your .pdf format flyer should be faxed or emailed to the above and the following organizations found throughout this booklet. Email to your friends and ask them to forward it. Include a cover letter explaining the seriousness of the situation, what you are requesting of them. Make sure you include the police contact person with their phone number. DO NOT put your own phone number on the flyer.
Contact the newspaper and television stations in your area. Enlist them to get your child’s face “out there” as much as possible. Call them every other day to continue their efforts.
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http://search.officer.com/agencysearch/default.htm This is a search site for law enforcement agencies for the United States by state and also worldwide.
http://www.missourimissing.org/ Will post your flyer to their web-site and can offer support.
mailto:[email protected] Salvation Army- Northeast Division (or whichever division area you want to cover). They can e-mail your flyer to all their locations and their email list server
Mass Transit Police, all area bus and train terminals. www.fourthekids.org Help for families of missing children www.kidzidz.com Child safety information Fax/ email all your friends and instruct them to forward it on to
as many people and businesses possible. Many companies will get involved making copies and putting flyers out on their own.
http://map.exxonstations.com/ (Be patient, takes time to load) If you have a friend with computer expertise set him or her to work from this site. With a few keystrokes, one can locate & e-mail Exxon & Mobil gas stations throughout the United States. Most of these gas stations have convenience stores; a prime location to post flyers. Attach a cover letter. Include dates, names, and police contacts for verification. Ask the location operator to keep an eye out for your child, post the flyer, or even better, show the flyer to their customers. The cover letter should come from the parents of the missing child with the flyer as an attachment. Do not give out your home number. Stress the gravity of the situation. All missing children cases are serious, whether they ran or were abducted. Once your child is “out there” the probability of abduction is high.
Commissioner of the Department of Education in target state(s). This is vital. They can forward your cover letter & flyer to every school superintendent in your target state. Have them send the letter with the flyer to the school principals to get to the teachers. Situation can be explained to students who may see your child. Kids often meet up with mainstream kids and form friendships. State Superintendent of Public Instruction Tony Evers Department of Public Instruction, 125 S. Webster Street,
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P.O. Box 7841, Madison, WI 53707-7841 Phone: (800) 441-4563
Target large chain stores & mall security. Call their human resources director for assistance. They will often forward your flyer to all their stores. These are only some of the major malls in Missouri
Wisconsin Shopping Malls
Wisconsin Shopping Malls Centers Outlet Mall Suppliers shops stores retailers
This is NOT a complete listing! Web Site Fox River Mall Appleton (920) 739-4100
Web Site Brookfield Square Brookfield http://www.shopbrookfieldsquaremall.com/shop/brookfield.nsf/contact
Web Site Oakwood Mall Eau Claire 715-836-0101
Web Site Southridge Mall Greendale http://www.simon.com/mall/guestservices.aspx?id=1247 Web Site Southport Plaza Shopping center Kenosha Phone: (262) 942-9800 Fax: 262-942-7023 E-Mail: [email protected]
Web Site East Town Mall Madison
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http://www.shopeasttowne-mall.com/shop/easttowne.nsf/contact Web Site Hilldale Mall Madison (608) 238.6640 Web Site West Towne Mall Madison http://www.shopwesttowne-mall.com/shop/westtowne.nsf/contact Web Site Grand Avenue Mall Milwaukee 414.224.0655
Web Site Regency Mall Racine http://www.shopregency-mall.com/shop/regency.nsf/contact
Web Site Mayfair Mall Wauwatosa (414) 771-1300
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Recommendations for an Area Search• Get a map of the area• Search the area, start at the last known location and post flyers in
stores• Expand your search in ever widening circles• Contact bordering States immediately i.e.… State police, etc.• Identify actions your child may take, such as
- Will they hitch hike - Color their hair- Do they favor certain stores- Anything that distinguishes your child
• Bring your flyer to as many copy stores as possible. Most will make multiple free copies in this instance.
• Malls are a very likely location where your child may be. It’s warm, dry, with lots of other teens. Email your flyer to the security office all malls in your target area• Locate all transportation services in the area to include taxi services, water shuttles, bus lines, train lines, etc Get e-mail address or fax number and send copy of flyer with letter.• Locate and retain all police e-mail addresses and fax numbers. This can be done through a search on computer. Very time consuming, but very important piece. Enlist friends.• Prepare a press release to be e-mailed to all TV networks• Locate all newspaper telephone numbers to their City Desk, or News Desk Depts.
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• Locate all teen shelters in the area and ask for their fax numbers. Fax your flyer • Call all your friends to enlist their help in distributing flyers either by hand, e-mail, or fax
• Keep a pad of paper by every phone and with you at all times
The Effects
The sudden disappearance of any child for any reason is a loss with far ranging effects. It affects the entire family, immediate and extended. No one in the family is spared. But it does not end there. Your child’s peers, their families, teachers, etc. are all affected. The list goes on. The feelings can range from anxiety, fear, sadness, anger, guilt. You need support wherever you can find it; your church, friends, whatever works for you at the time. We can only tell you from our experience that your feelings can overtake you at any time. Sometimes the emotions will be manageable, other times they will be beyond control. Sleepless nights, loss of appetite, and other symptoms will compound the difficulty. You can only try as best you can to stay healthy and focused. Your child will need your support when they are recovered.
This is the hardest part. Not knowing what is happening to your child. There may be times when there are many leads, then periods where there are no leads for days (or even weeks). It is imperative to push the media for continued coverage to keep your child’s face in the public eye. Your child needs you to stay strong and to fight for their return.
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Police Departments of Wisconsin
Town Phone Fax E-MailAbbotsford (715) 223-
2313Adams (608) 339-
6839(608) 339-8170
Albany (608) 862-3255
Algoma* (920)487-3311
(920)487-2996
Alma (608) 685-4577
Alma Center* (715) 964-7211
AlmenaAltoona (715) 839-
6090Amery* (715) 268-
Antigo (715) 627-6411
Appleton* (920) 832-5500
Arcadia (608) 323-3359
Arena* (608) 753-2297
(608) 753-2266
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Argyle (608) 543-9360
(608) 543-3895
Ashland* (715) 682-7062
Ashwaubenon* 920) 492-2995
(920) 492-2986
Athens (715) 257-7611
Augusta (715) 286-2252
Avoca (608) 532-6383
Baldwin (715) 684-3856
Balsam Lake* (715) 485-3544
Bangor (715) 485-9522
Baraboo* (608) 355-2720
Barneveld (608) 924-6861
Barron (715) 537-3101
Bayfield (715) 779-5097
Belleville (608) 424-3129
Belmont (608) 762-5326
Berlin (920) 361-2121
Big Bend* (262) 662-3782
Birchwood (715) 354-3444
Birnamwood (715) 449-3141
Black Creek (920) 984-3550
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Black River Falls
(715) 284-9155
Blair (608) 989-2517
Blanchardville*
(608) 523-4320
608-523-4321
Bloomer (715) 568-5924
Bloomfield,Town*
(262) 279-3454
Blue Mounds (608) 437-5197
Bonduel (715) 526-3111
Boscobel (608) 375-4122
Boulder Junction
(715) 892-4926
(715) 385-9129
Boyceville (715) 643-2215
Boyd (715) 667-3577
Brandon (920) 346-5555
Brillion* (920) 756-2221
(920) 756-9129
Brodhead (608) 897-2112
Brooklyn (608) 455-4201
Brown Deer (414) 371-2900
Brownsville (920) 583-4087
Burlington, City*
(262) 342-1100
Burlington,Town*
(262) 763-7539
Butler (262) 781-2431
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Cadott (715) 289-4238
(715) 289-4799
Caledonia (262) 835-4423
Cambria (920) 348-5088
Cambridge (608) 423-4328
Cameron (715) 458-2117
Camp Douglas (608) 427-3111
Campbell (608) 783-1050
Campbellsport (920) 533-5391
Cascade (920) 459-3112
Cashton (608) 654-7828
Cassville (608) 725-5229
Cedarburg* (262) 375-7620
262-375-7624
Centuria (715) 646-2666
Chaseburg (608) 483-2510
Chetek (715) 924-3686
Chilton (920) 849-4855
Chippewa Falls*
(715) 723-4424
Clayton (715) 948-2121
Clear Lake (715) 263-2156
Cleveland (920) 693-3442
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Clinton (608) 676-5140
Clintonville (715) 823-3117
Clyman (920) 696-3883
Coleman (414) 897-4400
Colfax (715) 962-3136
Coloma (715) 228-5431
Columbus (920) 623-5919
Combined Locks
(920) 731-6321
Coon Valley (608) 452-3888
Cornell (715) 239-3707
Cottage Grove (608) 839-4652
Crandon (715) 478-1000
(715) 478-3814
Crivitz (715) 854-7667
Cross Plains (608) 798-4100
Cuba City (608) 798-4100
Cudahy (414) 769-2260
(414) 769-2259
Cumberland (715) 822-2754
Dane (608) 849-5422
Darlington* (608) 776-4980
608-776-4974
De Pere (920) 339-4078
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Deforest (608) 846-6756
Delafield (262) 646-6240
Delavan, Town*
(262) 728-8787
Denmark (920) 863-2126
(920) 863-5169
Dickeyville (608) 568-7284
Dodgeville (608) 935-3238
Dorchester (715) 654-5234
Dousman (262) 965-4262
Dresser (715) 755-2941
Durand* (715) 672-5948
Eagle* (262) 594-2400
Eagle River* (715) 479-4343
(715) 477-2733
http://www.eagleriverpolice.org/id7.html
East Troy (Village of)
(262) 642-6250
(262) 642-6266
Eau Claire* (715) 839-4972
(715) 838-2674
Edgar (715) 352-2891
Edgerton (608) 884-3321
(608) 884-7997
Eleva (715) 287-4682
Elk Mound* (715) 879-4411
Elkhart Lake* (920) 876-2244
(920) 876-2795
Elkhorn (262) 723-2210
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Ellsworth (715) 273-3275
Elm Grove (262) 786-4141
Elmwood (Village of)*
(715) 639-3121
(715) 639-2031
Elroy* (608) 462-2424
(608) 462-2426
Endeavor (608) 587-2476
Ettrick (608) 525-5445
Evansville (608) 882-2292
Everest Metropolitan*
(715) 359-4202
(715) 359-4204
Fairchild (715) 334-6571
Fall Creek (715) 877-3231
Fall River (920) 484-3707
Fennimore (608) 822-3215
Ferryville (608) 734-9000
Fitchburg (608) 270-4300
Fond Du Lac* (920) 322-3700
(920) 322-3701
Fontana* (262) 275-2275
(262) 275-3855
Fort Atkinson* (920) 563-7777
Fountain City* (608) 687-4214
(608) 687-7481
Fox Point (414) 351-8911
Fox Valley Metro*
920-788-75 920-788-7385
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Franklin* (414) 425-2522
Frederic (715) 327-8851
Fredonia (262) 692-9125
Freedom* (920) 788-0902
(920) 788-7550
Fremont* (920) 446-2299
mailto:[email protected]
Galesville (608)582-4013
Genoa City* (262)279-6252
Germantown* (262)253-7780
(262)253-7787
Gillett (920)855-2125
Gilman (715)447-5700
Glenbeulah (920)459-3112
Glendale (414)228-1753
Glenwood City (715)265-4228
(715)265-7389
Grafton (262)375-5320
Granton (715)238-7481
Grantsburg (715)463-2405
Green Bay* (920)448-3200
Green Lake (920)294-6333
Greendale (414)423-2121
Greenfield (414)761-5300
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Greenwood (715)267-6215
Hales Corners* (414)529-6140
414-529-6142
Hammond (715)796-2345
Hartford* (262)673-8273
(262)673-8302
Hartland (262)367-2323
Hayward (715)634-8961
Hazel Green (608)854-2951
Highland (608)929-4848
Hillsboro (608)489-2800
Holmen (608)526-4212
Horicon (920)485-3555
Hortonville (920)779-6165
Hudson (715)386-4771
Hurley (715)561-3544
Hustisford (920)349-3122
Independence (715)985-3055
Iola (715)445-4353
Iron Ridge (920)387-3300
Iron River (715)372-4285
Jackson* (262)677-4949
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Janesville* (608)755-3100
(608)755-3004
Jefferson (920)674-7707
Johnson Creek*
(920)699-2111
(920)699-2110
Juneau (920)386-4810
Kaukauna (920)766-6333
Kendall (608)463-7124
Kenosha* (262)605-5202
Kewaskum* (262)626-2323
(262)626-4909
Kewaunee (920)388-5010
Kiel* (920)894-2211
Kohler (920)459-3877
Kronenwetter* (715)693-4215
(715)693-4228
La Crosse* (608)785-5962
(608)789-7250
La Farge (608)625-4500
La Pointe (715)747-6913
La Valle (608)985-7695
Ladysmith (715)532-2186
Lake Delton* (608)254-7571
(608)254-4651
Lake Geneva (262)248-4455
(262)248-4809
Lake Hallie, Village of*
(715)726-2666
(715)726-2667
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Lake Mills* (920)648-2354
(920)648-5214
Lake Nebagamon
(715)374-3366
Lancaster* (608)723-4188
Lannon (262)251-4930
Laona (715)674-4009
Lena (920)829-5950
(920)829-5746
Linden (608)833-2526
Livingston (608)943-6800
Lodi (608)592-5401
Lomira (920)269-4900
Lone Rock* (608)647-2106
Lowell (920)927-5797
Loyal (715)255-8986
Luck (715)472-2221
Luxemburg (920)845-5381
Lyndon Station (608)666-2500
(608)666-2644
Manawa* (920)596-3390
(920)596-3081
Manitowish Waters
(715)543-2825
Manitowoc (920)686-6573
Marathon (715)443-2470
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Marinette (715)732-5200
Markesan (920)398-2121
Marshall (608)655-3533
Marshfield* (715)384-0800
(715)384-0823
Mattoon (715)489-3633
Mauston (608)847-6363
Mayville (920)387-7903
McFarland (608)838-3151
(608)838-7954
Medford* (715)748-1447
Mellen (715)274-5141
Melrose, Village*
(715)284-5357
(608)488-3191
Menomonee Falls*
(262)532-8700
(262)532-8769
Menomonie* (715)232-2198
715-232-1579
Mequon (262)242-3500
Merrill (715)536-2311
Merrillan (715)333-2332
Middleton (608)827-1000
Milltown (715)825-3500
Milton (608)868-6910
Milwaukee* (414)933-4444
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Mineral Point (608)987-2313
Minocqua (715)356-3234
Minong (715)466-2266
Mishicot (920)755-2525
Mondovi (715)926-4423
Monfort (608)943-6917
Monona (608)222-0463
Monroe (608)325-4122
Monticello (608)938-4320
Mosinee (715)693-2000
Mount Horeb (608)437-5522
Mt Pleasant* (262)884-0454
Mukwonago (City of)*
(262)363-6434
(262)363-6438
Mukwonago (Town of)*
(262)363-5188
Muscoda (608)739-3144
Muskego (262)679-4130
Nashotah (262)367-8440
Necedah* (608)565-2405
(608)565-4563
Neenah (920)751-4677
Neillsville* (715)743-3122
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Nekoosa (715)886-7890
Neosho (920)625-3284
Neshkoro (920)293-4410
New Auburn (715)237-3200
New Berlin* (262)782-6640
New Glarus* (608)527-2145
(608)527-2062
New Holstein* (920)898-4241
New Lisbon (608)562-3333
New London (920)982-8505
New Richmond
(715)246-6667
Niagara (715)251-3121
North Prairie (262)392-2229
Norway, Town*
(262)895-2195
Oak Creek* (414)762-8200
Oakfield (920)517-1570
Oconomowoc (262)567-4401
Oconto (920)834-7700
Oconto Falls (920)846-4500
Ogdensburg* (920)244-7000
(920)244-7926
Omro (920)685-7007
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Onalaska* (608)781-9550
(608)781-9556
Oneida (920)869-2239
(920)869-1864
http://www.oneidanation.org/policedepartment/contactus.aspx
Ontario (608)337-4800
(608)337-4811
Oregon (608)835-3111
Orfordville* (608)879-9212
(608)879-2022
Osceola* (715)294-3628
Oshkosh (920)236-5700
Osseo (715)597-2481
Owen* (715)229-2161
(715)229-4030
Oxford (608)586-4428
Palmyra (262)495-2114
(262)495-2519
Park Falls (715)762-2446
Pepin (715)672-5944
Peshtigo (715)582-4511
Pewaukee (City of)*
(262)691-0921
(262)691-5720
Pewaukee (Village of)*
(262)691-5678
Phillips (City of)*
(715)339-3847
Pittsville (715)884-2100
Plain (608)546-2034
Platteville (608)348-2313
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Pleasant Prairie*
(262)694-7353
Plover* (715)345-5255
Plum City (715)273-5051
Plymouth* (920)893-6541
(920)892-6143
Port Edwards (715)887-3030
Port Washington*
262-284-5575
Portage (608)742-2171
Potosi (608)763-2261
Poynette (608)635-2588
Prairie du Chien*
(608)326-2421
(608)326-6284
Prescott (715)262-5512
Princeton (920)295-6250
Pulaski (920)822-5110
Racine* (262)635-7700
(262)636-9332
Randolph* (920)326-4620
Readstown (608)629-5772
Redgranite (920)566-2820
Reedsburg (608)524-2376
Reedsville (920)754-4371
Reeseville (920)927-5272
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Rewey (608)943-8515
Rhinelander (715)365-5300
Rib Lake (715)427-5633
Rice Lake (715)234-2116
Richland Center
(608)647-2103
Ridgeway (608)924-5881
Rio (920)992-5454
Ripon (City) (920)748-2888
Ripon (Town) (920)748-2910
River Falls (715)425-0909
(715)425-0932
Roberts (715)749-3467
Rome, Town* (715)325-8020
(715) 325-8033
Rosendale (920)872-5050
Rothschild (715)359-3879
Saint Croix Falls
(715)483-9282
Saint Francis (414)481-2232
Saint Nazianz (920)773-2733
Sand Creek (715)658-1297
Sauk Prairie* (608)643-2427
608-643-2670
Saukville (262)284-0444
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Seymour* (920)833-2366
(920)833-7133
Sharon (262)736-4617
Shawano* (715)524-4545
715-524-2786
Sheboygan* (920)459-3333
(920)459-0205
Sheboygan Falls*
(920)467-7902
Shelby (608)785-5944
Shell Lake (715)468-7679
Shiocton (920)986-3294
Shorewood* 414.351.9900
414.847.2626
Shorewood Hills*
(608)267-1110
(608)266-5929
Shullsburg (608)965-4436
Silver Lake* (262)889-4100
Siren (715)349-7181
Slinger (262)644-6441
Soldiers Grove (608)624-3264
Solon Springs (715)378-4453
Somerset (715)247-3319
South Milwaukee
(414)768-8060
South Wayne (608)439-1212
Sparta (608)269-3122
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Spencer (715)659-5453
Spooner (715)635-3527
Spring Green (608)588-2125
Spring Valley (Village of)
(715)778-5678
St Croix Tribal*
(715)349-8638
(715)349-8462
Stanley* (715)644-5975
Star Prairie (715)248-7720
Stevens Point* (715)346-1500
Stoddard (608)457-2123
Stoughton (608)873-3374
Stratford (715)687-3131
Strum (715)695-3513
Sturgeon Bay* (920)746-2450
Sturtevant* (262)886-7208
Suamico (920)448-4200
Sun Prairie (608)837-7336
Superior (715)395-7234
Suring (920)842-2125
Taylor (715)662-3404
Theresa* (920)488-4444
(920)488-2068
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Thiensville (262)242-2100
Thorp* (715)669-5523
Three Lakes* (715)546-2211
Tigerton (715)535-3270
Tomah* (608)374-7400
(608)374-7413
Tomahawk (715)453-2121
Trempealeau (608)534-6875
Trenton* (262)689-0661
(262)675-6052
Turtle Lake* (715)986-2942
Twin Lakes* (262)877-9056
(262)877-2699
Two Rivers (920)686-7200
Union Center (608)464-3155
University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee*
(414)229-4627
(414)229-4918
Valders (920)775-9700
(920)775-9701
Verona (608)845-7623
Vesper (715)421-8700
Viola (608)627-1831
Viroqua (608)637-2121
Wabeno (715)473-3121
Walworth (262)275-36
6585Washburn (715)373-
6164Waterford, Town*
Day (262) 534-2119
Night (262) 534-5166
Waterford, Village*
(262)534-3911
Waterloo (920)478-2343
Watertown* (920)261-6660
(920)261-9710
Waukesha* (262)524-3820
Waunakee* (608)849-4523
(608)849-4525
Waupaca (715)258-4400
Waupun (920)324-7911
Wausau* (715)261-7800
(715)261-7888
Wautoma (920)787-4044
Wauwatosa* (414)471-8430
Webb Lake Twp
(715)733-0123
Webster (715)349-2121
West Allis* (414)302-8000
(414) 302-8099
West Bend* (262)335-5000
(262)335-5028
West Milwaukee
(414)645-2151
West Salem* (608)785-5942
(608)786-3359
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Westby (608)634-4411
Westfield (608)297-2115
Weyauwega (920)867-4141
Wheeler (715)632-2449
Whitefish Bay (414)962-3830
Whitehall (715)538-4353
Whitewater (262)473-0555
Wild Rose* (920)622-4148
Williams Bay (262)245-2710
Wind Point, Village*
(262)639-3022
Winneconne (920)582-9944
Wisconsin Dells
(608)253-1611
Wisconsin Rapids
(715)423-4444
Wonewoc (608)464-3961
Woodruff (715)356-1150
Woodville (715)698-2169
Wyocena (608)429-3263
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Wisconsin Sheriffs' Offices
County Phone Fax E-MailAdams Co*
(608)339-3304
(608)339-7786
Ashland Co
(715)685-7640
715-682-7039
Barron Co*
(715)537-3106
Bayfield Co
(715)373-6300
Brown CoBuffalo Co*
(608)685-4433
(608)685-3379
Burnett Co*
(715)349-2121
(715)349-2176
Calumet Co*
(920)849-2335
Chippewa Co
(715)726-7719
Clark Co* (715)743-3157
Columbia Co*
(608)742-4166
(608)742-0598
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Crawford Co
(608)326-0241
Dane Co* (608)255-2345
Dodge Co*
(920)386-3726
920-386-3254
Door Co* (920)746-2400
(920)746-2411
Douglas Co*
(715)395-1371
(715)395-1503
Dunn Co (715)232-1348
Eau Claire Co
(715)839-4709
Florence Co
(715)528-3346
Fond Du Lac Co*
(920)929-3390
(920)929-3918
Forest Co* (715)478-3331
715-478-3535
Grant Co* (608)723-2157
Green Co* (608)328-9400
608 328 1823
Website for Sheriff Office http://www.greensheriff.com/
Green Lake Co*
(920)294-4000
Iowa Co* (608)935-3314
Iron Co (715)561-3800
Jackson Co*
(715)284-5357
Jefferson Co
(920)674-7310
Juneau Co*
(608)847-5649
(608)847-9401
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Kenosha Co*
(262)605-5100
Kewaunee Co*
(920)388-3100
(920)388-3998
La Crosse Co*
(608)785-9629
Lafayette Co
(608)776-4870
Langlade Co
(715)627-6411
(715) 627-6433
Lincoln Co*
(715)536-6272
Manitowoc Co
(920)683-4200
(920)683-2798
Marathon Co*
(715)261-1200
(715)261-1221
Marinette Co
(715)732-7600
Marquette Co
(608)297-2115
Menominee Co
(715)799-3357
(715)799-3595
Milwaukee Co*
(414)278-4726
Monroe Co*
(608)269-2117
(608) 269-8889
Oconto Co (920)834-6900
(920)834-6915
Oneida Co (715)361-5100
Outagamie Co
(920)832-5605
(920)832-5263
Ozaukee Co
(262)284-7172
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Pepin Co (715)672-5945
Pierce Co (715)273-5051
Polk Co (715)485-8300
(715)485-8310
Portage Co (715)346-1400
Price Co (715)339-3011
Racine Co*
(262)636-3211
(262) 637-5279
Richland Co
(608)647-2106
Rock Co* (608)757-8000
Rusk Co (715)532-2189
Saint Croix Co
(715)381-4320
(715)386-4606
Sauk Co (608)356-4895
Sawyer Co (715)634-4858
Shawano Co*
(715)526-7905
(715)524-5181
Sheboygan Co*
(920)459-3112
Taylor Co (715)748-2200
(715)748-3813
Trempealeau Co*
(715)538-4509
(715)538-2148
Vernon Co (608)637-2123
(608)637-5565
Vilas Co* (715)479-4441
(715)479-0621
Walworth (262)741 [email protected]
Co -4400 sWashburn Co
(715)468-4700
Washington Co*
(262)335-4378
Waukesha Co
(262)548-7117
Waupaca Co
(715)258-4466
Waushara Co*
(920)787-3321
Winnebago Co
(920)236-7300
(920) 236-7302
Wood Co (715)421-8715
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Wisconsin State Patrol Division Headquarters
Superintendent David L. CollinsColonel Benjamin MendezHill Farms State Transportation Building4802 Sheboygan Avenue, Room 551P.O. Box 7912Madison, WI 53707-7912Phone: (608) 266-3212Fax: (608) 267-4495
Southwest RegionWisconsin State Patrol DeForest Post
911 W North StreetDeForest, WI 53532-1971Phone: (608) 846-8500Fax: (608) 846-8536 (office)Fax: (608) 846-8523 (radio)DeForest Post counties:Serves Columbia, Dane, Dodge, Green, Iowa, Jefferson, Lafayette, Rock and Sauk
Wisconsin State Patrol Tomah Post44
(I-90, Tomah Exit Hwy. 131)23928 Lester McMullen DriveTomah, WI 54660-5376Phone: (608) 374-0513Fax: (608) 374-0599TTY: (608) 374-0528Tomah Post counties:Serves Crawford, Grant, Juneau, La Crosse, Monroe, Richland and Vernon
Southeast Region Wisconsin State Patrol Waukesha Post
21115 East Moreland BoulevardWaukesha, WI 53186-2985Phone: (262) 785-4700Fax: (262) 785-4723Waukesha Post counties:Serves Kenosha, Milwaukee, Ozaukee, Racine, Walworth, Washington and Waukesha
Northeast Region Wisconsin State Patrol Fond du Lac Post
851 S. Rolling Meadows DriveP.O. Box 984Fond du Lac, WI 54936-0984Phone: (920) 929-3700Fax: (920) 929-7666Fond du Lac Post counties:Serves Brown, Calumet, Door, Fond du Lac, Kewaunee, Manitowoc, Marinette, Oconto, Outagamie, Sheboygan and Winnebago
North Central Region Wisconsin State Patrol Wausau Post
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2805 Martin AvenueWausau, WI 54401-7172Phone: (715) 845-1143Fax: (715) 848-9255Wausau Post counties:Serves Adams, Florence, Forest, Green Lake, Iron, Langlade, Lincoln, Marathon, Marquette, Menominee, Oneida, Portage, Price, Shawano, Vilas, Waupaca, Waushara, and Wood
Northwest RegionWisconsin State Patrol Eau Claire Post
5005 STH 53 SouthEau Claire, WI 54701-8846Phone: (715) 839-3800Fax: (715) 839-3841Eau Claire Post counties:Serves Buffalo, Chippewa, Clark, Dunn, Eau Claire, Jackson, Pepin, Pierce, St. Croix and Trempealeau
Wisconsin State Patrol Spooner Post 7102 Green Valley RoadSpooner, WI 54801Phone: (715) 635-2141Emergency: (715) 635-7725Fax: (715) 635-6373TTY: (715) 635-7968Spooner Post counties:Serves Ashland, Barron, Bayfield, Burnett, Douglas, Polk, Rusk, Sawyer, Taylor and Washburn
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Wisconsin Media
Wisconsin TV stations
City TV Station Phone Fax E-MailEagle River WYOW
TV 34 (ABC)
Same asWAOW-TV
Eau Claire WEAU TV 13 (NBC)
715-839-9328
715-832-3276
Eau Claire WQOW TV 18 (ABC)
(715) 831-1824
Green Bay WBAY TV 2 (ABC)
(920) 438-3264
(920) 438-3355
Green Bay WFRV TV 5 (CBS)
800-236-5550
920-437-5769
Green Bay WGBA TV 26 (NBC)
920-494-2652
920-490-2500
Green Bay WLUK TV 11 (Fox)
(920) 490-1407
(920) 494-9109
La Crosse WKBT TV 8 (CBS)
(608) 784-7897
La Crosse WXOW TV 19 (ABC)
507-895-1919
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Madison WISC TV 3 (CBS)
608-273-3333
608-271-0800
Breaking News Tip
Madison WKOW TV 27 (ABC)
608-273-2727
Madison WMTV TV 15 (NBC)
608-274-1500
Milwaukee WDJT TV 58 (CBS)
(414) 607-8140
(414) 777-5802
Milwaukee WISN TV 12 (ABC)
414-937-1212
Milwaukee WTMJ TV 4 (NBC)
414-967-5444
414-967-5378
Rhinelander WJFW TV 12 (NBC)
(715) 365-8812
(715) 365-8810
Wausau WAOW TV 9 (ABC)
(715) 842-9293
(715) 849-2999
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Major newspapers
Name Phone Fax E-Mail Associated
Press (AP)
Milwaukee
Wisconsin
(414) 225-3580
Eau Claire
Leader
Telegram
Eau Claire Facility
715-833-9200 715-833-9244
Eau Claire
Leader
Telegram
Hallie Facility
715-830-5893 715-830-5890
Green Bay
Press-Gazette
1-800-289-8221
Email News Tips to Staff
Kenosha
News
262-656-6298
Milwaukee
Journal
Sentinel
(414) 224-2919 [email protected]
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Racine
Journal Times
(262) 634–3322
(262) 631–1780
Wisconsin
State Journal
608-252-6200
Wisconsin RUNAWAY SHELTERSAND OTHER YOUTH SERVICE
ORGANIZATIONSBriarpatch Homeless and Runaway Youth Program - more info »1955 Atwood Avenue, Madison, WI - (608) 245-2550"Shelters and emergency housing (All Wisconsin counties RUNAWAY SHELTER Briarpatch 512 E. Washington Ave. Madison, WI 53703-2943 (608) 251-1126 Crisis ..." markwilliamsrealtor.com
Walker's Point Youth & Family - more info »2030 West National Avenue, Milwaukee, WI - (414) 647-8200"Our Runaway and Teen Crisis Program provides temporary shelter and/or crisis counseling to youth ages 11-17 who are experiencing family or other ..." walkerspoint.org
Pathfinders Youth Shelter - more info »1614 East Kane Place, Milwaukee, WI - (414) 271-1560"RUNAWAY SHELTER Pathfinders 1614 E. Kane Place Milwaukee, WI 53202 414-271-1560, CHURCH SERVICES food/clothing pantries; vouchers given; contact soc ..." hud.gov
Family Services of Northeast Wisconsin Inc: Runaway Project Street Outreach - more info »300 Crooks Street, Green Bay, WI - (920) 436-6800"Wisconsin Divorce & Family Law Attorneys. Neenah - Menasha - Appleton - Fond du Lac - Fox Valley Wisconsin. Fox Valley Shelters. FAMILY SERVICES OF ..." stillingsbuchinger.com
Youth Services of Southern Wisconsin - more info »512 East Washington Avenue, Madison, WI - (608) 251-6211"RUNAWAY SHELTERS. AND OTHER YOUTH SERVICE ORGANIZATIONS ..." crimeshots.com
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Wisconsin Association - more info »2318 East Dayton Street, Madison, WI - (608) 241-2649"They provide street-based services, emergency shelter, transitional living. WIS Association of Runaway Services (WARS) Madison, WI (608) 241-2649 ..." nn4youth.org
Resch Laurie A - more info »300 Crooks Street, Green Bay, WI - (920) 436-6800
"RUNAWAY SHELTERS. AND OTHER YOUTH SERVICE ORGANIZATIONS ..." crimeshots.com
Positive Alternatives Inc - more info »603 Terrill Road, Menomonie, WI - (715) 235-9552"RUNAWAY SHELTERS. AND OTHER YOUTH SERVICE ORGANIZATIONS ..." crimeshots.com
Boys & Girls Clubs of the Fox Valley - more info »117 South Locust Street, Appleton, WI"RUNAWAY SHELTER Youth Services of the Fox Valley Region 820 West College, Suite 6. Appleton, WI 54914-5263 (920) 731-0555 (920) 731-0557 (Hotline ..." hud.govMonroe County Shelter - more info »531 Douglas Street, Sparta, WI - (608) 366-1948"RUNAWAY SHELTER Shelter Care Inc. 315 N. Water St. Sparta, WI 54656 608-269-5660 ..." hud.gov
Project Runaway & Youth Services - more info »2726 Hallie Ln, Eau Claire, WI - (715) 833-1913"RUNAWAY SHELTER Project Runaway - LSS 1101 W. Clairmont, Suite 2H AND 3131 Craig Rd. 54703. Eau Claire, WI 54701 (715) 833-0992 (715) 833-1913 (Hotline ..." hud.gov
Monroe County Shelter - more info »531 Douglas Street, Sparta, WI - (608) 366-1948"RUNAWAY SHELTER Shelter Care Inc. 315 N. Water St. Sparta, WI
54656 608-269-5660 ..." hud.gov
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Mass Transportation Systems of Wisconsin
Metro [email protected] OFFICE Phone: (608) 266-4904 Fax: (608) 267-8778
Dane Transit (608) 251-6126
ProRail [email protected]
Wisconsin Coach Lines 800-236-2028 [email protected]
La Crosse Municipal Transit UtilityPhone (608) 789-7350Fax: (608) 789-7374
MCTS Milwaukee County Transit System 414-344-4550
Lake Express 866-914-1010Beloit Janesville Express
PUBLIC TRANSPORTATION CONTACT INFORMATIONLocal Transit(urban bus)Appleton Valley Transit – (920) 832-5800Beloit Transit System – (608) 365-7433
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Duluth Transit Authority – (218) 722-4426Eau Claire Transit – (715) 839-5111Fond du Lac Area Transit - (920) 322-3650Green Bay Metro – (920) 448-3450Janesville Transit System (608) 755-3150Kenosha Transit (262) 653-4290La Crosse Municipal Transit Utility (608) 789-7350Madison Metro (608) 266-4466Manitowoc - Maritime Metro Transit (920) 683-4560Milwaukee County Transit System (414) 344-6711Oshkosh Transit (920) 232-5340Racine - Belle Urban System (262) 637-9000Shoreline Metro (920) 459-3285Stevens Point City Bus (715) 341-4490Waukesha Metro (262) 524-3636Wausau - Metro Ride (715) 842-9287Intercity &CommuterBusBadger Bus – (877) 292-8259Bay Area Rural Transit -- (715) 682-9664Greyhound Lines – (800) 231-2222Indian Trails – (800) 292-3831Jefferson Lines – (800) 767-5333Lamers Bus Lines – (800) 261-6600Megabus – (877) 462-6342Ozaukee County Express – (414) 344-6711Van Galder Bus – (800) 747-0994Wisconsin Coach Lines – (800) 236-2028Washington County Commuter Express – (262) 677-3445
Railroad lines serving Wisconsin:http://www.dot.wisconsin.gov/travel/rail/Amtrak - (800) 872-7245Metra - (312) 322-6777
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Ferries operating in Wisconsinhttp://www.dot.wisconsin.gov/travel/water/ferries.htmMap of ferries operating in Wisconsin
Note: Some ferry schedules may be affected by weather. Please call the number listed when inclement weather is expected.
Cassville (608) 725-5180
Located in southwest Wisconsin on the Mississippi River.
Connects Cassville, Wisconsin, with Turkey Creek, Iowa.
Lake Express (866) 914-1010
Located in southeastern Wisconsin on Lake Michigan.
Connects Milwaukee, Wisconsin, with Muskegon, Michigan.
Lake Michigan Carferry (888) 337-7948
Located in eastern Wisconsin on Lake Michigan.
Connects Manitowoc, Wisconsin, with Ludington, Michigan.
Madeline Island Ferry Line (715) 747-2051
Located in northern Wisconsin on Lake Superior.
Connects Bayfield, Wisconsin, with LaPointe Harbor on Madeline Island, Wisconsin.
Merrimac (608) 246-3872
Located in south central Wisconsin on the Wisconsin River.
Connects Merrimac, Wisconsin, with Okee, Wisconsin.
Washington Island Ferry Line (920) 847-2546
Located in northeast Wisconsin on Lake Michigan.
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Connects Northport, Wisconsin, with Detroit Harbor on Washington Island, Wisconsin.
• Other transit: You can find out about additional transit services (such as shared-ride taxi, rural busand specialized transit) from the Wisconsin Urban and Rural Transit Association and WisconsinRural and Paratransit Providers Association at www.wurta.com.
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The Recovery
We all hope for a successful recovery. Sometimes this will happen other times sadly it won’t. When you finally recover your child it is so important that you show them love, and concern for their well being, not anger, fear, or hatred. If you show any negative emotions it can cause your child to feel as though they are unwanted, unloved, and worthless.
You will be flooded with a wide range of emotions, but it is essential to remember that your child has been traumatized and needs you to show them love support and compassion.
It is imperative to get your child medical attention as soon as possible after the recovery. Do not wait days, take them directly to the hospital for a thorough physical and evaluation.
During the evaluation it is important to bring them a change of clothes. Place the clothes (including under clothes) your child was last wearing in a paper bag (not plastic). The police may need them to recover evidence.
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The Aftermath
The entire family needs to process their experience to start the healing process and rebuild the family. Be prepared for any horrors your child may have been through and be supportive. Therapy; both individual and family, is probably the best advice that we can offer. We can only hope that this will help others heal after their ordeal; maybe not with words of wisdom, but with guidance towards a direction for healing. Therapy is vital for your child to process feelings and experiences that they had during their episode, and to allow them to see the truth about what has taken place.
It’s so important to remember your child may not be forthcoming with information. It may take years of intensive therapy to come to terms with what they went through. The trick, on your part, is patience. You may never know everything that took place.
Personally (Bob speaking), my greatest struggle is the guilt of not being able to prevent this from happening to my daughter and to my family. The visions that followed me every day during our search still creep into my mind. I am told my guilt is self-imposed. I still try to heal, and pray that someday my family’s life will return to normal.
Now, as I fight my personal battles to persevere, my duty as a dad is to care for my wife and daughter, and to keep this family together. I have one other duty as a member of the human race — to try to help other families by passing on the lessons we so harshly learned.
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Never let a day go by without telling your child what they mean to you.
To My Daughter
You are life’s most precious gift,I see the promises of tomorrow
in the twinkle of your eyes.You are a gift to be loved.
You are the pride of my life,the joy of my heart.
You are my daughter!
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