Monday Reflection

“You can get through life with bad manners,

but it's easier with good manners.”

Who said it?• Lillian Gish was an American actress.

• Gish's father left the family before she was old enough to remember him.

• Her mother then took up work at a theatre, including acting roles, to support the family.

• Their mother later moved the family to Illinois and opened the Majestic Candy Kitchen - the girls helped sell popcorn and candy to the theatre goers next door.

• After the theatre burnt down they moved again to New York. A neighbour working in theatre and film gave Lillian and her sister Dorothy their first opportunity to become actresses.

• They later travelled around the country with touring theatre companies. Again, they would have to meet new people and make new friends.

• Lillian became a famous film star in the 1920s and later became a top TV star. Her distinctive looks also provided modelling work.

• She never married and maintained a very close relationship with her sister.

Your response…

Why might Lillian Gish be someone we can look up to?

How did Lillian Gish get noticed? Was it all due to looks and acting

talent?

Does good manners mean not saying what you think?

Taking it further: Create a courtesy guide, research different politeness rules around the world

Play the Manners Game!Question 1

You’ve gone round to your friend’s house for dinner with their family. The meal includes something you really don’t like. What do you do?

A: Try to eat the meal served - working around anything you don’t like.B: Let them know the foods you don’t like – then ask to take it off the plate.C: Refuse to eat anything! Go and sit somewhere else!

Question 2

You’re walking towards the bus stop when your bus arrives next to you. What do you do?

A: Go to the back of the queue, acknowledging others have been waiting.B: Let on the older people, then try to sneakily squeeze in ahead of the others.C: Jump straight on, ahead of others, to make sure you get a seat.

Question 3

You receive a phone call from a friend in the cinema during the film. What do you do?

A: You've set it to silent so it's not disturbing anyone, you cancel the call and send a text. B: Your ringtone – of your latest favourite song - fills the aisles as you scramble to turn it off. C: You don’t want to miss the latest news from your friend, so you answer it there and then. When people tut around you, you respond with “What’s your problem?!”

Play the Manners Game!

Question 4

You’re stuck on a question in your Maths lesson but the teacher is currently working with another student who is also stuck. What do you do?

A: Put your hand up and ask for help. Then work on something else whilst they finish with the student they’re helping. B: Put your hand up but if they don’t notice you after a few seconds, huff and puff loudly – and then see if your friend wants a chat. C: Declare the work ‘a load of rubbish’ and slide it on to the floor to get some attention! Question 5

You’re in a coffee shop and decide you want to listen to your latest MP3 downloads. You work through your playlist playing each track aloud until another customer comes up to ask you to turn it down. What do you do?

A: Put your headphones in. B: Turn it down a little bit for about five minutes, then gradually turn it back up again, C: Turn it up just to spite them. After all, what’s the big deal?!

Mostly As Most Bs Mostly Cs

You are a true lady or gentleman. Keep on like this and you will

probably make friends in high

places!

You’ve got the right idea but need a bit

more practice!

You are the human equivalent of a

skunk! People will probably want to get as far away from you

as possible!

Word of the Week

etiquetteNoun

A code for the way people in a group should communicate and behave.

synonyms: politeness, courtesy, customs, civilityantonyms: bad manners, rudeness, impropriety

Types of Non-Verbal Communication – Match the Key Terms!

1. Facial Expressions

A) The amount of distance we use to make ourselves and the people around us comfortable – or uncomfortable. For example, the space for a friendly, casual conversation might be close whereas a conversation with someone you are nervous about might be far apart.

2. Gestures

B) Communicating through touch is another important non-verbal behaviour. For example, a handshake shows friendship, a gentle tap on the arm shows kind attention whilst a nudge past someone can show disregard.

3. Paralinguistics

C) Our choice of clothing, hairstyles and other factors affecting appearance are also considered a means of nonverbal communication. Research has shown wearing red often indicates power whilst white indicates peace.

4. PostureD) One of the most important forms of non-verbal communication. Includes things like smiling, frowning, blushing, tearful, yawning etc.

5. Proxemics E) How your body is positioned. This includes folded arms, leg crossing, turning away, hands in pockets etc.

6. Eye GazeF) Deliberate movements and hand signals to communicate meaning without words. They include waving, pointing, and using fingers to show number.

7. HapticsG) Looking, staring and blinking can all add extra meaning. For example, staring at another person can show hostility - or attraction!

8. AppearanceH) Vocal communication that is separate from the actual words being said. This includes things such as tone of voice, loudness, speed, intonation and pitch.

Types of Non-Verbal Communication – Find the Key Terms!

A G H G J K N N N J C P A R A C I Q T Q S

D F B H L H S C I M E X O R P N F N T C J

C F A C I A L O C T F Y X Q C N D Q I U C

A I A G L H E R K F S V T M D M U T M Q M

H F D B L H X S B J J O X R Z Q S F Q T U

H C A O J N P O G T W W P Y X I Z X E U C

I I F D L N R S H L V X L M U M G N C T M

S E R U T S E G W Y W I L G G F U Z N S U

G Y A G K O S S R J J K N R B B P X A O J

D E H S S N S D W L E I R A G L R N R P C

G G T O J C I S T Y L X I M E Q O W A U J

I A A T I W O W R A V R R M M L X Z E U M

G Z O S C O N E R U T S O P I M U B P T C

D E A D A N S A W Y V R L R W B V W P T J

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