Sharing by : Bita Seow

On the good day of : 02 Dec 2013

At the kind invitation of : DBS Asia Hub, Changi Business Park

MINDFUL PARENTING

Bita Seow has a successful business strategy & marketing

career in the info-communications & media industry.

Always grateful for her blessings of birth in this part of the world and the

privilege of an education, Bita makes "pay it forward" a philosophy of her life.

Currently, she also serves as a member of the Executive Committee of the

Buddhist Fellowship Singapore and the Firefly Mission. In addition to being a

Sunday school teacher, she leads and volunteers with the Tan Tock Seng

Hospital's HIV-Aids support group - MaitriPals, Singapore Prison Service's

religious counselling group, Muscular Dystrophy Association, and many others.

Joyfully, she balances all these with her dedication towards parenting 2

teenagers. Every year, Bita and her children devote their holidays towards

supporting and participating in numerous humanitarian projects, both locally

and overseas. She has a natural flair with engaging people of all age groups

and all walks of life. She has been instrumental in the development, mentoring

and coaching of youth & young people’s programs in the community.

Bita speaks regularly on topics that impact lives.

SPEAKER’S PROFILE

WHY ARE WE HERE TODAY?

For A Happy Exchange …

Between like-minded people …

Desiring happiness for ourselves …

As well as for others.

YES!

STATE OF HAPPINESS LEVEL IN SINGAPORE

Source : The Straits Times, ‘07 2010

Rise in suicides among the young

MAKING WISE CHOICES IN LIFE

As parents, part of our role is to nurture and instill wholesome values & that will shape and influence

our child’s choices & attitude towards life.

When faced with

life’s hard knocks …

… Which choice would you wish your child choose?

“MINDFUL PARENTING” ~ WHAT DOES IT MEAN?

as defined in dictionaries :

“Mindful”

be Aware, be Attentive, be Conscious

of action(s) to an object.

“Action” takes the form of thoughts, words, deeds.

“Object” could be a person, place, situation, thing,

etc.

Are you a parent in an

…“AWAKE” state?

“Parenting”

the Act or Process of responsibility

of a care-giver (parent)

to rear, raise, love, care, guide,

nurture a child

“MINDFUL PARENTING” ~ WHAT DOES IT MEAN?

Children Are

GIFTS OF LIFE

LIFE HAS ITS CHALLENGES & ITS BEAUTY…

Some face challenges &

difficulties having a baby …

It’s our honor to be a parent

THE CHILD WILL ALWAYS BE OUR DEAREST…

regardless of their age

or their stage in life

TILL WE DRAW OUR LAST …

RAISING POSITIVE CHILDREN ~ IT STARTS WITH US …

• When the child is young... other pursuits can wait, the child can't.

• When the child is in adolescence... give him/her the space and

time.

• When the child is a young adult....let him/her go.

• You are the child's greatest teacher. Nurse, let go and inspire. The

child is watching you all the time. What you think, what you say

and what you do....make sure all three are in harmony.

Have WHOLESOME & Be SKILLFUL in

Thought Speech Deed

BE THEIR ROLE MODEL …

• Role models are often subjects of admiration and emulation

• Through your personal qualities and achievements, you can inspire your child to strive

and develop without direct instruction

• SIGNIFICANCE of role models :

• Role models are human ; they make mistakes.

• Parents who admit to their mistakes, learn from them, and strive to better themselves

can serve as powerful influences for children's emotional growth.

• By addressing problems and conflicts in their own lives (such as trying to lose weight

or handle a demanding supervisor at work) and sharing the process in an age-

appropriate manner, parents can encourage their children to address their own

concerns.

• Parents should also display non-aggressive responses to stress and anger

management.

PARENTS ARE IMPORTANT ROLE MODELS …

You Are His/Her IDOL!!

FROM THOUGHT, TO SPEECH, TO DEED… IT DEFINES YOU!

TEACH THEM TO CONNECT THEIR TOOLS …

TO HELP THEM FOR LIFE’S JOURNEY…

cultivate

right views

BECAUSE THOUGHTS WILL BECOME REALITY…

IT’S THEIR REALITY, NOT YOURS …

PLEASE OPEN YOUR HEARTS TO THEM, LOVE & EMBRACE…

NURTURE THEIR GARDEN OF REALITY …

WORDS

"What are words If you really don't mean them when you say them?

What are words If they're only for good times then they're done?

When it's love Yeah, you say them out loud those words, They never go away. They live on, even when we're

gone". - Chris Medina

YOUR CHOICE OF WORDS, TONE & DELIVERY OF SPEECH …

CHOOSE & USE WISELY …

THEY BECOME THEIR VOICE …

IF THEY ARE YOUR LAST WORDS TO YOUR CHILD …

What would it be ?

SAY TO YOUR CHILD WHAT A LOVER WOULD …

give CONFIDENCE

is TRUTHFUL

is ENCOURAGING

is LOVING is BEAUTIFUL

is HELPFUL

is BENEFICIAL

is TIMELY

is HAPPENING !!

is GENTLE

You’re the most

beautiful!

Hey, gorgeous!

Handsome dude!

Smarty pants!

I love your pimples!

You smell like

candy!

You are my

sunshine!

My heart is always

yours!

I love you!

…….

SMILE,

Use Such Words Generously,

And MEAN IT!

IN PEACE / HARMONY, A MOUTH IS AT WORK …

Conflicts and wars often start

from wrong things said.

Mindfulness in speech stem

from a CONSCIOUS mind.

Right views are conditions for

kind, gentle and beautiful

speech.

YOU ARE BEING WATCHED & HEARD; ALL THE TIME …

ON SICK / DEATH-BED, NO ONE EVER SAID “I MISS WORK”

WHEN YOU SAY YOUR FINAL GOOD-BYE …

YOUR ACTIONS SHOW THE WAY OF WHAT’S ACCEPTED …

How spouse treat one another?

How you treat your helper?

Your reaction to traffic ?

Are you the traffic bully?

Kids these days don’t have table manners ?

Blame who?

YOUR ATTITUDE, VALUES & BELIEFS ARE WHAT BUILD YOUR

LITTLE MEN & WOMEN…

LOVE OF A PARENT FOR A CHILD IS BOUNDLESS …

HOW WE LOVE OUR PARENTS SHOW OUR CHILDREN

HOW WE LIKE TO BE LOVED…

饮水思源

HAVE PEACE EVERY MOMENT WHEN WE ARE BREATHING …

FACE IT,

THIS IS LIFE!

YOU ARE ONLY A

VEHICLE FOR

YOUR CHILD’S

BIRTH

YOU,

CHOOSE TO BE

HAPPY

&

BE TRUE TO

THE BEST THAT

YOU CAN BE!

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