Be A Mentor, Inc.

Orientation to Mentoring4588 Peralta Blvd., Ste. 17

Fremont, CA(510) 795-6488

Training Guidelines

Maintain Confidentiality Be here now-No cell phones Speak from the heart Listen from the heart Respect differences Refer back to training guide HAVE FUN!!!

Training Objectives

To better understand the issues and environmental factors facing our youth today.

To understand the role and COMMITMENT of the mentor.

To understand and demonstrate practices of effective mentors:

How Youth Enter Program

Receive Orientation Complete Application Parents/Guardian Complete:

Questionnaire Authorization Form

Youth is Interviewed

What is the Project Manager’s Job?

Recruit/interview Mentee Interview Mentors Complete Paperwork Hold Match Meeting Monitor the quality of match

Why Youth Need Mentors

Peer Pressure Substance Abuse Sexuality Social Skills Child Abuse Family Violence Anger

Management Absenteeism

Depression/ Suicide

Nutrition & Health

Pressure At Home

Goal Setting Part-time Work Failing Grades

From The Kid’s Eyes!

Forget about what YOU think a young person needs. But why would a young person want to be friends with you?

What does a mentee think a mentor is?

Youth Say a Mentor Is…

Easy to talk to Is someone to look

up to Is a friend Shows us new

things Is not a parent Does not judge us Is understanding Is FUN!

Has knowledge Won’t get mad Is a role model Encourages us Listens to us Is open-minded Is sympathetic Is trustworthy Gives guidance Respects us

Role of the Mentor

Academic Help Goal Setting Career Exploration

Assistance Emotional Support Exposure to new things

Mentor Commitment

4-6 hours each month Weekly telephone contact Document activities/hours Keeps contact with parents Attend quarterly wisdom circles Attend mentor event’s

Practices of an Effective Mentor

Focus on the

positive

Has Fun

Keeps Relationshi

ps Alive

Involves Youth in Decisions

Respects Youth

Viewpoints

Is Committed

Separate Goals

Confirms Appointmen

ts

Allows Youth to Make Mistakes

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Pitfalls of Mentoring

Imposes Values Sporadic Meetings Authority Figure/Transform

Youth Demand Equal Participation Not Seeking Support of Project

Manager

Stages in Relationship

Building

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Guidelines for Difficult Situations

Discuss the problem. Think beforehand about what you want to

accomplish. Bring things up early in visit. Separate the behavior from the person. Stay serious but supportive. Discuss sensitive issues in a private place. Consider relating something personal. Reinforce something positive about your

mentee.

Culture

Our youth are extremely ethnically diverse.

Cultures include customs and values.

Culture is a set of mental rules for survival and success that a particular group of people has developed.

Culture

Cultures are multifaceted: Family structure, Spirituality,

Language, Art, Parenting practices, Concept of growth, aging, & death

Goal of mentoring is to create inclusion. You feel valued and respected by

me. I feel valued and respected by you.

Gang activity, not about skin color, but about which neighborhood your from.

Conversation Starters/Practices

Come to your mentoring time, prepared!

Any type of game, book or activity you use, should start a conversation not kill it.

Ask “High Quality Questions” Be Careful not to use yes and

no Questions.

Login Hours and Activities

www.beamentor.org Login Email address Password Activity Form Select a mentee Activity Date Time Comments

Confidentiality

When can I break it? How do I break it?