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Maximizing Mentoring Success:Tips for the best mentor/mentee relationship EVER!
Sandy Jones-Kaminski Chief Connecting Officer, Bella Domain Media
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Benefits Both
"The greatest good you can do for another is not just to share your riches but to reveal to him his own." — Benjamin Disraeli
Learning the unwritten rules of the company or industry.
Great way to stay current on industry trends.
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Learning firsthand from someone in a role you aspire to fill down the road.
Learn about new technologies and new ways of doing things when the mentee is
from a different generation.
Benefits Both
“If you cannot see where you are going, ask someone who has been there before." — J Loren Norris
Mentee
Mentor
Benefits Both
“In learning you will teach, and in teaching you will learn.” ― Phil Collins
Learning from an experienced person about mistakes they made and learned from.
Mentee
Hone your coaching/advising skills and keep them fresh.
Mentor
Benefits Both
“The best way a mentor can prepare another leader is to expose him or her to other great people. ― John C. Maxwell
Getting introduced to new contacts and expanding your network.
Provides the opportunity to see different points of view and also
provides a new way to expand your own network.
Mentor
Mentee
Benefits Both
“When I give the best of me, that becomes my legacy.” ― Karen Lopez McWilliams
Mentee
Get personal satisfaction out of paying it forward.
Mentor
Having a neutral sounding board for your ideas or conflicts.
Set Goals and Define Expectations
“One of the greatest values of mentors is the ability to see ahead what others cannot see and to help them navigation to their destination.” — John C. Maxwell
Review your goals. Make sure your mentor knows what to expect from you, what your hopes are and what you’re looking to take away from the relationship.
Help your mentee set realistic expectations and then set up a
system to measureachievements and milestones.
Mentor
Mentee
Let your mentor know when/how you will contact them and the best ways to reach you.
Make sure your mentee knows the best ways to communicate with you.
Keep Communication Lines Open
“A mentor is someone who allows you to see the hope inside yourself.” — Oprah Winfrey
Mentee Mentor
All About Support
“Colleagues are a wonderful thing — but mentors, that’s where the real work gets done.” — Junot Diaz
Remember that your mentor is there for you, but is only a guide. Work together to create a solid planof action for your goals.
Encourage open communication and participation. Work to build rapport
and explain why it’s so important for them to bring up tactical examples
and situations for discussion.
Mentor
Mentee
Maintain Contact
“I’ve learned a lot from mentors who were instrumental in shaping me, and I want to share what I’ve learned.” — Herbie Hancock
Keep up with your emails and ask questions, share deadlines. Always be polite and courteous.
Mentee
Respond to your emails in a timely manner. Answer questions and
provide advice, resources & guidance.
Mentor
Always Be Honest
“The delicate balance of mentoring someone is not creating them in your own image, but giving them the opportunity to create themselves” — Steven Spielberg
Let your mentor know if youdon’t understand something or have a differing opinion.
Mentee Be truthful in your evaluations,but also be tactful.
Mentor
Listen more than you talk. Ask if you can observe your mentor in action if he/she is local.
Actively Participate
“We make a living by what we get, we make a life by what we give.” — Winston Churchill
Mentee
Participate in your own growth while you are mentoring and collaborating on
projects.
Mentor
Be Creative and Innovative
“In a battery, I strive to maximize electrical potential. When mentoring, I strive to maximize human potential.” — Donald Sadoway
Mentee
Share your creativity, give adviceand be a resource for new ideas.
Mentor
Offer ideas on what activitiesand exercises you might be able to do together.
Cultivate the Relationship
Get to know each other as individuals. Remember that people come from diverse backgrounds and experiences.
Mentee and Mentor
“We’re here for a reason. I believe a bit of the reason is to throw little torches out to lead people through the dark. ” — Whoopi Goldberg
Be Consistent and Reliable
“A mentor is someone who sees more talent and ability within you, than you see in yourself, and helps bring it out of you. ” — Bob Proctor
Always do what you say you are going to do. The more consistent you are, the more you will be trusted.
Mentee and Mentor
Keep it Positive
“Mentoring is a brain to pick, an ear to listen, and a push in the right direction.” — John Crosby
Remember that your mentoris invested in your success and is offering feedback and notcriticizing.
Mentee Recognize the work the mentee has done and all the
progress made.
Mentor
Maximizing Networking Opportunities A networking event is a farmer event,
not a hunter event. You’re there to plant seeds and cultivate your garden,
not “bag prey.”- Sandy Jones-Kaminski
Myth #1Networking means you’re looking to use people to achieve selfish goals, or opportunistically ask people for help.
REALITY The definition of network in the The Oxford Dictionary:
nétwerk n. & v. a group of people who exchange information, contacts, and experience for professional or social purposes.
Therefore, networking can be defined as one’s efforts to create this group, and of course it can be done honestly and considerately.
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Myth #2You have to be a born networker or a “natural” at networking.REALITY The skills needed to be an effective networker can be learned by anyone. Just like management and leadership skills, networking skills can be taught.
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Myth #3You must have above average charisma to be a good networker.
REALITY You merely need to be thoughtful, sincere and genuinely helpful. You get offered opportunities or introductions from people once they have had a chance to get to know and trust you.
There are always opportunities out there, but you have to be willing to be open, curious and giving to uncover them.
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Myth #4You have to be a good talker or an overly chatty “schmoozer” to be a good networker.
REALITY The truth is it is almost the exact opposite. According to Guy Kawasaki, Forbes columnist, and author of the book, Reality Check, “The mark of a good conversationalist is not that you can talk a lot. The mark is that you can get others to talk a lot. Thus, good schmoozerʼs are good listeners, not good talkers.”
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“I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
- Maya Angelou, 1928 - 2014
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Effective Networking is Connecting
Maximizing Your Personal Brand
You Are Your Brand
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• Companies have always leveraged the benefits of branding.
• Today, the same benefits and ideas have expanded into the personal realm.
“Your personal brand is what people say about you when you are not in the room.”
- unknown
My Brand is ME
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“Sandy’s not comfortable with the title, “Guru” – but that’s exactly what she is… A networking GURU, with the moxie and insights to truly help people improve their networking skills.” – Kelly Evans
If you haven’t defined your brand yet, it’s time.
Your Brand is YOU
• Your personal brand is who you are, what you offer, why you matter and what matters to you.
• It’s where you and your business or profession converge.
• It’s not your elevator speech….
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When was the last time you d yourself?
Your Brand is YOU
• Is the first page full of things for which you want to be found?
• Does your LinkedIn profile page appear on the first page?
• Until you establish your personal brand, top search results are what will define you.
If you’re not branding yourself, you can be sure others do it for you. - unknown
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Your Brand is YOU
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Building Your Brand: Your Brand is YOU
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“It takes 20 years to build a reputation and five minutes to ruin it. If you think about that, you’ll do things differently.” - Warren Buffett
Your Brand is Also Your Reputation
“The stronger your brand, the more people will value you.”
- John Purkiss
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Thank you!
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