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Volume 1, Number 7

August2009

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12 Lipstick Corner12 Lipstick Corner12 Lipstick Corner12 Lipstick Corner Office Romance

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06 Editor’s letter06 Editor’s letter06 Editor’s letter06 Editor’s letter

07 07 07 07 Fading Friendships

09 09 09 09 Is speed dating really for you?

10 Club wear 10 Club wear 10 Club wear 10 Club wear Do’s and Don’ts Do’s and Don’ts Do’s and Don’ts Do’s and Don’ts

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15 Horoscopes15 Horoscopes15 Horoscopes15 Horoscopes


Janelle Powers, writer,

janelle.powers@

singlesmag.net

Janelle was born and raised right here in Boston. She attended Hofstra University in

New York where she studied both journalism and theatre. She’s had several small acting roles in both film and television, as well as some roles on the stage. She is currently working as histology technician and lives in Brighton with her fiancé.

Bobby Carr, writer,

[email protected]

Bobby is always looking to utilize his creative attributes, which have led him in many different directions such as starring in the independent horror film Prichard

and Silas and now following his true passion to be a writer. Bobby states “My only unfulfilled aspiration is finding true love, because I believe you are not truly happy unless you can share that happiness with someone else which is why I am ecstatic about writing for a singles magazine.”

Mehdy Ogine-Noel,

photographer,

[email protected]

Mehdy earned his graphic design degree from the Katherine Gibbs school in 2003. He

owns RealtoucH, a photography company. Mehdy has done photography for weddings, corporate events, and websites. Visit him on www.realtouchpg.com


{Editor’s letter}

MSM’s upcoming changes

Dear Readers,Massachusetts’ Singles Magazine is now on its seventh issue and it is still going strong.After months of promoting the classified section of MSM, in this issue, I proudly introducethe classified section. You can now post all your classifieds (jobs, items for sale, personals, etc ...) for the low price of $2.00, it will run in MSM’s classified section for 30-days. Check out page 14 for more information.Changes are happening at MSM, they are happening fast and it has all been very positive. At this time, I am now looking forward to MSM’s one year anniversary and I have already began planning the anniversary party. It seems like yesterday, I was planning the launch ofMSM and now I am doing it all over again. The next few months leading to the one year anniversary are going to be exciting and I am looking forward to put in the work. I am working on putting together a party committee for the one year anniversary to make this the best anniversary party you’ve ever experienced. Readers, stay tuned because in the next few months, I will be updating you on the progress of MSM and MSM’s one year anniversary party. Best,

Marie Stuart NoëlPublisher and [email protected]


The Column Where have all the close friends gone?

Every so often television entertainment comes out with a dramatic sitcom illustrating the relationships that

occur between close friends. Normally in their high twenties, early thirties these usually stereotypical

characters experience the ups and downs of early professionalism while searching for companionship. Friends,

Seinfeld and most recently How I Met Your Mother, all depict a close nit group of friends that support each

through relationship problems. As significant others come and go, their friendships withstand. With that said,

how close do these fictional plots actually relate to real life? When it comes to close friendships, what really

happens when significant others, outside of the group, enter the lives of one of its members? For the sitcoms,

the friendships usually remain the same. However, in real life as some of us couple off, far too often are the

remaining singles left with unresolved spin-offs.

One warm Friday in July, my friends and I decided an outside, late night reunion was necessary to make up for

the last few weeks of constant rain and lack of togetherness. After some drinks and burgers, catching up was

replaced with hilarious reminiscing and before we knew it we were back three years and into 30 beers. I began

to truly appreciate the friendships I had fashioned and after numerous stories of relationship drama, I began to

also appreciate my current bachelor status. Sadly, these channeled feelings of appreciation soon turned into

negative reception. It was slightly before midnight and as I returned from inside with a bag of chips and a bowl

of salsa, I realized I would be dinning alone. Some had left and others were leaving and once again, as the only

single in the group, I was by myself with a slight buzz on and huge mess to clean up.

That same night, my sister Leslie and her friend Ally aka Q, were also experiencing the effects of close

friendships. At a local bar, surrounded by old friends in new relationships, they wondered why two attractive

young professionals like themselves were singled out. By the end of night, Q determined to leave with a

prospect, approached two familiar looking guys that were sitting at the bar staring in their direction. Waving

over her single partner in crime she and Leslie engaged in about twenty minutes of superficial conversation

before suggesting they meet the following night. One of the guys while pointing in the direction of their

friends asked whether or not their boyfriends would be jealous. The guys had seen Q and Leslie in the bar

numerous times before and witnessed the affectionate showcase of a single gal and her gay best friend. After

Leslie cleared up the miss understanding that their assumed boyfriends were nothing of the sort, she

immediately realized that the problem wasn’t them, it was the abundance of close friends that used their

company to escape the unwanted companies of their significant others.

A few hours later, as I put out a fading fire, I began to reminisce over my faded friendships. Ironically enough,

half an hour later, I received a phone call from one of my departed guest wanting to talk about an issue she

was having with her boyfriend. So in the end, as preached through the friendship sitcom, a friend is supposed

to be honest, supportive and careful not to judge. So how do we honestly support the closest people in our

lives jumping into something that is driving them away? We don't really have to. All we need to do is sit back,

wait for them to call on us when need be and hope that they do the same for us. After all that’s what friends are

for.


You’ve seen the ads online, on buses, in the newspaper

and pretty much everywhere you go. You probably know a friend or colleague who’s done it, why haven’t you? Imean, you’ve done online dating. Speed dating has gottenvery popular in the last decade. It has been featured in movies like Hitch, the 40 year-old virgin and TV shows like Sex and the city, the L word. It really is a great way for any single to jump start a dating life. It’s true that youknow in 3-8 minutes if you are attracted to your date.I’ve put together the pros and cons of speed dating so you may decide whether it is for you or not.

Pros of speed dating Most speed dating services are inexpensive. You meet several people in a few hours.You get to socialize in a comfortable, safe environment.Some Services pre-screened daters to ensure match.Speed dating is a no-pressure, no-obligation first date.Daters get to meet people they would never meet otherwise.Only daters who mutually select each other gets each other’s contact information.If you don’t make any connections, nobody will know.

Cons of speed dating Everything is based on first impression, no second chances. Daters have only a few minutes to make a good first impression. Some speed dating services are expensive.There is no refund, you may get a rain check if the men to women ratio is uneven.Daters have to register prior to speed dating event.You may not make any connections.

Speed dating is time-efficient, no-nonsense dating which to me is more effective than online dating. Though speed datingis popular, it is not for everyone. My advice is before youjump into speed dating, do your homework. Research the different speed dating companies, read reviews, and learn about your local speed dating organizers. Whatever route youchoose to use for dating does not matter. In the end, finding your soul mate is all that matters.

By Marie Stuart Noel


Club wear

Do’s and Don’ts

Do go on the nightclub web site to find out their rule on proper attire.

Do wear comfortable shoes.

Don’t show too much skin.

Don’t wear new high heel shoes that you have yet to break into.

Don’t wear church attire to a nightclub.

Do wear a sexy flirty attire.


Salad Dressing

1/4 teaspoon garlic 1/4 teaspoon chili 1/4 teaspoon ginger 1/2 tablespoon fish sauce 3/4 tablespoon lime juice 3/4 tablespoon sweet chili sauce 1 teaspoon soy sauce 1/2 teaspoon sweet soy sauce or sugar, to sweeten 1 tablespoon chopped coriander

Directions

Combine soy and garlic and marinate steak for at least 3 hours. Combine salad ingredients in two separate bowls. Combine dressing ingredients together, mix well, and put aside. Cook steak on grill or in pan until cooked to desired level. Slice steak into strips and place on top of salad. Drizzle over dressing. Bon Appetit!

Salad

shredded lettuce, of your choice 1/4 diced red onion (any salad ingredients you desire).

Ingredients

250 g lean beef steaks 1 tablespoon soy sauce

1/2 clove crushed garlic

This Thai salad is very delicious. It is the perfect summer meal, seasoned just right with spicy ingredients. This serving is just for one but if you have a sweetie coming over for dinner, double the ingredients and wow your date.


Written by a woman, for women

Office romanceBy Janelle Powers

It starts with innocent flirtations over the water cooler.

Then it escalates into perverted emails and catching

eye contact all day. Finally it comes out “would you

like to have a drink after work?” and before you know

it you’re embroiled in a passionate office relationship.

Things are all well and good at first. You see each

other every day, you have lunch together, you go

home together at night and spend the night making

love. It goes on like this for a few weeks and you’re in

a blissful bubble not realizing that you’re the talk of

the office. People start talking and remarking on your

relationship. Everyone has something to say, some

remarks are good but most are not. Most are scandal

and gossip, “I hear he’s bonking someone else in

accounting.” I hear she’s just using him to make the

boss jealous.” Most of this is fictional nonsense, but

that is where the trouble starts.

A wise man once said “you never crap where you

eat” and this expression though graphic does seem to

hold true most of the time. The major problem with

dating someone you work with is too much time

together. You see each other socially, and you see

each other professionally. Everyone in the office

knows your business and in some cases your co-

workers know what is going to happen in your

relationship before you do. There are only two ways

this can end, one being marriage, and the other is a

break up. The worst part about the latter is, if you

break up, there is the inevitable awkwardness. You

still have to see each other, work together and are

expected to be professional and civil. Which can be

avoided if there is another branch of the company you

can transfer to. Even in the best of circumstances,

office romance are proven to be very difficult.

In the end, if you insist on pursuing an office

relationship, there are a few things I can tell you. Try

to keep your relationship as private as possible. You

won’t be able to keep everything private but most

things can be kept quiet. Go into this relationship with

your eyes wide open and consider all the variables

that I have mentioned. Know that what you are doing

can be worth it but it can also be complicated and

messy. Talk to your partner about all these

possibilities and remember that trust and

communication are key to any relationship.


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LEO

July 23-August 22You've got an extra knack with sizing people up, not to mention assessing all sorts of situations in an uncanny manner. The trick is that you'll have to pry the attention off yourself first.

VIRGO

August 23-September 22Is that a little romantic tension between you and a certain someone? Well, are you just going to let it sit there or are you going to explore the possibilities? The stars say take the next step!

LIBRA

September 23-October 22Chatting with a new person, whether online or face-to-face, can lead all sorts of unexpected places now. You're thinking big and expressing yourself beautifully -- and they're loving you.

SCORPIO

October 23 - November 21You're particularly skilled at uncovering what's beneath the surface -- and it's a skill that'll come in handy right now. Ask around. Look closely. Pay attention to the ambient vibe.

SAGITTARIUS

November 22-December 21You're sitting pretty if the stars have their say, the object of much admiration and the center of certain attention. Keep those eyes open for an unexpected sign, opportunity or occurrence.

CAPRICORN

December 22-January 19If at first you don't succeed, well, whatever with them -- move on and say hi to the next cutie! Cupid loves somebody who makes an effort. Show you're trying and some arrows will be flying!

AQUARIUS

January 20-February 18Look around and see who needs introducing! Whether you're the official host or not, you're putting people together in possibly miraculous ways now -- and the universe will return the favor.

PISCES

February 19-March 20The stars are sending some pretty sweet stuff your way -- what'll you do to enjoy it today? Hint: Spacing out is not the way to go. Stay fully present and receive some cosmic gifts!

ARIES

March 21-April 19Now this is a lot more like it! Pack your social schedule both during the day and tonight -- you'll love meeting new people and maybe developing some deeper bonds with a certain someone now.

TAURUS

April 20-May 20Of course you want the initial attraction, but right now you're particularly interested in getting into who they are and what they believe. The right romantic candidates respond in kind.

GEMINI

May 21-June 21You'll learn so much by listening now, you may hardly need to say a word. Maybe it's because when you do talk, you're asking the right questions and making them feel like the only person in the room.

CANCER

June 22-July 22Looks like some sort of conflict or challenge surrounds a social occasion or interaction now. Rather than turning away, put your best foot forward. Make a real effort to make yourself understood.

*horoscopes.astrology.com

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