marriage conference 2012 part 3
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Proverbs 24:3-4Through wisdom a house is builtand by understanding it isestablished
by knowledge the rooms are filledwith all precious and pleasantriches
Key raw materials for marriage
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Proverbs 24:3-4wisdom=knowledge put to practice
(e.g. Ex. 28.3; 31.3, 6; Is. 10.13)understanding=comprehension,insight, discernment (Is. 33.19; Dan.
1.20; Pr. 15.21)knowledge=[root] knowledge gainedby the senses; personally obtained (Cf.
Pr. 20.5)
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1 Peter 3.7:dwell with them withunderstanding, giving honor to the
wife, as to weaker vessels, and being co-heirs that your prayers be not hindered
understanding=to come to a
knowledge base as a result ofexperience & therefore learning
Areas: Spiritual, soul (mind, will,
emotions), and physical
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1 Peter 3.7:giving honor to the wife,as to weaker vessels, and being co-heirs
that your prayers be not hinderedgiving honor=to set a price upon;assignment of value/status to someone;
ascribe worth; esteem; respect; revere
Practical: What you notice; when younotice; how you notice; where you notice
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1 Peter 3.7:as to weaker vessels,and being co-heirs that your prayers benot hindered
weaker vessels=without strengthphysically speaking (perhaps emotionalreference, not intellectual); differences
co-heirs=one her participates in thesame lot
prayers=assumes ongoing prayer
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Ephesians 5.33Husbands:in particular, so love your
own wife as himselfInsight: It is selflessness; it is thinking& doing in a manner that only considers
the other persons needs, aspirations,and good; it ascribes worth (i.e. honor)Fundamental: It is the fundamental
need of a daughter, woman, and wife
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Ephesians 5.33Wives:let the wife see that she
respectsher husbandrespect=to show great reverence orawe; rooted in the idea offear
Insight: Men will seek such respectfrom you or from someone elseFundamental: It is fundamental part of
a mans needs
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Conclusion:
Husbands: Give your wives no
reason to fear
Wives: Give the respect for withoutthe motivation of fear
1 John 4.18:there is no fear inlove; perfect love casts out all
fear
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Men and Women are different (1 Pet. 3.7)Personality
Type (Melancholy, Sanguine, Choleric,
Phlegmatic)EmotionsLove LanguageFleshly Struggles (e.g. pride, lustappearances, security, bitterness,
jealousy, etc.)
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Spiritual Gift(1 Cor. 12.12-25)Comprehending the differences:If a
foot should say,Because I am notis itnot of the body?(v. 16))Appreciating the perspective:If the
whole body were an eye...where wouldbehearing?(v. 17)Valuing its necessity:the eye cannot
sayI have no need of you(v. 21)
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Spiritual Gift Expression:1 Pet. 4.10:As it one has received a
gift, minister itEph. 4.16:effective working bywhich every part does its share, causes
growthSpouse: Let him or her express it; keepeach in balance; be mindful of your
other responsibilities
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Sentinel Spiritual DecisionsConvictions:but beware lestthis
libertybecomes a stumbling block tothose who are weak(1 Cor. 9.4-13)
Call:he is a chosen a vessel of
mineI was appointed a preacher andan apostlea teacher of the Gentiles(Acts 9.10-19 1 Tim. 2.7)
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Purpose: To be understood and understand; it
is the need of every man, woman, & child. Gods passion too:
Is. 1.18: Come let us reason together
Job 38-41: Now prepare yourself like aman and I will question you
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James 1.19 (cf. Pr. 10.19. 17.27)
Quick or swift=ready or promptto hear Slow=comes from root: delayto speak
Insight: You are not merely waiting for your
turn to speak, make your case, or win theargument
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Goal is to understand:You may needto work at it
Proverbs 20.5:Counsel in the heart
of man is like deep water, But a manof understanding will draw it outInsight: Take what you know of your
spouses personality, bents, needs andburdens to create the atmosphere that
welcomes the thoughts of your spouse
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Goal is to be understood:You mayneed to work at it
Suitable: Prov. 25.11:A word fitly[suitable; beautiful for the occasion]spoken is like apples of gold
Timing: Prov. 15.23:a word spoken
in due season, how good it is
Method: Prov. 27.14loud
voiceearly in the morninga curse
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Goal is to be understood:Method (contd): ; Prov. 15.1 softanswerturns awayContent: Eph. 4.29Let no corruptcommunicationbut what is good foredification [increase the potential]
Manner: Col. 4.29speech seasonedwith salt(Cf. Pr. 10.21; 15.4, 7; 16.21-
24; 22 17-18; 25 11; Ec. 10.12)