Make an Investment In Your Greatest

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By Jim Scott PhD.

Hopes and goals

•Share stories/concepts.•Provoke thought.•Learn skills.•Examine challenges.•Have fun.

 

Overview

Warm up

Assets, Liabilities and Realities

My Approach to Our Best LifePARS Plus

Priorities-Purpose-PassionAttitudes

Rituals

Skills

PARS Challenge List•Priorities•Attitude•Rituals•Skills•Setting Boundaries

•Reducing Anxiety•Worry Reduction•Future Focus – Desired Life •Time management•Thought Restructuring•Letting Go of the Past

Ground rules:  

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Discussion

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IDENTIFY THREE ASSETS

Think of Three

How did you spend your day yesterday?

IDENTIFY SOMETHING YOU DO TO RECOVER FROM THE DAY.

So what gets the way of

living your best life?

“Stuff HappensForrest Gump

Which of these has affected your life?

 

ELEMENTS OF CHANGELoss

Foundational Changes Values shift

Relationship issuesInstability

Increasing media influenceRate of change

Polarizing

SYMPTOMSSYMPTOMS OF A LIFESTYLE OUT OF OF A LIFESTYLE OUT OF BALANCE - SHORT TERMBALANCE - SHORT TERM

AnxietyMuscle Tension Problems

Sleep DisordersIntestinal Problems

DepressionImmune System

Circulatory IssuesCompulsive Behaviors

Long Term Effects

Heart DiseaseCancer

Immune system Diabetes

Circulatory IssuesGastrointestinal DiseasesCompromises Recovery

Addictive Behaviors

THE REAL ISSUE IS NOT CHANGE BUT HOW YOU

CHOOSE TO RESPOND!

Liabilities

DenialIgnorance

Lack of ClearPersonal Priorities

Greatest Assets

Health Ability to Change, Work and Play

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““LIFE IS LIKE A TWO LIFE IS LIKE A TWO MINUTE WARNINGMINUTE WARNING”” “FORREST GUMP”“FORREST GUMP”

TIME TO TIME TO MAKE CHOICESMAKE CHOICES

Anxiety

Reduction

CHALLENGE 1

FACTORS TO REDUCE ANXIETY

1. Thoughtful Nutrition2. Tension Release and Diversion

• Physical Activity • Hobbies• Physical Work

3. Quick relaxation technique

Challenge 1

CLEAR

PrioritiesPassion &

Purpose

SimplicityOrderEnergyPower

Focus on Your Desired Future

Challenge 2

Where is your focus? What you focus on grows.

Time Management is based on one’s

prioritiesIn relationships to one’s

goals and dreams.

Time is one asset that will never

appreciate in principle.

PITFALLS OF PITFALLS OF MANAGING TIMEMANAGING TIME

How many of thesebehaviors do you

maintain?

DISORGANIZATION

Is this you

?

LACK OF DIRECTIONLACK OF DIRECTION

How do you know where you

are going?

TOO MANY PRIORITES

If everything is important,

then nothing is Important.

LOST TIME

How do you lose time?

PROCRASTINATIONPROCRASTINATION

THE INABILITY TO MAINTAIN PERSONAL BOUNDARIES

Do you say yes too often?

If you always do,

what you have always done,

you will always get,

WHAT YOU ALWAYS GOT!

Setting Boundaries

“Good fences make good

neighbors”

Challenge 3

Set Boundaries

“Good Fences Make Good Neighbors”

Saying

“No”is a skill

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ELEMENTS OF SAYING “NO”

• Positive feeling message• Negative content message• Positive feeling message.

Positive Feeling Response:

Thank you for asking.

I can hear this is important to you!

I appreciate you thinking of me.

I can’t imagine the task that you have in front of you.

NEGATIVE CONTENT• I would be glad to help you if you will….

• I would be glad to take you to the mall when…

• I am not available but feel free to ask me next week.

Positive Feeling Conclusion:

Thank you again for considering me.

I appreciate your thinking of me. Feel free to call me next year.

If you can give me a weeks notice I would be glad to help you out.

REFUSAL SKILLS• Focus on what you will do, not on

what they have to do.

• You are welcome to … but I am going to stay.

• Thank you for offering but I am not hungry.

Challenge 4

Own your feelings

““Life is 10% what happens to Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% what I choose to me and 90% what I choose to do about it! All I can do is play do about it! All I can do is play on the one string I have and on the one string I have and that is that is my attitudemy attitude!”!”

Charles SwindollCharles Swindoll

CREATE ANCREATE AN

Attitude Attitude Of Of

GratitudeGratitude

GIVE BACKGIVE BACK

Get out of yourself!

Compliments to Attitude•Thoughtful Nutrition•Physical Activity•Redirect Negative thoughts•Get out of yourselfGet out of yourself•Reduce the amount of power you Reduce the amount of power you give to someone or somethinggive to someone or something•Strengthen Beliefs

Live each day

as if it were your last.

““STUPID IS AS STUPID IS AS STUPID DOES!”STUPID DOES!”FORREST GUMPFORREST GUMP

WORRYWORRY WORRY

Challenge 5

THE NATURE OF WORRYTHE NATURE OF WORRY

Worry is like a rocking chair: It gives Worry is like a rocking chair: It gives you something to do, but it doesn't you something to do, but it doesn't get you anywhere.get you anywhere.

• Erma Bombeck, , God's Little God's Little

Devotional Book for mothersDevotional Book for mothersUS author & humorist (1927 - 1996)US author & humorist (1927 - 1996)

If you always think

What you always thought,

You will always feel

What you always felt!

CONDITIONAL THINKINGINCREASES POTENTIALANXIETY.

So what can you do?So what can you do?

SeekSeek

ActionAction

HOLDING HOLDING ONON CAN BE A CAN BE A PROBLEM!PROBLEM!

•Negative•Stuck in the past•Fatigued •Full of Resentment •Sarcastic•Angry

HOLDING-ON BEHAVIORS

LETTING GO IS A LETTING GO IS A SOURCE OF POWERSOURCE OF POWER

Challenge 6Challenge 6

• Forgiveness

OPTIONSOPTIONS• Seek helpSeek help

• Talk to a friend or spouseTalk to a friend or spouse• Talk to a clergyTalk to a clergy• Seek counselingSeek counseling• Get on line and look for support groupsGet on line and look for support groups• PrayerPrayer• JournalingJournaling

CHALLENGE 7CHALLENGE 7

CREATE CREATE RITUALS RITUALS

Do daily activities Do daily activities that rejuvenate and that rejuvenate and

restore yourestore you physically, physically,

mentally and mentally and spiritually.spiritually.

Reflect Daily

How is it going?

What can I improve?

What next?

Muscular Strengthand Muscular Endurance

CardioFlexibility

SEEK TO BE PHYSICALSEEK TO BE PHYSICAL

Take time to meditate –

pray-Decompress

daily

HUMOR

“Laughter is the best medicine”

Eat to live…Eat to live…Eat consciously Eat consciously

Less is More:

SEEK HEALTHY SEEK HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS RELATIONSHIPS

BE EXPRESSIVEBE EXPRESSIVE

GROW YOURSELF GROW YOURSELF NEW EACH DAY.NEW EACH DAY.

Don’t die with the music still

in side.

Seek Skills

Challenge 8

Life is measured not by the number of

breaths we take

but by the number of experiences that take our

breath away!

JIM SCOTT PHD.

If you have questions or concerns please feel free to contact me.Website: http://drjimscott.weebley.com

E-mail: scottjamesj@comcast.net