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The lively, FREE magazine for Epping, Theydon Bois, Loughton and Buckhurst Hill

April & May 2015

£850 worth of prizes to be won with

Wild Forest Gym UK’s 1st outdoor Natural Movement Fitness Gym

and dedicated Obstacle Race Training Centre

The Secret Code Theatre School performs new

Second World War musical

Essex Police Be Sure at the Door

Pretty Muddy Reality stars shape up for

Cancer Research UK’s Race for Life

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In this issue

4 And another thing….packaging

6-7 Prizes to be won at Wild Forest Gym

8 Dream Factory Cockney Night 8 National Jazz Archive

11 Stage One presents The Secret Code

12 Children’s puzzle page

14 Taketina rhythm workshop

18 Keeping in touch with Essex Police

20 Pretty Muddy—Reality stars shape up for Cancer Research UK Race for Life

26-27 Ask Brenda. I don’t think my partner wants children

29-31 Clubs, societies and event listings

June & July 2015: Deadline The deadline for advertisement bookings and submitting club or event listings is May 15th. For details call 01992 814621 or 07738 383299 or email info@magascene.net to request a media pack.

S top press. Hold the front page. Yes really. Turns out that April 7th is ‘national no housework day’. Phewee. Glad I found out now, as I would

hate to think of my needlessly spring cleaning every surface of my home, as I do every day. Hope to have saved you some elbow grease too. Don’t mention it.

I would like to congratulate Pet Chums on reaching their 15 year anniversary. They have been caring for pets since 2000, from pet sitting, through to dog walking and generally making sure that your pets are fed and watered when you are away from the home. Pet Chum’s owner Sue along with her team of walkers deserve a medal for going out during all weathers. I am the kind of person who puts a coat on to take the bins out, so you have my total admiration. Here’s to the next fifteen years. We have a fantastic competition to offer readers. Wild Forest Gym, hosted at Nuclear Races in Brentwood, opened last month and is the first UK outdoor Natural Movement Fitness Gym and dedicated Obstacle Race Training Cen-tre. A month’s VIP membership is up for grabs, plus the chance to redeem a free trial from their website (50 places on offer). Take a look on pages 6-7 to see what you could be experiencing. Quite a contrast to the sweat box of an indoor gym and a breath of fresh air in more ways than one.

I hope you enjoy reading this edition and we will back in June (which sounds an awful lot like summer). Jane

Editor / Publisher Jane Smith

Contributors Sue de Nime Brenda Clowes Essex Police

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T he topic on which I am about to spew forth is a road well travelled. In fact, it is so congested

with moaners, that they have had to implement a slow lane for those who whinge so incessantly, it make them lose control of their legs and they are forced to grind to a slow shuffle, with foam disgorging from their mouths as they attempt to gnaw their own knuckles off in frustration.

The source of such irritation? Packaging. Of course it is. But to be fair, the annoyance caused by rubbish packaging had, until last week, barely registered. Sure, I tutted loudly as I wrestled a blister pack containing a stereo lead to the floor, and may have even grunted as we tussled back and forth, but it was a fleeting angst that dissipated as soon as I had hacked my way in with a pair of large scissors. Yes, I remember being a tad het up as I tried to free a teddy bear from its cardboard cage at Christmas, twisting the kryptonite wire ties first one and then the other, but really, I put my anguish mainly down to the fact that I had a two year old sitting on my head screaming loudly that he wanted to hold his new teddy NOW.

After all, the domestic landscape is peppered with things that scarcely work. Just look at toasters, those malevolent machines of evil cinderdom, patiently waiting for you to be confident that setting 2 gives you the perfect golden brown toast on which you can spread your condiment of choice, before deciding that this morning, setting 2 will create a toast furnace so fierce that a casual peer into the slots of doom will eradicate your eyebrows and leave you with a small pile of carbon to eat for breakfast.

But back to the irritation in hand. As I say, last week, I was in the blissful state of mild irritation. Now, I am furious. I ordered an electronic item from Amazon. It was obvious from the start that the packaging designer had read Apple Packaging for Dummies. I turned the box over in my hand to gently pull the quick release tab from its resting place, and noticed a sticker. It read: Frustration Free Packaging'.

How nice, I thought, as the tab glided across the box and I flicked the end flap open. They're right. Look at me. I'm as happy as Larry as I lift the lid to reveal a snugly packaged gadget.

But hang on a cardboard pickin' minute. That sticker is an insult. It is an outrage. That sticker is fundamentally the packaging designer saying to me: 'Look, I can finally do my job properly. All those years that you cut your fingers on shards of plastic as you attempted to extricate your purchase? All those times you needed a chain saw to gain entry into a box? That was me, practising at my job. I was rubbish at it, I admit. I didn't know my perforation from my vacuum formed tray. But now, after fifteen years of doing this, I can do it. I am competent at my job. I can design a package that doesn't make you want to weep, involve a trip to A&E to replace a fingertip or involve industrial flame throwers. Well done me."

Call me old fashioned (I don't have a Hoxton Hipster beard, so you'd be technically correct) but I don't think the fact that it has taken until the twenty-first century to achieve this is anything to crow about. If it had taken me that long to get good at my job, I wouldn't be shouting about it on a sticker. I mean, the world has gone stark-raving, easy-peel mad.

Before you know it, my next toaster will be sporting a sticker saying 'This toaster will not burn your bread to a cinder'. Actually, no. That's just a ridiculous no-tion. Sue de Nime, aka Jodie Newman, also writes a blog at www.motheringfrights.wordpress.com or follow on Twitter for non-parenting advice @MotheringFright

And another thing… Packaging Sue de Nime

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I f you go down to the woods today, what are you likely to find? How about the brand new

Wild Forest Gym’s Fitness & Obstacle Training Centre hosted at Nuclear Races, set in 20 acres of woodland in Brentwood, Essex?

This is the UK’s first outdoor Natural Movement Fitness gym and dedicated Obstacle Race Training Centre, launched just a few weeks ago after four months of construction. Visitors get to enjoy fresh air and experience nature whilst getting fit or race ready. Whether you are a beginner, seasoned or elite racer, Wild Forest Gym has the facilities to suit your needs and training is suitable for adults and children.

So what exactly is Natural Movement Fitness (NMF)? NMF takes you away from bootcamp style training and repetitive gym or circuit type exercise. Instead, it offers an all-round fitness and training environment, set in the tranquil and stimulating 20-acre forest gym. You will learn dynamic movements that offer variations, flow and a better understanding of how your body works. Become fitter, stronger and more

dynamic, yet more agile, coordinated, balanced and flexible. Classes include Natural Movement Fitness, Natural Running Training and Jump Skills Training. What is more, the team behind Wild Forest Gym includes members of the UK’s Obstacle Racing Training Team and official coaches for Nuclear Races. You are in safe, yet challenging hands!

First Prize One lucky reader will win 1 month’s VIP Membership to Wild Forest Gym, to include unlimited use of the gym during opening hours and unlimited group classes. For your chance to win, all you need to do is answer the following question. Hint: visit www.wildforestgym.com to find the answer. Q. What day of the week does Wild Forest Gym hold Natural Running Training? Email your answer to info@magascene.net by April 30th, including your name and contact details. Full competition T&Cs can be found at www.magascene.net

50 Runners-up Prizes Wild Forest Gym is also offering 50 runners-up a FREE trial session. For your chance to redeem, visit www.wildforestgym.wordpress.com/memberships Terms of runners-up prizes: Only 1 FREE trial session per person. FREE trials are only open to new gym visitors. Prizes cannot be exchanged for cash. Entry is subject to terms and conditions. Full details at www.wildforestgym.com For further details about Wild Forest Gym, please visit www.wildforestgym.com Telephone 07517 604601 or email info@wildforestgym.com

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National Jazz Archive Loughton Library

Did you know that the National Jazz Archive, a registered charity, is located locally in Loughton Library, and is open 4 mornings a week? What is more, the extensive resources of the National Jazz Archive have been opened up by a project funded by the Heritage Lottery Fund.

The 3-year project, ‘The Story of British Jazz’ has improved public access to the archives of rich and diverse holdings, including 40,000 archived items, 4,300 books, 600 journals and dozens of photo collections.

The project has also extended to organising talks, open days, concerts and exhibitions. Partnerships and collaborations were arranged throughout the project, with nearly 30 organisations taking part around the country. Locally, this includes the Loughton Festival, Loughton Youth Project, Love Loughton and home to the archive, Loughton Library. Lesley Walker, Project Monitor for the Heritage Lottery Fund, said, “I have watched the National Jazz Archive develop into an active and lively organisation with properly catalogued and managed collections, reaching out to a much wider audience including their local communities. There is now a greater awareness within and beyond the jazz community of the Archive and its activities and ‘The Story of British Jazz’ makes the collection accessible to people everywhere.” The National Jazz Archive at Loughton Library is open on Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday and Friday between 10am and 1pm.

A bottle of whisky signed by Prime Minister David Cameron and The Dream Factory patron and

Work and Pensions Secretary, Iain Duncan Smith, boosted the total raised at a Cockney Knees-Up for The Dream Factory charity.

The whisky was auctioned for £250 with the money going towards the £6,400 raised. Some 160 people attended the event in February, held at the Marriott Hotel, Waltham Abbey, by The Pearly Kings & Queens Society.

Pie and mash and ‘Rosie Lee’ were served while entertainment was provided by the Pearly Kings and Queens and The Fabulous Blues Brothers (presented by Souled Out).

There was also a raffle with a host of donated prizes. All the profits go to The Dream Factory which makes dreams come true for children and young adults with life-limiting conditions.

The charity has fulfilled more than 300 dreams and is currently working on some 70 more requests.

Charity founder Avril Mills said, “We had to turn people away because we sold so many tickets. It was the best atmosphere ever and many people have asked if it could become an annual event.

“Everyone was up dancing with the Pearlies; they really had a fabulous time and when the Blues Brothers came on everyone carried on dancing.”

Avril added, “It was a night to remember for every-one. Thank you to everyone who came including Vicki Michelle, Colin McMillan, Lisa Nash, my volunteers and the three ‘dream’ young people who had received dreams.”

“I also want to thank the hotel and their staff for helping us so much with the event. We are really grateful for everyone’s contributions to a fantastic night.” Now that’s some good news to put a roof on your boat race. www.yourdreamfactory.org

Whisky bottle signed by PM helps raise over £6,000 at charity’s Cockney Night

Vicki Michelle, The Dream Factory founder Avril Mills and Pearly Queen and Dream Factory patron Dorren Golding, and the three 'dream' young people who were among the guests

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S tudents from Stage One Theatre School will be performing The Secret Code in May, a new

musical from Jonathan Rice and Michael Gatton of Song and Dance Kidz.

The Secret Code is set in England during the Second World War. It follows a group of London evacuees to the English countryside, as they try to crack a secret German code and save the country from invasion.

The cast will arrive at the Zinc Arts venue in Ongar by the vintage bus from Epping and then steam train from North Weald to Ongar. This will give the cast members a taste of how evacuee children travelled during the Second World War.

The production evokes some much-cherished nostalgia for the England of a by-gone era. Still, it isn't quite all fun and frolicking, as the musical acknowledges the concerns of war, while creating an upbeat musical about solidarity and working together. The writers haven't forgotten those important historic characters (the good and the bad) to make sure even the youngest performers are aware of their history.

The Secret Code is a fresh, funny and entertaining musical providing a good old blast from the past. Stage One presents The Secret Code on 8th and 9th May at Zinc Arts, Ongar. If you would like to come and watch, please call Stage One on 01992 651222.

For more information about Stage One Theatre School, please visit www.stageonetheatreschool.co.uk

Theatre school re-enacts

evacuee transport for

The Secret Code

L-R: Olivia Baura, Mia Byrne and Lucy Kiernan

About Stage One Stage One Theatre School teaches performing

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I would like to tell you about a brilliant workshop that will take place in Theydon Bois on 30th and 31st May,

led by Mathias Schiesser and Urs Tobler, who we fly in from Switzerland especially to facilitate.

TaKeTiNa is a specific style of rhythm work founded by Austrian, Reinhard Flatischler. It is a rhythm workshop based on getting back to the roots of your rhythm. It works on a layered system: the first is spoken sylla-bles, then a simple step to go with these syllables, then claps, and finally sung responses.

These challenges are presented by Mathias or Urs as ‘offers’ that may or may not be taken up, therefore enabling the participant to work at his or her own pace. You can always do less, or even lay down in the circle to take a rest, as the nurturing rhythm surrounding you continues.

We are all born with an innate knowledge of rhythm. TaKeTiNa helps you to reconnect with those roots of rhythm within you. You can experience rhythm the way we most naturally grasp and learn it: by direct physical experience of fundamental rhythmic movement.

The really great thing about it is the warm atmosphere of the workshop in which you can do nothing wrong, rhythmically that is. Participants are never made to feel bad about getting it wrong. ‘Falling out’ of the rhythm is encouraged. And you don’t get criticised.

TaKeTiNa works for beginners, as well as accomplished musicians, because participants can learn at their own pace. It is about letting go of the mind’s control and finding confidence, relaxation and flow as you let your-self be carried by the rhythm.

The training to facilitate TaKeTiNa workshops is exten-sive and takes years. Mathias and Urs are experienced facilitators. As a teacher who has participated in TaKeTiNa for many years, I cannot recommend the workshop highly enough. It is really good fun as well! Come along and give it a try.

Trish Cole TaKeTiNa Workshop 30th & 31st May 2015 at Theydon Bois Community Centre 10.30am to 5.30pm If you are interested and would like more information or book a place please contact me (Trish) on 01992613074, 07759949551 or email trish@trishcole.co.uk

TAKETINA WORKSHOP (RHYTHM WORKSHOP) By Trish Cole, local music teacher

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T he Essex Community Messaging (ECM) launched

recently and is already proving popular with Epping, Theydon Bois and Loughton residents looking to keep up to date with local policing issues.

When signing up to this free service, you can choose to receive messages via text, email or voicemail, with information sent directly from local police officers. Find out more at www.essex.police.uk/ecm and select the area that you want to hear about and the topics that interest you most.

As well as using ECM to engage with the public, you can always speak directly to police officers, and there will be plenty of opportunity to discuss issues and concerns at the upcoming Local Community Meetings, while your local PCSO will be holding regular Street Meets throughout Epping. For more details visit www.essex.police.uk/my_neighbourhood

Be sure at the door

A campaign which aims to pre-vent elderly people becoming victims of rogue traders has been launched by Essex Police, Essex County Council and Age UK Essex.

Be Sure at the Door aims to help potential victims – often elderly people – to avoid falling prey to rogue traders.

Community Agents and Age UK Essex staff will be visiting elderly people across Epping and the rest of the county giving them advice about how to react to cold callers and how to spot a genuine trader.

Fridge magnets have been produced with three vital steps to follow if a cold caller touts for trade, as well as contact details for the Trading Standards’ Buy With Confidence scheme. They are being distributed by Community Agents, Age UK

Essex, Essex Police and some district councils. They are also available from GP surgeries and Essex libraries.

The introduction of Be Sure at the Door forms part of a wider campaign by Essex police to help prevent elderly residents falling victim to bogus callers, following a number of cases that saw people tricked into revealing their bank details. Dc Alan Philips said: “Rogue traders often target vulnerable members of the community offering household property services. Using any method to obtain as much money as possi-ble, they will often only do the job to a poor standard or not undertake the work at all.”

If you think you've been target-ed by a rogue trader, please let us know by calling 101, contact Trading Standards on 08454 040 506 or talk to a friend or rela-tive. If you feel threatened by a sales person in your own home call 999.

Keeping in touch with ESSEX POLICE

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T OWIE’S Billie Faiers and Ferne McCann didn’t let a bit of mud hold them back as they were put

through theirpaces, getting in shape for Cancer Research UK’s Race for Life Pretty Muddy event.

Taking on the Pretty Muddy assault course, 25-year-old mum-of-one Billie and 24-year-old entrepreneur Ferne, showed they are not afraid of a bit of dirt as they took on the challenge despite chilly temperatures.

Race for Life Pretty Muddy takes place in Gloucester Park, in Basildon, on Saturday 27 June and the twosome are encouraging women from across Essex, regardless of their age, shape or fitness level, to gather their friends and family and join the female-only event, to help bring forward the day when all cancers are cured.

Ferne McCann said, “Everyone who takes part in Race for Life is making a huge difference in helping to beat cancer sooner. Anyone can take part so why not get your friends and family involved this summer?” Billie Faiers added:, “We’re so proud to be supporting Cancer Research UK’s Race for Life and back such a fantastic cause. Come on ladies, get involved and sign yourself up at raceforlife.org”.

Cancer Research UK is urging all women to stand together and join the pink army by signing up to take part in the Race for Life, in partnership with Tesco. All funds raised will go towards beating all 200 different types of cancer. As well as Pretty Muddy, women can take part in 5K and 10K events too. With over 300 events taking place this summer, there’s something for everyone.

Gill Burgess, Race for Life event manager, said “All of our Race for Life events are not competitive. They are not about being fit or fast. The reality on the day is that participants of all shapes, sizes and ages generate an electric energy as they unite in their determination to defeat cancer. Pledging to take part in Race for Life, or Pretty Muddy, alongside thousands of likeminded women, is incredibly motivating. The atmosphere at the events is full of emotion. Many will be remembering loved ones lost to cancer or celebrating the lives of people dear to them who have survived.” Enter at raceforlife.org or call the hotline on 0845 600 6050 and follow Race for Life on twitter twitter.com/raceforlife or join the Race for Life Facebook communi-ty facebook.com/raceforlife

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Ask Brenda

Relationship advice from Brenda Clowes MBACP COSRT

I don’t think my partner wants children

I am 35 and I have been with my partner for 8 years. I would like to have children, but he is very negative about it. He has never said outright that he doesn't want children, but

has never been enthusiastic when I bring up the subject. I am worried that if I leave it any longer my chances of conceiving will diminish and it may be a problem.

I love him and do not want to leave, but I feel torn because having a family has always been something that I assumed would happen. Anon

Brenda replies

Do you know why your partner is reluctant to have children? Anxiety about becoming a parent is very common but it is often coupled with a sense of excite-ment and pleasurable anticipation which overcomes the nerves and pushes us forward.

As we know, becoming parents requires major changes to almost everything in our lives. How will we manage financially? Have we enough room? What will we do about maternity leave? What about childcare? How will we deal with sleepless nights? What will happen to our social life? What will I feel like with my body getting big, will I feel taken over? Will the grandparents be available? Will that be helpful or could there be too much intrusion?

Often one partner will see all the pitfalls while the other has a dream baby in mind.

Some people see the end to the exclusive couple as a huge loss. They fear the attention that will be needed by a new little person will mean an end to the focus on each other and that they will become invisible, maybe repeating their painful childhood experience. Perhaps thinking about becoming a mother or father feels as though they are being asked to give more than they feel they have got to give, but cannot put into words or even understand that this might be a cause of their reluctance.

Having children is often discussed early on in the relationship. Many couples are looking for someone to have a family with and the intention is known by both.

The greatest sadness is when one partner has made it clear categorically that they do not want children and

the other has gone along with it thinking that given time they will be able to change their partner's mind and they haven't been able to. For some this is an impasse and parting is the only answer.

Your partner sounds different. He has never said an outright 'no' but has shown no enthusiasm. There are doubts inside him that he may not be clear about him-self.

If you can have some couple counselling sessions, or if he would have some sessions for himself, I think it would help him to understand what is behind the reluctance. This could lead to confirming his doubts but more likely to helping him to understand where the doubts are coming from and empower him.

Experiences when we are growing up have powerful effects on us, but it helps to make links and understand.

We cannot undo the past but we can undo the effects in the present

What do you think?

What are your views? How would you reply to this reader’s problem? Why not email your thoughts to info@magascene.net and we may publish your reply in the next edition.

With thanks to Brenda Clowes. T 020 8505 8328 / M 07943 335954. www.buckhursthillrelationshipcounselling.co.uk

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Couple Counselling in Buckhurst Hill

Brenda Clowes MBACP, COSRT

Individual counselling also available

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Last edition’s problem: Readers’ replies

“Can you tell me what it is reasonable to expect my partner to do when it comes to chores? I thought when we moved into the flat he would share the jobs with me but it hasn't worked out like that. If I ask him to do something he will do that one job and then expect praise for it. I have to do all the organising and most of the housework, as well as a full time responsible job and if I say something he tells me to stop nagging.”

C learly he needs to pull his socks up here. The lazy git! After all you do work too it’s only fair that the

housework is divided between the two of you. You mention your job is not only full time but responsible too. Do you work long hours? If his hours are less wouldn't it be fair that not only should he be helping out at home but even doing more of the lion’s share? Men are simple creatures really. Man handling isn't that much different to dog handling. He clearly responds well to rewards. Think of ways in which to reward him every time he helps out, be it simple praise or even treats that he enjoys. Just make sure these treats aren't supplied when he isn't a good boy. Follow my advice and he will be putty in your hands in no time! Sue, Loughton

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EPPING QUAKERS Meeting for Worship

Sundays 10.30-11.30

Everyone is welcome to join us

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Hall and Rooms for Hire Details on our website

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Alpine Garden Society—Epping Forest Group. Second Tuesday of the month at Theydon Bois Village Hall CM16 7ER at 8pm. www.alpinegardensociety.net/groups/Epping-Forest

The Avenue Lawn Tennis Club. 18 The Avenue, Loughton IG10 4PT. Club sessions: Men—Thursdays 5.30pm and Sunday mornings; Ladies—Tuesdays at 5.30pm; Mixed—Thursdays 11am to 1pm, Fridays 6.30pm, Saturday and Sunday 1.30pm. The club has teams in both the South West Essex (men’s, ladies and mixed) and Essex leagues (men). Contact Lynda Wyles on 0208 505 4704 or email c.wyles@btinternet.com

Badminton Club. We are looking for (mature) players to join our badminton club. We meet on Monday evenings at 8pm at Debden Park High School’s Sports Hall. Please contact Alan on 020 8508 6306.

Book Club. Meet locally once a month. Call Linda on 01992 571178.

Buckhurst Hill Bowls Club. 72 Epping New Road, Buckhurst Hill IG9 5TX. If you are looking for a local, friendly bowls club, please call the Secretary John Pretty 0208 505 3973. www.bhbltc.co.uk Open 7 days a week.

Buckhurst Hill Community Association. Over 80 classes and work-shops held in the friendly and welcoming setting of Bedford House. Day, evening classes: Aerobics, Art, Bridge, Calligraphy, Creative Writing, Family History, Needlecraft, Piano, Pottery, Printmaking, Rambles, Sculpture in Clay, Yoga/Yoga for Pregnancy/Baby Yoga. Saturday workshops: Abstract Art, Art History, Autumn Light (ART), Beaded Earrings, Children’s Art, Collage, Digital Photography, Flow-er Painting, Portrait Photography, Print into Clay, Printmaking (Woodcut/Silkscreen), Repeat Patterns (Art), Watercolour from the Greats, Watercolour (Tricks and Textures). Tel 020 8504 6668.

Chigwell & Epping Forest Orienteering Club. Bored with just Running? In pain from too much running on roads? Try running through forests and having to work out where to go. There is a local event about once a month. For more details ring Helen on 020 8502 1629, or visit chig.org.uk

Chigwell Floral Art Group. Victory Hall 2-4pm every third Thursday of the month. Demonstrations, cream teas and workshops. For further information call Carol on 0208 505 2716, or email carol@cbrighten.fsnet.co.uk

Children’s Yoga Classes in Epping and North Weald. For children aged 2 upwards. Contact Amy Bramble on 07841 378364 or visit amybrambleyoga.blogspot.com for more details.

Dance classes for children from 2 years. Illusions Dance Academy. Melody Bear Ballet, Tip Tap Ballet & Groovy Moves (pre-school classes), ISTD Modern, Tap and Ballet, Street Dance. Taught by professional and qualified teachers. Classes Epping & Loughton. Call 07784 449231 or 07849 946193.

Drum Tuition. All styles: Pop, rock, jazz, Latin, blues...Beginners to advanced. All ages welcome. Call 07803 893722.

Epping Art Society. Pelly Court, Hemnall Street. First Monday and third Wednesday of the month at 7.30pm. Call 01992 613351.

Epping Bowls Club, Lower Bury Lane. New members welcome to join our friendly, local club. Regular tuition sessions take place for beginners. Contact Anne Munro: 01992 561164.

Epping Cricket Club. Three Saturday sides and a Sunday team and colts cricket for boys and girls. Contact Matthew Barrett 07877 923151 or email: matthewbarrett86@gmail.com www.eppingcc.hitscricket.com

Epping-Eppingen Twin Town Association. Exciting cultural, school, musical and personal exchanges with our active and friendly twinned town in southern Germany. Contact Joy Eldridge on 01279 428622.

Epping Football Club, Stonards Hill, Epping. If you are interested in joining the club, contact Steve Allen on 07932 532694, Graham Sly on 07973 530148 or Tracy Wilkinson on 07738 089251. Email: eppingfootball@aol.com or visit www.eppingfc.co.uk

Epping Forest Centenary Trust. Providing practical conservation sessions in Epping Forest for groups, including special needs groups, community groups and youth groups. Call Epping Forest Centenary Trust on 0208 508 9061, email efct@btinternet.com or visit www.efct.info

Epping Forest District Badger Group. 3rd Monday of the month at Hemnall Street Social club, Epping at 8pm. Find out more about the existence and secret life of badgers, and their preservation. Contact 01992 756038. www.eppingforestbg.org.uk

Epping Forest & District Stamp Club. 2nd Tuesday of month at the Dining Room, Roding Valley High School, Loughton. New members and beginners always welcome. Keith Smith 020 8505 5620.

Epping Forest Group of the Alpine Garden Society. Non-members are welcome. For further information please contact the Group Secretary: Keith Ballard on 01992 813231 / email: keith@hetheringtonandco.com

Epping Forest HP (Walking) Group. We are a walking group who walk in Epping, Redbridge and sometimes London each week. Walks start at 10.30am. There is no charge to join walks, optional membership of £4. Social evenings, coach trips and holidays. www.efhfg.org.uk Email: info2009@efhfg.org.uk

Epping Forest Outdoor Group. Are you a walker or a cyclist? Like to enjoy a more varied outdoor and social life? 8.30pm Thursdays, ROVSCO Hall, 72 Hollybush Hill, E11 1PX. Weekends away, day activities and social events. Call Secretary Ken 020 8524 3960. www.efog.org.uk

Epping Forest Rotary Club. Garnon Bushes, Coopersale on Tuesday evenings for meal and regular speaker. If you want to join other business and community minded men and women please contact mrharvey@btinternet.com Telephone 01992 814105 www.RIBI.org

The Epping Horticultural Society. Share gardening tips and enjoy our social events throughout the year. Annual membership £2 and discounts available at the trading hut on the Meadow Road allotment site (Sunday mornings 10am to 12pm). Contact Christine Burgess 01992 577020.

Epping Tennis Club Lower Bury Lane. 4 all weather courts (3 flood-lit). New members welcome—Lessons and coaching available. Visit www.eppingtennisclub.co.uk or call 01992 575602.

Exercise with Me: Exercise for Free!!! Power walking group in Buckhurst Hill, weekday evenings, meet outside The Toby Carvery, 5k distance approx. Call/text 07706 700 666 or go to www.exercisewithme.co.uk for further details.

Forest Creative Writers. 12.45pm to 2.45pm, Thursdays at Loughton Library. Intending new members invited to first free taster session. Contact Pete Relph on 0208 508 6313.

Friends of Swaines Green. Regular conservation days on Swaines Green, Epping. See our website for details www.swainesgreen.org.uk or contact Carol on 01992 575366.

Guitar Lessons—Learn to play guitar. All ages, abilities and styles. Experienced local teacher. Christian Karlsson 07958 471083. Email: chris@stunningmusic.com

Herts & Essex Architectural Research Society. Fourth Friday of the month at 8pm, Church Hall, Loughton Methodist Church, 260 Lough-ton High Road. Call 020 8508 2512 for more details or visit www.westessex.net/hears_info.php

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Homeopathy. Natural health with Jan and Jennie Fox. Available at treatment rooms in Bababoom, High Road, Loughton (for infants, children and mums-to-be). Also Asyro bio-feedback available. Please call 07988 211977 for information or to make a booking.

Jo Jingles. Monday Epping 10am Over 2s and 11am Babies from 3 months to 2 years. Monday Theydon Bois 3:15pm Mixed ages (babies-5years old). Tuesday Harlow 9:30am Over 2s and 10:30am Walking-2years. Call Lucy on 01279 868410 or email: lucyjojingles@hotmail.com www.jojingles.com/bishopsstortford

Karate. Classes for adults and children in Epping, Loughton, Theydon Bois and Nazeing. Contact Sensei Andy Major 07941 164544, email andymajor999@hotmail.co.uk. More details at www.teashido.co.uk

Laughter Workout (Laughter Yoga). Laughter is a great stress buster and has many scientifically proven health benefits. The body does not know the difference between real and pretend laughter, you still get the same benefits. We have a Loughton Group and for details of forthcoming workshops, please visit www.laughterworkout.co.uk for more information.

Lee Valley Friends Rambling Association Group. Specialising in short weekend walks, mainly in West Essex and some London walks. Call 020 8529 1602 or visit www.leavalleyfriends.org.uk

Livewire Rock Academy. Epping-based rock school for children and adults. Formal lessons in electric guitar, bass, drums and keyboards. Free taster lessons available. Email info@livewirerockacademy.co.uk or telephone 07941 670575 www.livewirerockacademy.co.uk

Loughton Astronomical Society (LAS). New members welcome. Thursday 8pm at Scout Hut, Theydon Bois. Tel. 01992 815804. www.las-astro.org.uk Also, junior section, Theydon Bois AstroKyds for 6-14 year-olds meet 2nd Friday of month (term time), 6.30pm to 8pm at St. Mary’s Parish Hall, Theydon Bois.

Loughton Bridge Club. Monday and Wednesday at Oak View School, Whitehills Road, Loughton IG10 1TS. 7.15pm for 7.30pm start. We run a host system so you can come without a partner. Further details at www.bridgewebs.com/Loughton

Loughton Camera Club. Lopping Hall, Loughton. Every Wednesday 8pm-10pm. New members welcome. Contact John Banks 020 8508 4199.

Loughton Folk Club. Thursday from 8pm at Loughton Club, 8 Station Road, Loughton IG10 4NX. Parking front and rear. Email: loughtonfolkclub@googlemail.com or call Jill Coombes 0776 214 6623.

Messy Days. Mother and Toddler Group, Mondays and Fridays 10am to 11am. St Mary’s Church Hall, Theydon Bois. Come along for some messy fun. £4.50 per session. Discount for second child. Pre-school Learning accreditation. Ring Lindsay on 01992 814487.

Petanque (Boules). Epping Horizons Petanque Club. Saturdays and Mondays at 1.30pm on Stonards Hill Recreation Ground. New members always welcome. To arrange a taster session call Peter Lumb 01992 571744 or visit www.ehpetanque.co.uk

Piano Club. Loughton Methodist Church. Wednesdays 10am-12noon. Contact Rea Camus on 01992 571773. We are a group of keen amateur pianists who enjoy making music together and having fun. All standards welcome.

Probus Club of Loughton. Fourth Tuesday every month for lunch and interesting talks from a speaker. For further information please contact Derek Allen on 020 8504 3074.

Probus Forest. Probus Club is actively seeking new members. Monthly meetings and lunch on second Friday 12.30pm at County Hotel, Oak Hill, Woodford Green. Please contact the Secretary mjvh01@virginmedia.com or call 020 8529 6500.

Rotary Club of Loughton and Buckhurst Hill. The Blue Boar, Abridge, RM4 1UA. On Thursdays at 1pm (1st and 3rd Thursdays) and 6.30pm (2nd and 4th Thursdays). For further details call A Harvey on 01992 572867 or visit www.loughtonrotary.org.uk

South West Essex Choir. Welcomes new members. Loughton Methodist Church, High Road, Loughton IG10 1RB on Tuesdays 7.45pm-10pm. No audition is necessary. Please contact Mary McElarney on 01992 812606 or m.mcelarney@tiscali.co.uk www.southwestessexchoir.org.uk

St John Ambulance—Epping Community First Responders. Help to save lives. Full training given. Please contact Sandra Newman on 01992 572545 for more details.

Tappy Toes. Fun and creative dance and movement classes for girls and boys aged 20 months to 41/2 years. Classes in Epping, Loughton and Ongar. Tel 01992 265306, or email claire@tappytoes.com

Theydon Bois Short Mat Bowls. Theydon Bois Village Hall. Thursday 9am to 4pm. Contact Sylvia on 01992 525640. No experience necessary.

Theydon Jazz Club. All welcome. Top-flight traditional jazz bands every Monday 8pm to 10.30pm at Theydon Bois Golf Club, Theydon Road, CM16 4EH. For more information call Dave and Sheila Dyer 01945 588325 or visit www.theydonjazzclub.org.uk

Upshire Short Mat Bowls. Upshire Village Hall. Mondays from 2pm to 5pm and Tuesday and Wednesday evenings 7pm to 10pm. Contacts: Monday; David 01992 715129, Tuesday; Fred 01992 711720 and Wednes-day; Dave 01992 711573. Everyone welcome. No experience necessary.

WEA Loughton & Epping Branch. Details from www.wea-essex.org.uk and leaflets in libraries. Phone Bettie Bock, 020 8508 4919 or e-mail: mrspdale@googlemail.com

West Essex Flower Club. Thornwood Village Hall, Weald Lane. Second Monday of each month (except January and August) from 1.45pm. Visitors and new members always welcome. Contact the Club Secretary for further details on 01992 577036.

West Essex Ramblers. Walk every Wednesday, Thursday, Saturday & Sunday. Most walks countryside, some London. About 10 coach ram-bles Apr-Oct. Each year have a British & foreign walking holiday. For a sample programme, call 020 8502 1628.

Woodford and District Floral Arrangement Group. Every third Monday of the month in the Churchill Room at Wanstead Library, Spratt Hall Road, E11. Doors open at 6.45pm for a prompt 7.30pm start. Guest floral demonstrator every month, raffle and refreshments. Visitors always welcome to join for a small fee of £4.

Yoga. Private or semi private yoga classes in your home or work, in and around the Epping area. Please call/text Louise on 07771 995533 www.eppingyoga.co.uk for more information.

Yoga. Classes and workshops for all levels in Epping and North Weald, Monday to Saturday. Contact Amy on 07841 378364 or visit www.amybrambleyoga.blogspot.com for more details.

Yoga (Fitness Yoga). Mondays 7pm to 8pm at Theydon Bois Primary School, Orchard Drive, CM16 7DH. NEW CLASS Thursdays 9.30am to 10.30am at Youth & Community Centre, Loughton Lane, Theydon Bois, CM16 7JY. Yoga based postures, traditional stretching, core exercises from Pilates, balance work and a final relaxation section. Contact Lucilla on 07956 695077 or visit www.onestopfitness.co.uk for more details.

Yoga (Vinyasa & Hatha). Private classes in Epping & Buckhurst Hill 07725 653682.

(Ivenga) Yoga. Lindsay Street, Epping. Monday evenings from 6pm. Please contact Dorothy on 01992 574623.

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Community & event listings

Club A-Z continued Zumba Fitness. Mondays St Michael’s Church, Loughton 8pm to 9pm; Tuesdays Theydon Bois Primary School 7pm-8pm; Fridays Loughton Club 10am-11am. Email laura_zumba@hotmail.co.uk or call Laura 07581 673998 or Lisa 07775 553722.

Zumba Gold. For the young at heart. Fun musical moves based on Latin rhythms. For more information or to book, call Alison 07790 701 723 or visit www.chancetodance.co.uk

Support Groups Al-Anon FAMILY GROUPS. For friends and family of alcoholics www.al-anonuk.org.uk Email: enquiries@al-anonuk.org.uk Helpline 020 7403 0888 (10am—10pm).

Breathe Easy in Harlow & Epping Forest. Second Tuesday of the month at the Purford Green Community Centre, Purford Green, Harlow CM18 6HP, between 2pm and 4pm. For enquiries, please call 01992 573387. Breathe Easy is the support group of The British Lung Foundation www.blf-uk.org British Lung Foundation direct helpline 03000 030 555.

Parkinson’s UK—Harlow & District Branch. David Livingstone Club, 11 Potter Street, CM17 9AE every Wednesday 11am-3pm. On the first Wednesday of each month there is a speaker from 1pm to 3pm. For more information contact Branch Secretary, Corinne, on 07982 094194 or email: corinne.hall@sky.com All welcome.

Doctors Surgeries Dr Lowry & Partners. High Street, Epping 0844 5769797. The Limes Medical Centre, The Plain, Epping. Appointments/Emergencies/Cancellations 01992 573 838. The Limes Medical Centre, Theydon Bois Branch. Thrifts Mead 01992 812 450.

Hospitals Princess Alexandra Hospital, Harlow. 01279 444 455. St Margaret’s Hospital, Epping. 01992 561 666. NHS Direct. 111.

Therapies Craniosacral Therapy Clinic. The Limes Medical Centre, The Plain, Epping. Contact Liam Hurley on 07941 621887.

Hydrotherapy. Class run by a Chartered Physiotherapist at Loughton Leisure Centre on Tuesdays 1pm to 1.30pm. £9.00 per class. Call Jayne on 07963 349754 for further details and booking.

Osteopath. Epping Osteopathic & Sports Injuries Clinic, The Limes Medical Centre, Theydon Bois 01992 815 166.

Physiotherapist. Appointments available at Theydon Bois Pharmacy, 10 Forest Drive, Theydon Bois CM16 7EY. Contact Jayne Gould, Chartered Physiotherapist, on 07963 349754. www.jg-physio.co.uk

Station Road Wellness Centre. Osteopathy, Chiropody, massage, reflexology, Reiki. 12 Station Road, Epping. Tel. 01992 570003.

Care Services Bluebird Care – provides a full range of care services from shopping and companionship to full personal care including live-in care 24 hours per day, 365 days per year. Bluebird Care Redbridge Office 0208 989 8444. Bluebird Care Brentwood Office 01277 230 763. Bluebird Care Chelmsford Office 01245 263 962.

Sports Centres & Fitness Studios Concept Fitness UK. 224b High Street, Epping 01992 579050. www.conceptfitnessuk.com Epping Sports Centre. 25 Hemnall Street 01992 564 564. Loughton Leisure Centre. Traps Hill, Loughton 01992 564 574. Waltham Abbey Swimming Pool. Roundhills 01992 716 733.

Events Epping Art Society. Pelly Court, Hemnall Street. First Monday and third Wednesday of the month at 7.30pm. Call 01992 613351. Monday 6th April: Practical, still life. Fossils, masks and shells. Wednesday 8th April: Talk, the Naughty Nineties

EppNet. Business Networking. Wednesday morning for breakfast, 7.15am to 9am at The Bell Hotel, Epping. Email info@eppnet.co.uk or call Vincent Goode on 07931 580031.

Essex Society for Family History Harlow Branch. First Saturday of the month at 2.15pm in The Arc (St John’s Church) Old Harlow, CM17 0AJ. Meetings consist of a speaker for 1 hour then tea/coffee and questions to the speaker. £1.50 donation for non-members. www.esfh.org.uk

FAB—Fabulous and Beautiful. If you are undergoing chemotherapy or have recently finished treatment, charity FAB, which runs a three hour session on the first Monday of the month at St. Margaret’s Hospital in Epping (11am to 2pm) may be just the tonic. Please call Laura Jones on 01279 827396.

Farmers’ Market organised by the Loughton Residents’ Association on the first Sunday of the month. Centric Parade, High Road, Loughton. 9am-2pm.

Music at Marigolds Jazz Club. Harlow Cricket Club, Chippingfield, Old Harlow, CM17 0DJ. Enquiries 01279 414174/421763. Doors open 7.30pm. Price guide £7-£8. www.musicatmarigolds.co.uk April 10 Blues Abuse April 24 The Derek Nash Quartet May 8 The John Edmonds Blues Band with Doc Ika May 29 The Robert Fowler Quintet with Karen Sharpe

SmartNet Essex. Informal, monthly lunch meetings for business men and women at the Blue Boar, Abridge. We meet on the second Thursday of the month, 12pm to 2pm. Call Julie to book on 07843 260 186 or email: info@smartnetessex.co.uk

TaKeTiNa Workshop 30th & 31st May 2015 at Theydon Bois Community Centre 10.30am to 5.30pm. To book, please call Trish on 01992613074, 07759949551 or email trish@trishcole.co.uk

Please send June and July listings to jane@magascene.net by May 15th, 2015.

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