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LOVE & SUPPORTHelping your child succeed in school (and life)
Mrs. CJ Fisher & Mrs. Katie BrownELL Family Night, 12/12/12
Shuksan Middle School
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Why We’ve Gathered Tonight
Families’ attitudes
and actions can ensure students success.
Families will gain practical strategies for supporting their child's learning and success at school
Families will choose two learning actions to try at home
Families will learn that other parents face similar difficulties at home and feel a sense of community.
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Truth #1
#1. Children need love and support before they need academic tutoring
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What leads to student success?
Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child, Dr. John Gottman
"Studies show that children who feel respected
and valued in their families do better in school,
have more friendships, and live healthier,
more successful lives.”
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Support = showing empathy
What it is:Empathy is an
understanding what a child feels
It is a true understanding that the task is difficult.
You don’t have to agree to empathize
POSSIBLE ACTION
What it sounds like:
"Yes, it will probably be a tough [assignment] today. C'mon, let me help you get ready."
youthsports.rutgers.edu
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Support = speaking love & encouragement
On average, we have 20 minutes a day to… ◦ register a complaint,
a command, or a request for assistance
As kids grow older, the ratio of negative to positive comments appears to increase
POSSIBLE ACTION
Try to up your ratio of positive to negative comments.
4:1? 5:1? 8:1? The number
doesn’t matter… the impact is what matters.
familyeducation.com
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Words that make kids feel great
Yes Good Fine Very good Very fine Excellent Marvelous That’s right Correct Wonderful I like the way you do that I’m pleased with (proud of ) youThat’s good Wow Oh boy Very nice Good work
Great going Good for you Great effortThat’s the way
Much better O.K. You’re doing better Good idea What a clever idea
That’s it Good job Great job controlling yourself I like the way you ______
I noticed that you ____ Keep it up I had fun ______ with youYou are improving at ______ more and more
You showed a lot of responsibility when you ______Way to go I appreciate the way you ______
You are great at that You’re the bestGood remembering That’s beautiful I like your______
I like the way you ______ with out having to be asked
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Truth #2Families do play a critical role
in students’ academic success
as strategic coaches, not demanding bossesYe
s!
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ATTITUDES OF SUPPORTIVE FAMILIES
Praise kids for working hard, not for being
smart
Brain Rules by Dr. John
Medina
What can happen when we praise kids
for being smart?
Encourage “personal
best”
Personal best does not
mean perfect
Learning is not the same thing as high
grades
We all need the freedom to learn from our mistakes
Show interest in school work
Avoid nagging and over-
interrogating about home
work
Here are some more great
ideas….
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Show Interest In School by…
Talk about school each day.Ask to see class work.Listen to your child read aloud Read to and with your child from
a variety of material in your first language.
Contact teachers for Wednesday meetings
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ACTIONS OF SUPPORTIVE FAMILIES
Help set goals.
Grades
Activities
Behaviors
Organize with your
child.
Backpack
Agenda/Planner
Binder
Establish homework
routine
Same place and
time every day
Support 100 %
attendance
Attendance linked
to graduatio
n rates
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Truth #3All families experience
academic and school difficulties.
There are many resources (other parents included) to
help solve specific problems.
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ADVICE FROM “Help on the Home Front for Disappointing
Grades,” from Getting to Calm by Dr. Laura Kastner
Don’t make
it worse.
Keep a positive relation-
ship.
Link homework and good grades to
social freedoms
or to temporary
prizes.
Organize the home
space.
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Organize the home space. Teens may need their
parents’ help in planning, organizing and persisting.
Intrude as little as possible
Help a disorganized teen manage his social and athletic life to include a time and place for concentrating on schoolwork.
POSSIBLE ACTION◦ Decide on a block of
time for home study hall◦ Limit access to media.◦ Figure out the best
location◦ Determine whether
parent “coaching” will be effective
◦ Consult with teachers or school counselors, who may have additional ideas and insights into the problem.
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Strategies When Grades Slip
Make a plan with your
student’s input
Make homework time, learning
time
Ask for help
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Getting to Calm (Kastner, p. 213)
Make a plan with your student’s input.
They won’t do it, if they don’t buy in.
What plan can you create with your student to improve grades?
POSSIBLE ACTION◦ Create a
homework contract with your student
◦ Use it for a limited time
◦ Monitor◦ Check in◦ Adjust◦ Celebrate
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Make homework time, learning time.
How can you respond if your student says, “I don’t have homework!
POSSIBLE ACTION
Make study time a priority
Use Learning Time Checklist or other resources for additional learning activities
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Reach out for help.Since all families
experience these problems, there are many, many resources.
POSSIBLE ACTION
Use problem/solution cards for strategic intervention
Call your student’s teachers
Join a parent class like “Strengthening Families”
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Truth #4Sometimes,
we all benefit from taking a step back.
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Getting to Calm (Kastner), p. 225
The Big 10 Characteristics of a Successful Teen
Motivation and drivePractical reasoning and judgmentMoral attentiveness and characterEmotional awarenessHealthy habitsSelf-control and emotional managementSocial skillsCommunication skillsIntellectual interests and abilitiesSpiritual awareness
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How can we set up our students for success in life?
Getting to Calm (Kastner), p. 225
Focus on an
authoritative and warm
relationship with
students
View intellectual interests
as only one of a
whole set of
developing
characteristics
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What are some take-aways from tonight’s discussion?
*Let’s review our checklist. Select 2-4 strategies you would like to start using with your student.
*Write a note of encouragement. If you’d like to take a moment to connect with your student, blank note cards are available.
*Thank you for attending tonight. This presentation and other handouts will be available on Shuksan’s webpage in the “Families” section. Please contact any Shuksan staff member with any questions or concerns.
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ResourcesThese resources were consulted in the preparation of this class
U.S. Department of Education www.Scholastic.com/parents
www.Internet4classrooms.com/parents www.School.Familyeducation.com
www.Parentmap.com Brain Rules by John Medina
Beyond Smart by Linda Morgan Getting to Calm by Kastner & Wyatt
www.Gettingtocalm.com “Parent to Parent” videos on King 5 or at parentmap.com
40 Developmental Assets for Adolescents
www.search-institute.org
The Lawrence Hall of Science at UCAL, Berkeley
www.Lawrencehallofscience.org/parents/support