living with adhd lessons ii from norma mar 2011
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Living with AD/HD: Lessons from Norma-Some learned/some still needed
Reconciling the Mask of Competence with the Struggles Underneath
My thoughts, my experiencesMatt Cohen
March 1, 2011
Like Many People with AD/HD, I often feel….
• Inadequate• Self-doubting• Unloved or unlovable• Self-blaming• Phony• Defensive• Highly demanding of
myself, but very self-critical
• Prone to take risks
• Sensitive to criticism• Have difficulty
acknowledging problems or confronting difficult situations with others
• Difficulty saying no • Overwhelmed,
emotionally and with daily tasks
• Easily distractible and sometimes unaware of the consequences of the situation.
Outward bravado, hyper- control or activity mask internal distress
• Pain• Loneliness• Embarrassment• Isolation• Anxiety• Guilt • Lack of control • Fear of the world collapsing• Difficulty doing what we know is needed…• Trouble being open and direct with ourselves and others
Lack of self-confidence, self-trust and self-discipline leads to
avoiding problems, self-deception and rationalization
and difficulty being truthful with self
and others
Dealing with it….
• Awareness • Acceptance • Taking charge of yourself• Being open with your self and the people
around you • Seeking help and support from others• Never give up and never forget that these
issues have to be managed, but don’t go away.
I can’t find peace from and with others unless I can find peace with myself!
Norma- You are an amazing teacher, guide, partner and support. I will keep learning and growing.. I love you and I thank you, .Matt