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Sunday, April 29, 2018 Page 2 Liturgy Schedule Chapel Monday, April 30 8:00am - Henry & Catherine Kantosky Tuesday, May 1 8:00am - Tammy Kazmierczak - Family Thursday, May 3 8:00am - Mary Ellen Carmel - Pat Whitman Friday, May 4 8:00am - Grace Pijor - Dennis & Jim Church Sixth Sunday of Easter Saturday, May 5 2:00pm - Matt Abahazi & Grace Turner Wedding 3:30pm - Confessions 4:30pm - The Plas Family Sunday, May 6 8:30am - Mona Pleban - Family 11:00am - Living and Deceased Members of Our Lady’s Guild READINGS FOR THE WEEK Monday: Acts 14:5-18; Ps 115:1-4, 15-16; Jn 14:21-26 Tuesday: Acts 14:19-28; Ps 145:10-13ab, 21; Jn 14:27-31a or (for the memorial) Gn 1:26 — 2:3 or Col 3:14-15, 17, 23-24; Ps 90:2-4, 12-14, 16; Mt 13:54-58 Wednesday: Acts 15:1-6; Ps 122:1-5; Jn 15:1-8 Thursday: 1 Cor 15:1-8; Ps 19:2-5; Jn 14:6-14 Friday: Acts 15:22-31; Ps 57:8-10, 12; Jn 15:12-17 Saturday: Acts 16:1-10; Ps 100:1b-3, 5; Jn 15:18-21 Sunday: Acts 10:25-36, 34-35, 44-48; Ps 98:1-4; 1 Jn 4:7-10 or 1 Jn 4:11-16; Jn 15:9-17 or Jn 17:11b-19 Pray for the Sick: David Blackburn, Betty Kuepfer, Jose' Magiste, Sandy Vasbinder, Leon Denomme, Pam Jenkins, Jim Hempfling, David Myers, Kathy Borowy, Shirley Livchak, Dave Kleinhenz, Jerry Severns, Carol Cordy, Nancy Johnson, Tami Lynsky, Jeanne Kowalski, Dorothy Pondy, Bille Updegrove, Debbie Hutnyak, Robert Falatic, Aaron Hokes, Kathy Buckland, Grace Smith, Greg and Judy Simmerly, Amanda Sinegar, JoAnne Collins, Anna Gibbons, Marie Holt, Brooke Hokes, Mary England, Brian Jaram, Tony Ferritto and Ava Marie Tyler. Please call the Parish Office 440-926-2364, or email us at info@olqpgrafton,org to have a name of a friend or relative included in this list. Wedding Banns III– Matt Abahazi & Grace Turner BLUE SUNDAY is a faith-based initiative to lead the community in awareness of children who are abused or neglected and the need for foster parents. Did you know: 4,424 Lorain County children were reported as abused or neglected in 2017. Our community’s children are mostly affected by neglect (1027) then physical abuse (937). Most children can be protected safely at home with the right community supports and resources. If children cannot stay at home, relatives are sought out so the child can stay with familiar people. If relatives aren’t available to care for a child, the child can stay with a local foster family trained and licensed through Lorain County Children Services. For more information visit ChidrenServices.org/FaithCommunity. BLESSINGS FOR BABIES: The Baby Bottle Campaign for Birthright of Lorain County is from April 21 st to April 29 th . Please drop off your bottles this weekend, April 28/29. All donations will help Birthright, an all-volunteer, pro-life pregnancy support service that has served Lorain County since 1973. All services are free and confidential. They provide pregnancy tests, help with social services in the community, formula, diapers, baby food, maternity clothes, and clothing for infants and children. Thank you for being Christ for others through Birthright. LITUGICAL MINISTERS: Special Requests for the June - August scheduling period need to be turned in by Monday, May 7 th . Forms can be found in the St. Joseph’s room or on-line. SPOTLIGHT MINISTRY: This weekend the Knight’s of Columbus will be featured in the Gathering Area after all masses. Please stop by their table and see what their organization is all about.

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Page 1: Liturgy Schedule BLUE SUNDAY · Liturgy Schedule Chapel Monday, April 30 8:00am - Henry & Catherine Kantosky ... Jacob Kobylarz Alexis Kramer Nora Lundberg Molly Ockuly Delaney Reed

Sunday, April 29, 2018 Page 2

Liturgy Schedule

Chapel Monday, April 30 8:00am - Henry & Catherine Kantosky Tuesday, May 1 8:00am - Tammy Kazmierczak - Family Thursday, May 3 8:00am - Mary Ellen Carmel - Pat Whitman Friday, May 4 8:00am - Grace Pijor - Dennis & Jim

Church Sixth Sunday of Easter Saturday, May 5 2:00pm - Matt Abahazi & Grace Turner Wedding 3:30pm - Confessions 4:30pm - The Plas Family Sunday, May 6 8:30am - Mona Pleban - Family 11:00am - Living and Deceased Members of Our Lady’s

Guild

READINGS FOR THE WEEK

Monday: Acts 14:5-18; Ps 115:1-4, 15-16; Jn 14:21-26

Tuesday: Acts 14:19-28; Ps 145:10-13ab, 21; Jn 14:27-31a or (for the memorial) Gn 1:26 — 2:3 or Col 3:14-15, 17, 23-24; Ps 90:2-4, 12-14, 16; Mt 13:54-58

Wednesday: Acts 15:1-6; Ps 122:1-5; Jn 15:1-8 Thursday: 1 Cor 15:1-8; Ps 19:2-5; Jn 14:6-14 Friday: Acts 15:22-31; Ps 57:8-10, 12; Jn 15:12-17 Saturday: Acts 16:1-10; Ps 100:1b-3, 5; Jn 15:18-21 Sunday: Acts 10:25-36, 34-35, 44-48; Ps 98:1-4;

1 Jn 4:7-10 or 1 Jn 4:11-16; Jn 15:9-17 or Jn 17:11b-19

Pray for the Sick: David Blackburn, Betty Kuepfer, Jose' Magiste, Sandy Vasbinder, Leon Denomme, Pam Jenkins, Jim Hempfling, David Myers, Kathy Borowy, Shirley Livchak, Dave Kleinhenz, Jerry Severns, Carol Cordy, Nancy Johnson, Tami Lynsky, Jeanne Kowalski, Dorothy Pondy, Bille Updegrove, Debbie Hutnyak, Robert Falatic, Aaron Hokes, Kathy Buckland, Grace Smith, Greg and Judy Simmerly, Amanda Sinegar, JoAnne Collins, Anna Gibbons, Marie Holt, Brooke Hokes, Mary England, Brian Jaram, Tony Ferritto and Ava Marie Tyler.

Please call the Parish Office 440-926-2364, or email us at info@olqpgrafton,org to have a name of a friend or relative included in this list.

Wedding Banns III– Matt Abahazi & Grace Turner

BLUE SUNDAY is a faith-based initiative to lead the community in awareness of children who are abused or neglected and the need for foster parents. Did you know:

− 4,424 Lorain County children were reportedas abused or neglected in 2017.

− Our community’s children are mostly affectedby neglect (1027) then physical abuse (937).

− Most children can be protected safely at homewith the right community supports andresources.

− If children cannot stay at home, relatives aresought out so the child can stay with familiarpeople.

− If relatives aren’t available to care for a child,the child can stay with a local foster familytrained and licensed through Lorain CountyChildren Services.

− F o r m o r e i n f o r m a t i o n v i s i tChidrenServices.org/FaithCommunity.

BLESSINGS FOR BABIES: The Baby Bottle Campaign for Birthright of Lorain County is from April 21st to April 29th. Please drop off your bottles this weekend, April 28/29. All donations will help Birthright, an all-volunteer, pro-life pregnancy support service that has served Lorain County since 1973. All services are free and confidential. They provide pregnancy tests, help with social services in the community, formula, diapers, baby food, maternity clothes, and clothing for infants and children. Thank you for being Christ for others through Birthright.

LITUGICAL MINISTERS: Special Requests for the June - August scheduling period need to be turned in by Monday, May 7th. Forms can be found in the St. Joseph’s room or on-line.

SPOTLIGHT MINISTRY: This weekend the Knight’s of Columbus will be featured in the Gathering Area after all masses.

Please stop by their table and see what their organization is all about.

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Pastors Corner: This weekend we welcome to the Eucharistic Table for the first time the following children: Alexander Cleary Brendan Cleary Brooke Cleary Ryder DiFranco William Dunlap Dylan Frawley Lilyanne Greller Ryan Howell Sean Howell Jacob Kobylarz Alexis Kramer Nora Lundberg

Molly Ockuly Delaney Reed Blake Rybicki Hunter Slee Please keep these children in your prayers on this special day. I wish to thank the teachers of our 2nd graders, Kathy Sampson, Sally Bansek, Mandy Bansek and Jeanne Johnson as well the Pre-School and 1st grade teachers for helping to prepare these children. Parents and family have played a crucial role in nurturing the seed that was planted at baptism. At baptism, parents made a commitment to raising their child in the faith. A child’s 1st Communion is a major part of this commitment but it does not fulfil a parents responsibilities as this is just the beginning of their faith journey. With the support of the parish community we help each other to live out that parental responsibility. Our baptismal commitment to follow Jesus requires constant growth in our knowledge of God’s ways and learning to incorporate God’s ways in our daily lives. The Eucharist, as Food for the Journey, nurtures, sustains and directs our lives on this faith journey. May we, parents and the larger community, be a witness to our 1st communicants of the desire and the necessity of coming to the Eucharist Table weekly.

Fr. John

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EUCHARISTIC MINISTERS NEEDED: Our Ministry of Care is in need of additional Eucharistic Ministers to take communion to the homebound and nursing homes. In bringing communion to those who are not able to participate with the community at Mass you are not only bringing the grace of the sacrament but the reassurance that the person being visited is not forgotten. This could be a monthly or a weekly commitment depending on your availability. If interested please call the parish office or talk to Fr. John. TRAINING FOR NEW EUCHARISTIC MINISTERS: We are in need of additional Eucharistic Ministers. To be certified as an Extraordinary Minister of Holy Communion one needs to attend a diocesan training session followed by a practical training session at the parish. The Spring training schedule has been set and the closest one to us is at St Agnes in Elyria on Sunday, May 27th from 2:00-4:30pm. Other sessions are listed on our website at: https://olqpgrafton.org/eucharistic-ministers. If you are interested in becoming a Eucharistic Minister please contact Fr. John to register.

CATHOLIC CHARITIES: Thank you! Because of your support, Catholic Charities is able to address the most pressing social issues facing our diocese; poverty, homelessness, addiction, loneliness, the elderly and the disabled. As of March 31, a total of 35,544 donors have pledged $9,315,960 toward a goal of $12.5M. Here at Our Lady Queen of Peace, 213 parishioners have pledged $39,729 toward our parish goal of $43,612. That is 91.10% of our overall goal! Your financial support will make a lasting difference in transforming the live of another, bringing help and hope to the poor and forgotten. Thank you on behalf of those served by Catholic Charities. If you have not yet donated, please consider a generous gift to the Catholic Charities Annual Appeal. Contact Karen Joyce at 216-696-6525 ext. 1910 to make a gift by phone or make a secure gift at www.catholiccommunity.org/donate. We invite you to view the stories of transformation and see the faces of those impacted by your generosity. Please visit: www.catholiccommunity.org/2018appeal

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STEWARDSHIP CORNER: When we were baptized, we were given the gift of a personal vocation to follow Jesus Christ and to accept the commitments and responsibilities this vocation entails. By seeing ourselves as disciples of Jesus Christ and stewards of the gifts given to us, we are called to recognize and use our God-given talents and resources as we go forth in mission. Becoming a disciple leads to the practice of stewardship that has its beginning in Baptism, deepens with the gift of the Holy Spirit at Confirmation and is nurtured by the Eucharist. In what ways are you practicing stewardship in your daily life? GLFF NEWS: Our next Family Mass will be May 13th at 11:00am. We invite and need families to participate in the various Mass ministries. Embrace this rewarding opportunity to appreciate the Mass more by actively being involved. Please go to the parish homepage at http://olqpgrafton.org/ and select the "Family Mass Sign-Up" link. All parish families are welcome to signup. GLFF classes will resume on Sunday, September 9th. FAMILY PROMISE: We will be welcoming families into our church for the week of 5/20, from the Family Promise program. We would love to see volunteers from previous weeks as well as new volunteers. If you have thought about helping, please come speak with us in the gathering area the weekend of 5/12, 5/13 to find out the different opportunities you can help or call Linda 216-701-3954, Christine 440-315-7689, or Judy 440-320-8057. FIRST FRIDAY FORUM: Join us on Friday, May 4th at 11:30am in the Spitzer Center at LCCU, as Ms. Camille Gill and Sister Mary Harwood presents “Immigration: Through the Eyes and the Heart of the Church”. Camille Gill is the Managing Attorney of Cleveland Catholic Charities Immigration Legal Services program. Sister Rita Mary Harwood is presently serving on the executive staff of the Most Reverend Nelson J. Perez, Bishop of the Diocese of Cleveland, Ohio. Heading the Secretariat for Parish Life and Development, Sister’s responsibilities are for the parishes of the diocese across the eight counties of Northeast Ohio. Contact the parish office or call the reservation line at 440-244-0643 or e-mail [email protected]

SCHOLARSHIP: We will be awarding two $500 scholarships to eligible parishioners who complete the application form by May 14th. To be eligible a candidate must be a parishioner of Our Lady Queen of Peace and active in the parish, or active in the church on campus were they go to college. Applications can be picked up in the Gathering Area, Parish Office or the parish website. To fund these scholarship there will be a second collection the weekend of May 5/6.

PARISH FESTIVAL: Our Eighth Annual Homecoming Days will be August 3rd & 4th. There will be entertainment, games, exhibits, festival food and of course fireworks. The website is now updated with the latest

information about the festival www.olqpgrafton/festival. This year our kick-off will encompass two weekends, May 5/6 and May 12/13. Please stop by the Festival table to pickup/purchase raffle tickets and some of the flyers we have available for distribution. FUNERAL LUNCHEON HELP NEEDED: Have you been looking for something to do in the parish but you have not found anything that interests you? How about volunteering to help out at the funeral luncheons. We are in need of individuals (men and women) to help setup, serve and clean up for funeral luncheons. What a great way to give of yourself to a family who is mourning the loss of a loved one. If you are interested or would like more information, please contact Bernie Zielinsk at 440-821-4533 or Jane Hutchinson at 305-205-4241. WOMEN OF FAITH: Women of all ages are welcome to come together and grow spiritually in community. We will gather on Monday, May 7th at 6:30pm in the Parish Hall. We will view and discuss two films titled, "Why and how should I pray?" and "Why and how should I read the Bible?" If you have any questions, please contact Grace Ogonek at [email protected]

Thank you for your generous support of our Parish, and your help with the needs of the community through your ongoing participation in our various ministries. Actual Goal Difference Sunday, Apr 22: $ 9,587.36 $ 9,000.00 $ 587.36 Sunday Y-T-D: $412,068.46 $378,000.00 $34,068.46 Holy Land: $ 2,140.97

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This Week in the Parish: Sunday, April 29 8:30 & 11:00am - Welcoming Weekend (Church) Monday, April 30 7:00pm - Choir (Church) 7:00pm - Liturgy Mtg (Parish Hall Rm. 1) 8:00pm - Art & Environment Mtg. (Parish Hall

Rm. 1) Tuesday, May 1 7:00pm - Pack 152 Committee Mtg. (Parish Hall

Rm. 2) 7:00pm - KOC Mtg. (Parish Hall Rm. 1) Wednesday, May 2 8:00am - Comfort Cap Sewing (Parish Hall Rm. 1) 7:00pm - Ladies Night Out Mtg. (Parish Hall Rm. 2) Thursday, May 3 7:00pm - Parish Council Mtg. (Parish Hall Rm. 1) Friday, May 4 1:30pm - Keystone Pointe Nursing Home Saturday, May 5 9:00am - Food Pantry (Parish Hall) 10:00am - Scouts Rocket Launch (Parish Grounds) 10:30am - Prayer Shawl Mtg. (Parish Hall Rm. 1) 2:00pm - Jr. Choir Practice (Church) Sunday, May 6 9:00am - HNS Breakfast (Parish Hall) 11:00am - Parish Nurse (Gathering Area)

PARISH INFORMATION † Weddings: Couples need to make arrangements at least six months prior to the wedding date. † Baptism: Baptisms are celebrated at a mutually convenient time. Please call the office to make arrangements. † Ministry to the Sick: Please notify the office for visits to parish-ioners in the hospital. † New parishioners: Are asked to register as soon as possible at the Parish Office or by phone. † Inquiry Classes in the Catholic Religion: Persons interested in becom-ing Catholic are asked to contact the Parish Office for information about the Rite of Christian Initiation of Adults, RCIA.

PANCAKE BREAKFAST: The Holy Name will be hosting an all you can eat Pancake, Sausage and Eggs breakfast on Sunday, May 6th from 9:00am - 12:30pm. Adults $7.00, Children 12 and under $5.00

and children under 3 are free. Coffee, juice and milk are included with the breakfast. PRAYER SHAWL: Our next meeting will be this coming Saturday, May 5, 2018 at 10:30am in room 1 of the parish hall. Anyone is welcomed whether you can knit, crochet, or sew. Join us for fellowship and sharing. Any question, call Kathy Smeltz at 419-544-2491 or Sue Schneigenberg at 440-926-1610. See everyone Saturday

50th WEDDING ANNIVERSAY: The Department for Marriage and Family Ministry, the Office for Worship, and the Cathedral of St. John the Evangelist are pleased to announce the 50th Wedding Anniversary Celebration. The Mass will be held on Sunday, July 29, 2018 at the Cathedral of St. John the Evangelist. Mass begins at 2:30pm with Bishop Martin Amos presiding. Please use the following instructions for returning the registrations: Couples are encouraged to resister online at: www.ccdocle.org/mfm at their convenience, or contact the parish office. The deadline for registration is Monday, June 25, 2018. A confirmation letter will be sent out along with instruction sometime in early to mid-July.

COMFORT CAPS: Our Ministry will have a sewing day this Wednesday, May 2nd from 10:00am – 6:00pm. If you have a machine please bring it. Even if you cannot sew there are many jobs that do not require sewing. Snacks, a light lunch and fellowship will be provided.

Holy Name Society Golf Outing: Please join the Holy Name for a 4-man Scramble Golf Outing on Saturday, June

30, 2018 starting at 9:00am ‘shotgun start’ at Pine Brook Golf Course. Cost for the outing is $75 per person, which includes; 18 holes of golf with cart, food, beverages, and snacks! There will be various raffles, and skills games. Watch the bulletin for when sign-up will begin. Can’t Golf! Would you consider being a hole sponsor? Any parishioner who would like to sponsor a hole or would like to have their company or knows of a company or someone who would like to sponsor a hole, please contact Jim Andrews at the Parish Office 440 926-2364, Jim Lynsky 440 926-3389, Max Jalowiec 440 567-0201 or Dave Ward 440 926-3996.

BE WHAT YOU SEEK Even as you seek a virtuous, fair, and good spouse . . . it is fitting that you should be the same. —St. Bernardine of Siena