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A hands-on charity: eye surgeons curing the blind in India’s forgotten areas

At least two million people who are blind from cataract in India live in the rural areas of India.

They are part of the ‘other India’ that has reaped no benefit from the country’s phenomenal economic growth.

Up to half the population lives on less than 15pence a day.

Second Sight provide both experienced eye surgeons and money to fund the sight-restoring surgery that they offer free to the blind.

www.secondsight.org.uk

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