Life Skills by William Allan Kritsonis, PhD

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  • 1. William Allan Kritsonis, PhD Professor PhD Program in Educational Leadership Prairie View A&M University Member of the Texas A&M University System To be healthy we need good nutrition, exercise, time for relaxation, redefine roles,establish rituals, refine communication skills, have a balanced diet, and reduce stress.Regenerative professional behavior - Gradual professional improvement over time.Degenerative professional behavior Gradual lack of professional improvement overtime.Stable professional behavior Professional performance remains the same over time.Intermittent professional behavior Professional improvement comes and goes.Things rapidly get better then get worse. Episodes can be severe and last for short orlong periods of time. Managing My Anger 1. What are some reasons why I feel angry with myself? 2. What do I do when someone is angry with me? 3. How do I usually express my anger? 4. What are some of the consequences of my anger? 5. In what situations has my anger been appropriate? Anger in Relationships 1. When I am angry with people, how do I usually treat them? 2. How do my actions differ, depending on the individual I am angry with? 3. How much power do I give to people who are angry with me? 4. How much power do I think I have when I feel very angry? 5. How have I used my anger to help someone? 2012 William Allan Kritsonis, PhD All Rights Reserved/Forever
  • 2. William Allan Kritsonis, PhD Professor PhD Program in Educational Leadership Prairie View A&M University Member of the Texas A&M University System Finding Your Strengths1. What is your greatest personal achievement to date?2. What is the biggest problem you have solved?3. What is a deep commitment or principle you have something about which you never budge?4. What personal motto do you live by?5. What are three things that you do well?6. If you died today, what three things would you most like to be said about you? Solving Problems1. What area of your life was involved in this problem?2. What problem existed?3. Who was involved?4. How did you solve the problem?5. What did you learn from this experience?6. How could you apply these lessons to your life? 2012 William Allan Kritsonis, PhD All Rights Reserved/Forever
  • 3. William Allan Kritsonis, PhD Professor PhD Program in Educational Leadership Prairie View A&M University Member of the Texas A&M University System Discover Your Beliefs Please read the following list of self-defeating beliefs. Put a check mark besidethe beliefs that affect your own thinking.BELIEFS ABOUT YOURSELF 1. I should never make mistakes. 2. I must please others to be worthy. 3. If people knew me as I really am they would not like me. 4. To please others is better than to please myself. 5. I am not capable. 6. I am not a worthwhile person. 7. If I died, no one would notice. 8. My opinions dont matter. 9. My thoughts are dumb. 10. I am a bad person. 11. The bad things Ive done cannot be forgiven. 12. I am not as smart as others, so Im no good. 13. I dont deserve pleasure. 14. I will not be attractive when I am older. 15. I am not capable of loving people. 16. I must live up to others expectations. 17. I am powerless and helpless. 18. I should never be angry or irritable. 19. Unless you worry about a problem, it gets worse. 20. If I am a good parent, my children will be perfect.BELIEFS ABOUT THE WORLD 1. People cant be trusted. 2. People dont want to listen to me. 3. The world is not a safe place. 4. If I am happy, something bad will soon happen. 5. The world wont survive and neither will I. 6. Life isnt fair, and I cannot handle that. 7. People cant be trusted. 8. The world owes me a living (or needs to take care of me). 9. Most other people are happier and better off than I am. 10. You need to be smart, rich, powerful, and attractive to be happy.
  • 4. BELIEFS ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS 1. What my partner says or does reflects on me. 2. If my partner is attractive or unattractive, it reflects on me. 3. My job is to improve my partner. 4. My partner is supposed to take care of me. 5. Men cant be trusted. 6. Women cant be trust. 7. My partner cant survive with me. 8. I cant survive without my partner. 9. I cant attract (or keep) a good person. 10. All the good men (or women are already taken)QUESTION YOUR BELIEFS Look at the three beliefs that you just checked. These beliefs have the strongesteffect on you. They could lead to future problems. Ask two questions of each belief youidentified: 1. IS THIS BELIEF TRUE? What evidence do I have that the belief is true? What is the evidence against this belief? Does this statement always hold up? 2. DOES THIS BELIEF HELP ME? Is this belief useful? Does this statement promote any happiness and well-being? Will this thought be a positive factor in my life? 2012 William Allan Kritsonis, PhD All Rights Reserved/Forever
  • 5. William Allan Kritsonis, PhD Professor PhD Program in Educational Leadership Prairie View A&M University Member of the Texas A&M University System Making Decisions Making choices is part of life. Although you do it all the time, you may notrealize that you make many decisions every day. Decisions that are a part of your dailyroutine become habits.Exercise 1: Decisions, reasons, feelings Think of two decisions you made in the last week. On this page write down whatthose decisions were, why you made the, and how you felt about the results.EXAMPLEDecision: I decided to write a letter to my friend Dave. I told him I was sorry that I didnt payhim back he rent money. I told him where I am and promised to pay him back as soon as I can.Reason(s): I wanted to make amends. I felt bad that I didnt pay Dave back. I wanted to let himknow that Im going to pay what I owe.Feelings about the result: I felt better after writing the letter. It was the right time to tell Dave Iwas sorry.DECISION: ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________Reason (s): ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________Feelings about the result: _______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ 2012 William Allan Kritsonis, PhD All Rights Reserved/Forever
  • 6. William Allan Kritsonis, PhD Professor PhD Program in Educational Leadership Prairie View A&M University Member of the Texas A&M University System Managing Money Few of us get the training needed to make good choices with our money. Money troublesmay become tangled up with other parts of life. Money management tools are useful for anyone.They will help you deal with debts, make a realistic budget, make your budget work, get helpwith money problems, and control your spending and saving.FIXED MONTHLY EXPENSES include regular and predictable expenses that come due verymonth: 1. Rent 2. Telephone 3. Utilities 4. Insurance (health, car, life) 5. Transportation (car payments, gas, bus or subway) 6. Child care (support payments, babysitting, health, and school costs) 7. Debt repayment (credit cards, student loans, and other loans) 8. OtherPERIODIC EXPENSES include bills that you pay once or several times a year. If you dont planthese expenses they can throw you into a crisis when the bills suddenly come due: 1. Car (insurance, license tabs plate renewal, general maintenance, repairs) 2. Emergencies 3. Home expenses not covered by insurance (prescription medication, over-the-counter medicine, counseling, clinic visits) 4. Dental work 5. OtherFLEXIBLE EXPENCES include optional items or discretionary spending. Even though youneed many of the items in this category, you have more choice in how much you spend on them: 1. Gro