Learning to live...

Learning to love

Learning to trust...

Learning to give...

Learning to Leave a Legacy

thanks to Stephen Covey

Learning to live...

Learning to love

Learning to trust...

Learning to give...

Learning to Leave a Legacy

“Live LIFE King-size“

"When we love, we are the universe and the universe lives in us"

“Trusting others creates Trustworthiness“

“We earn our living by what we get; we earn our Life by what we give"

“When you were born, you were crying and every one around you was smiling; live your life so that when you die, you will be the one smiling and every one around you will be crying”

FAMILY ?

FAMILY = FATHER AND MOTHER, I LOVEYOU

FAMILY ?

FAMILY = FamilyAdjustableMotivatingInterestedLovingYearning

1.Significant contribution

2. municationCom

Build Relationship

•Passive Listening•Acknowledgement•Paraphrasing•Door Opener•Total Listening•Responding to legitimate dependency

Communication Tips

Door Openers•What do you think?•That’s a good question•I don’t know, but I’ll find out•I’m trying to find out what you are feeling•Do you know what that word means?•I’m glad, you told me about that

Communication Tips

Door Slammers•You are too wrong•Where did you hear that?•If you say that again, I’ll …•That’s none of your business•I don’t care what your friends are doing•That’s just for boys [girls]•We will talk about that when you need to know

10 Road Blocks to Effective Communication

Situations

S-1. Mom, I'm not sure what to do about my class schedule this year. It's really tough with all the extras I've got to do.

S-2. Dad, that boy just took my truck.

S-3. Mom, the jar of glue just fell over on the floor.

S-4. Dad, it's not my fault my math teacher hates me

S-5. I think I'll go to the movies tonight Mom

Adult Responses

R-1. You should take every math and science course offered. You ought to see how important that is.

R-2. It's your problem. You solve it.

R-3. Look what you did! The carpet is ruined! It's all your fault!

R-4. Let me tell you about my boss. You think you've got trouble!

R-5. You will not. You're going to stay home and study. You're going to bring your grades up.

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And Consequences

Parent’s Words

Parent’s Tone & Body LangParent’s Actions

Child’s Behaviour

Child’s Thoughts & feelings

Parent-Child Relationship

Mutual Respect

Thoughtful, responsible behavious, that are appropriate for the child’s

age and development

About what is happening in his/her

world

The actual words: encouraging or

demeaning

The way we talk sends more message than the

message itself

Children are like wet cement

An earned respect, through giving respect

A close/caring relationship, feeling

comfortable with each other

Can be contractual

Help them Answer These Questions about ThemselvesAm I Competent?—"What do I do well?" Am I Normal?—"Am I like everyone else?" Am I Loving?—"Am I capable of loving others?" Am I Lovable?—"Am I loved by others?"

Developmental Tasks of Children and Adolescents

Read Eric Ericson’s Growing for a Life time

“ I ” statementsI take responsibility forMy ActionsMy ThoughtsMy Feelings

Relationships are not about people Relationships are not about people living together; living together;

they are about people learning to they are about people learning to grow togethergrow together

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AppreciationWeek

A parent affects

eternally

Mummy

COMMITMENT

Write down three things you want to do to improve your GROWING skills… and practise them.

Or . . .

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