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Maximizing ROP:Return on Positivity
Kirk Wilkinson - Founder and President of The Happiness Factorwww.thehappinessfactor.com – [email protected]
50%
10%
40%Genetics,Background & Programming
Circumstances
What you can control and change
Source: The How of Happiness, Sonya Lyubormirski
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ROH: Return on Happiness Doctors put in a positive mood
3x more intelligence and creativity Accurate diagnosis 19% faster
Optimistic sales people Outsell their pessimistic peers
by up to 56% Students primed to be happy
Outperform their neutral peers on proficiency tests
“Optimism is a force multiplier” Colin Powell
ROH: 7 times the benefit Handle stress and uncertainty better Increased creativity and innovation Greater trust Better problem solving Less conflict and contention – better
relationships Lower workplace turnover Healthier and happier
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“You don’t have to get mad just because you don’t know the answer!”
Who’s king of the jungle?
ROV: Return on Value –
Personal Value
Give yourself more credit!What you
do!
Who you are!
Your roles, your net worth, your mistakes, service to others,
profession, accomplishments, awards, recognition, your weight,
your looks, your body, etc..
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I make mistakes
I am a bad person!
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Incompetent
Inadequate
I am able to do good things!
I am a good person!
Competent
Adequate
W.A.I.D.T.Why am I doing this?
ROSA: Return on Self-
Acceptance
You are OK!
You are not perfect You are unable to meet
everyone’s expectations
Your weaknesses don’t define you
Though you could be better – you are OK.
ROS: Return on Strengths
Your Strengths Equation
Strength
Talents& Gifts
Skills Acquired abilitiesIntellect Factual KnowledgeExperience Experiential Knowledge
Time Invested
S =T&G
xSIE
x Time
People who focus on their talents are 6 times more likely
to be successful in their job and 3 times more likely to report an excellent quality of life.
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I AM STRONG
T: Top of Mind and gut reactions
R: Recurring themes, situations or requests
I: Insights from those who ‘believe’ in you
P: Passions and yearnings
L: Learning (speed) – how fast you learn
E: Effortless (or Flow)
S: Satisfaction and fulfillment
Discovering your talents: T.R.I.P.L.E.S.
Adapted from Now Discover Your Strengths by Donald Clifton
• Take Charge• Communicator• Inclusive• Observation• Thinker• Competition• Connectedness• Vigilant• Coach• Fairness• Goal Oriented• Ideation• Innovator• Collector
• Add value• Optimism• Relationships• Ownership• Problem Solver• Self-Assurance• Meaningfulness• Strategic• Rapport• Kind • Framer• Careful• Orderly
• Perseverance• Empathy• Resilience• Compassion• Learning• Curious• Deduction• Collaborative• Peacemaker• Achievement• Action• Adaptability• Analytical• Arranger• Ethical
Talents – A new vocabulary
Adapted from Now Discover Your Strengths by Donald Clifton
ROF: Return on Failure
ROT: Return on Trust
Sine qua non“Without which –
no”
The Formula to Build and Maintain Trust
T: Trustworthy
R: Responsible
U: Under-react
S: Sincerity
T: Transparency
ROD: Return on Discipline
ROW: Return on Who!
(not What!)
Harvard Men’s Study:1930 to Present Day
“After 70 years of research it is clear that people matter, and matter more
than anything else.” George Vaillant
Facts
Feelings
Needs
Out
side
inInside out
Return on Who – not What!
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Key phrases to focus on who! “I am willing to consider that you may be right – but I
need more information…”
“I can tell this is important to you. Can you tell more about what this means to you?”
“Before we continue to disagree, what is it we agree on?”
“Can I have some time to process this so that I can give you a thoughtful response?”
“Did I?”
ROQ: Return on Quiet
坐下闭嘴SDASU
Sit down and shut up!
Follow this simple formula:
W.A.I.T.Why am I talking?
Questions?
Maximize ROP: Return on Positivity
ROV: ValueROSA: AcceptanceROS: StrengthsROF: FailureROT: TrustR.O.D. DisciplineROW: WhoROQ: Quiet
Tomorrow:The Optimist’sAdvantage
Thank you
Kirk Wilkinson - Founder and President of The Happiness Factorwww.thehappinessfactor.com – [email protected]