ipc lesson plan 19 forgiveness
TRANSCRIPT
![Page 1: Ipc lesson plan 19 forgiveness](https://reader035.vdocuments.mx/reader035/viewer/2022062703/555313f3b4c9054e3f8b5469/html5/thumbnails/1.jpg)
Communicating Forgiveness
![Page 2: Ipc lesson plan 19 forgiveness](https://reader035.vdocuments.mx/reader035/viewer/2022062703/555313f3b4c9054e3f8b5469/html5/thumbnails/2.jpg)
What does it mean to forgive?
![Page 3: Ipc lesson plan 19 forgiveness](https://reader035.vdocuments.mx/reader035/viewer/2022062703/555313f3b4c9054e3f8b5469/html5/thumbnails/3.jpg)
Is forgiveness an emotion or a behavior?
Both:Behavior = “I forgive you”Emotion = Moving from anger to
acceptance
![Page 4: Ipc lesson plan 19 forgiveness](https://reader035.vdocuments.mx/reader035/viewer/2022062703/555313f3b4c9054e3f8b5469/html5/thumbnails/4.jpg)
Why should we forgive?
![Page 5: Ipc lesson plan 19 forgiveness](https://reader035.vdocuments.mx/reader035/viewer/2022062703/555313f3b4c9054e3f8b5469/html5/thumbnails/5.jpg)
Correlates of Forgiveness
• Cognitive Complexity (+)
• Positive Affect (+)• Rumination (-)• Vengeance (-)• Hostility
![Page 6: Ipc lesson plan 19 forgiveness](https://reader035.vdocuments.mx/reader035/viewer/2022062703/555313f3b4c9054e3f8b5469/html5/thumbnails/6.jpg)
Other Correlates:
Anger, Depression, Anxiety, & Satisfaction
![Page 7: Ipc lesson plan 19 forgiveness](https://reader035.vdocuments.mx/reader035/viewer/2022062703/555313f3b4c9054e3f8b5469/html5/thumbnails/7.jpg)
Are some people more forgiving than
others?
![Page 8: Ipc lesson plan 19 forgiveness](https://reader035.vdocuments.mx/reader035/viewer/2022062703/555313f3b4c9054e3f8b5469/html5/thumbnails/8.jpg)
State vs. Trait
![Page 9: Ipc lesson plan 19 forgiveness](https://reader035.vdocuments.mx/reader035/viewer/2022062703/555313f3b4c9054e3f8b5469/html5/thumbnails/9.jpg)
State vs. Trait
How we get to Forgiveness
![Page 10: Ipc lesson plan 19 forgiveness](https://reader035.vdocuments.mx/reader035/viewer/2022062703/555313f3b4c9054e3f8b5469/html5/thumbnails/10.jpg)
State vs. Trait
Our disposition to forgive across all
situations
![Page 11: Ipc lesson plan 19 forgiveness](https://reader035.vdocuments.mx/reader035/viewer/2022062703/555313f3b4c9054e3f8b5469/html5/thumbnails/11.jpg)
Heartland Forgiveness Scale
• 3 Domains of Forgiveness–Self–Others–Situation
Predicts about 22-44% of the variance
![Page 12: Ipc lesson plan 19 forgiveness](https://reader035.vdocuments.mx/reader035/viewer/2022062703/555313f3b4c9054e3f8b5469/html5/thumbnails/12.jpg)
Stages To Forgivenes
s
![Page 13: Ipc lesson plan 19 forgiveness](https://reader035.vdocuments.mx/reader035/viewer/2022062703/555313f3b4c9054e3f8b5469/html5/thumbnails/13.jpg)
Three areas of Forgiveness
Cognitive
Emotional
Behavioral
![Page 14: Ipc lesson plan 19 forgiveness](https://reader035.vdocuments.mx/reader035/viewer/2022062703/555313f3b4c9054e3f8b5469/html5/thumbnails/14.jpg)
Stage 1 – Impact of the Event
![Page 15: Ipc lesson plan 19 forgiveness](https://reader035.vdocuments.mx/reader035/viewer/2022062703/555313f3b4c9054e3f8b5469/html5/thumbnails/15.jpg)
Stage 1
Cognitive – Our relationship is out of balanceEmotional – OverwhelmedBehavioral – I want my partner to pay
![Page 16: Ipc lesson plan 19 forgiveness](https://reader035.vdocuments.mx/reader035/viewer/2022062703/555313f3b4c9054e3f8b5469/html5/thumbnails/16.jpg)
Stage 2 Meaning Construction
![Page 17: Ipc lesson plan 19 forgiveness](https://reader035.vdocuments.mx/reader035/viewer/2022062703/555313f3b4c9054e3f8b5469/html5/thumbnails/17.jpg)
Stage 2
Cognitive – Why did he do this to me?Emotional – I am in touch with my emotionsBehavioral – I begin to collect information on the transgression
![Page 18: Ipc lesson plan 19 forgiveness](https://reader035.vdocuments.mx/reader035/viewer/2022062703/555313f3b4c9054e3f8b5469/html5/thumbnails/18.jpg)
Stage 3 - Moving On
![Page 19: Ipc lesson plan 19 forgiveness](https://reader035.vdocuments.mx/reader035/viewer/2022062703/555313f3b4c9054e3f8b5469/html5/thumbnails/19.jpg)
Stage 3
Cognitive – I can see beyond the transgressionEmotional – I am no longer angryBehavioral – I know where the relationship is going
![Page 20: Ipc lesson plan 19 forgiveness](https://reader035.vdocuments.mx/reader035/viewer/2022062703/555313f3b4c9054e3f8b5469/html5/thumbnails/20.jpg)
Four Factors to Predict Forgiveness
• Personality• Characteristics of the relationship• Characteristics of the transgression• Socio-cognitive determinates of
forgiveness
![Page 21: Ipc lesson plan 19 forgiveness](https://reader035.vdocuments.mx/reader035/viewer/2022062703/555313f3b4c9054e3f8b5469/html5/thumbnails/21.jpg)
Features of the transgression
![Page 22: Ipc lesson plan 19 forgiveness](https://reader035.vdocuments.mx/reader035/viewer/2022062703/555313f3b4c9054e3f8b5469/html5/thumbnails/22.jpg)
What are your Unforgivable
Transgressions?
![Page 23: Ipc lesson plan 19 forgiveness](https://reader035.vdocuments.mx/reader035/viewer/2022062703/555313f3b4c9054e3f8b5469/html5/thumbnails/23.jpg)
How should we apologize?
![Page 24: Ipc lesson plan 19 forgiveness](https://reader035.vdocuments.mx/reader035/viewer/2022062703/555313f3b4c9054e3f8b5469/html5/thumbnails/24.jpg)
How would you want to find out about the
transgression?
![Page 25: Ipc lesson plan 19 forgiveness](https://reader035.vdocuments.mx/reader035/viewer/2022062703/555313f3b4c9054e3f8b5469/html5/thumbnails/25.jpg)
Disclosing the TransgressionUnsolicited 3rd Party (friend told you)Red-Handed (caught him in the act)Interrogation (grill him till he confesses)Unsolicited Confession (he tells you)
The Best Predictor of ForgivenessYet…43% reported that the
discovery led to the termination of the relationship (higher for the opther three
(Afifi, Falato, & Weiner, 2001)
![Page 26: Ipc lesson plan 19 forgiveness](https://reader035.vdocuments.mx/reader035/viewer/2022062703/555313f3b4c9054e3f8b5469/html5/thumbnails/26.jpg)
Relational
Quality
Negative Responsib
ility Attributio
ns
Empathy for
Transgressor
-
+
-
Forgiveness
+
(Fincham et al., 2002)
Social-Cognitive Model
![Page 27: Ipc lesson plan 19 forgiveness](https://reader035.vdocuments.mx/reader035/viewer/2022062703/555313f3b4c9054e3f8b5469/html5/thumbnails/27.jpg)
The Dark Side of Forgiveness
Why might the act of forgiving be detrimental to
a relationship?
![Page 28: Ipc lesson plan 19 forgiveness](https://reader035.vdocuments.mx/reader035/viewer/2022062703/555313f3b4c9054e3f8b5469/html5/thumbnails/28.jpg)
The Dark Side of Forgiveness
Apology = humiliationForgiveness = weakness
![Page 29: Ipc lesson plan 19 forgiveness](https://reader035.vdocuments.mx/reader035/viewer/2022062703/555313f3b4c9054e3f8b5469/html5/thumbnails/29.jpg)
Next Class
• Chapter 15• Final Exam– May 5 12:30– Pick up a Blue Book from the book store– Open Notes, not Open Book– Essay style.– For preparation:
• Know three or four theories that we have discussed in class really well.
• Organize your class notes. You can also refer to the slides and lectures posted.
• Think application!