INTUITION SURVIVALINTUITION SURVIVAL SIGNALSSIGNALS

LISTENING TO YOUR INTUITION IN LISTENING TO YOUR INTUITION IN RELATION TO ENHANCING PERSONAL RELATION TO ENHANCING PERSONAL

SAFETYSAFETY

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What is Intuition?What is Intuition?

INTUITION IS ALWAYS RIGHT IN AT INTUITION IS ALWAYS RIGHT IN AT LEAST TWO WAYSLEAST TWO WAYS

• IT IS ALWAYS IN RESPONSE TO SOMETHING HAPPENING.

• IT ALWAYS HAS YOUR BEST INTEREST AT HEART.

The Messengers of IntuitionThe Messengers of Intuition

• Nagging feelings• Persistent thoughts• Humor (especially dark humor)• Wonder• Anxiety• Curiosity• Hunches• Gut feelings• Doubt• Hesitation• Suspicion• Apprehension• Fear

ExampleExample

• You enter a convenience store to get a soda. As you walk back to the cooler, you start feeling like something is wrong?

• What do you do?

FORCED TEAMINGFORCED TEAMING

• PROJECTION OF A SHARED PURPOSE OR EXPERIENCE WHERE NONE EXISTS TO ESTABLISH PRE-MATURE TRUST.

• THE CON ARTIST WILL MAKE YOU WANT TO PARTICIPATE! WE-ARE-IN-THE-SAME-BOAT-ATTITUDE.

• EXAMPLE: “WE ARE SOME TEAM”,“BOTH OF US”, KEY WORD IS: (WE’ ARE)

• BEST DEFENSE: MAKE A CLEAR REFUSAL TO ACCEPT MUTUAL

PARTNERSHIP WITH SOMEONE YOU DO NOT KNOW!

ExampleExample

• You are at a Bus stop and its raining out. A male party approaches and states:

• “Boy, we sure picked a bad day to wait for the bus, didn’t we”

• What do you do?

CHARM AND NICENESSCHARM AND NICENESS• UNSOLICITATED KINDNESS HAS A DISCOVERABLE MOTIVE.

• TO CHARM IS TO COMPEL, TO CONTROL, BY ALLURE OR ATTRACTION.

• NICENESS IS A DECISION, A STRATEGY OF SOCIAL INTERACTION. IT DOES NOT EQUAL GOODNESS.

• NICENESS IS A DISGUISE TO MASK EMOTION, AND A SMILE IS A TYPICAL WAY TO CHARM!

• BEST DEFENSE: WOMEN NEED TO REBUFF UNWANTED APPROACHES DIRECTLY. SHED OFF THE SOCIALIZATION OF BEING NICE.

ExampleExample

• You are in the grocery store and you see a male approach you. He smiles then states:

• “Hey” “Why is an attractive woman like you shopping alone”?

TOO MANY DETAILSTOO MANY DETAILS • WHEN PEOPLE TELL THE TRUTH, THEY DO NOT FEEL

DOUBTED, SO THEY DO NOT NEED TO GIVE ADDITIONAL SUPPORT IN THE FORM OF DETAILS.

• WHEN OTHERS LIE, IT DOES NOT FEEL RIGHT TO THEM,SO THEY KEEP ON ATTEMPTING TO CONVINCE YOU.

• BEST DEFENSE: REMAIN AWARE OF CONTEXT IN WHICH THE DETAILS ARE OFFERED

ExampleExample

• You are opening your trunk of your car in a parking garage to remove a package. A male shows up and asks if you need help.

• He tells you that he just moved in the area and just happened to be walking by as he was going to a friends apt. Note: To much info

• What do you do?

TYPECASTINGTYPECASTING • A MAN LABELS A WOMAN IN SLIGHTLY CRITICAL WAY, HOPING

SHE WILL BE COMPELLED TO DEFEND HERSELF.

• EXAMPLE: “YOU AFRAID TO TALK TO ME BECAUSE OF MY: (RACE, SEX, SIZE, SMELL ECT..)

• IT IS A SLIGHT INSULT, ONE EASY TO REFUTE BACK. THE CON WANTS YOU TO ENGAGE IN THE RESPONSE. DO NOT PLAY THE GAME !

• BEST DEFENSE: ACTING AS IF THE WORDS WERE NOT EVEN SPOKEN!

ExampleExample

• After you tell the person that you do not need his help. He says to you: “ So because I am ____________ you don’t trust me?

• What do you do?

LOAN SHARKINGLOAN SHARKING

• THE PREDATOR OFFERS HELP, BUT IS CALCULATING THE DEBT YOU WILL OWE HIM.

• WANTS TO BE ABLE TO HELP YOU, WHICH WOULD PLACE YOU IN HIS DEBT MAKING IT HARD TO HAVE THEM LEAVE YOU ALONE.

• EXAMPLE: HELPS OPEN YOUR CAR DOOR, APT DOOR, LIFT ITEMS FOR YOU.

• BEST DEFENSE: REFUSE THE ASSISTANCE. YOU DID NOT ASK FOR HIS HELP! IF YOU NEED

ASSISTANCE SEEK OUT ANOTHER WOMAN FIRST.

ExampleExample

• He continues to ask to help you with your packages.

• What do you do?

THE UNSOLICITED PROMISETHE UNSOLICITED PROMISE • PROMISES ARE USED TO CONVINCE US OF AN INTENTION,

BUT THEY ARE NOT GUARANTEES .

• EXAMPLE: THE PERSON WHO WANTS TO HELP YOU OPEN YOUR DOOR STATES THAT HE IS SAFE AND NOT A RAPIST, THIEF, ECT…

• BEST DEFENSE: ASK YOURSELF.

WHY DOES THIS PERSON NEED TO CONVINCE ME?

A PERSON OF GOOD MOTIVES WILL NOT NEED TO CONVINCE YOU.

ExampleExample

• Male party continues to want to assist you now he tells you he is not a stalker and will not do anything to you, just want to help.

• What do you do?

DISCOUNTING THE WORD NODISCOUNTING THE WORD NO!!• THE PERSON WHO CHOOSES NOT TO HEAR NO, IS TRYING

TO CONTROL YOU!

• NO IS NOT NEGOTIATABLE! BE DIRECT AND FIRM! DO NOT GIVE REASONS! IT IS BETTER TO BE THOUGHT OF AS A( B__TCH) THEN REGRET IT LATER!

• BEST DEFENSE: GET AWAY FROM THE PERSON. IF THAT IS NOT PRACTICAL, RAISE YOUR VOICE

AND SAY: “I SAID “NO!”

• NOTE: IT IS BETTER TO SEAK OUT AND ASK FOR HELP, AS OPPOSED TO WAITING FOR SOMEONE TO APPROACH YOU

ExampleExample

• After saying NO! you do not need help. He continues to argue with you.

• What do you do?

POINTS TO CONSIDERPOINTS TO CONSIDER• The root of the word, intuition, means “to guard, to protect”.

• Do not dismiss your gut feeling for a coincidence. It is, in fact, a cognitive process, faster than we recognize and very different from conscious thought. It is knowing without knowing why. Intuition discards the irrelevant and values the meaningful

• We deny because we are built to see what we want to see.

• What gets in the way of intuition is judgment. With judgment comes the ability to disregard your intuition unless you can explain it logically.

Example: We hear a noise in basement at night and conclude it must be the furnace. Person offers to carry

your grocery’s to your car and though you are uncomfortable, you conclude they must just be nice.

APPLICATIONAPPLICATION• MAKE A CLEAR REFUSAL TO ACCEPT MUTUAL PARTNERSHIP WITH

SOMEONE YOU DO NOT KNOW!

• WOMEN NEED TO REBUFF UNWANTED APPROACHES DIRECTLY. SHED OFF THE SOCIALIZATION OF BEING NICE.

• MAKE A CLEAR REFUSAL TO ACCEPT MUTUAL PARTNERSHIP WITH

SOMEONE YOU DO NOT KNOW .

• WOMEN NEED TO REBUFF UNWANTED APPROACHES DIRECTLY.

• REMAIN AWARE OF CONTEXT IN WHICH THE DETAILS ARE OFFERED TO YOU. TO MANY DETAILS FOR NO REASON.

APPLICATION CONTINUEDAPPLICATION CONTINUED

• REFUSE THE ASSISTANCE. YOU DID NOT ASK FOR HIS HELP! IF YOU NEED ASSISTANCE SEEK OUT ANOTHER WOMAN FIRST.

• ASK YOURSELF: WHY IS THIS PERSON TRYING TO CONVINCE ME THAT HE IS NOT A THREAT?

• IT IS BETTER TO SEAK OUT AND ASK FOR HELP, AS OPPOSED TO WAITING FOR SOMEONE TO APPROACH YOU.

• NO MEANS NO! AND DOES NOT MEAN MAYBE!

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