introduction to pastoral care october 15, 2012. shadowlands
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Introduction to Pastoral Care
October 15, 2012
Shadowlands
Human Suffering
Why?
Psalms 46: 1-3 & 8-11Isaiah 43: 1-3Mark 4:35--40
Stay Calm
Help People Manage Their Fears & Anxiety
Regressive Society
Regressive Society
• Reactivity• Herding• Blaming• Quick Fix• Lack of Well-Differentiated Leadership
When the anxiety of a community goes up.
• We don’t listen well & we aren’t interested in the concerns of others.
• We focus on what we think are the problems other people have rather than focusing on our own issues.
• We try to change “them” rather than focusing on changing “us”.
When the anxiety of a community goes up.
• We aren’t open about what our real concerns are.
• We don’t think reasonably or objectively.• We become less flexible.• We get defensive and determine to win at all
costs.• We make monsters out of those with an
opposing opinion.
When the anxiety of a community goes up.
We don’t look for common ground and we refuse to work together toward a solution to
the situation.
“When one member of a family can calmly state his own
convictions and beliefs, and take action on his convictions without criticism of the beliefs of others &
without becoming involved in emotional debate,
Then other family members will start the same process of
becoming more sure of self and more accepting of others.”
Murray Bowen
Goals
1. Achieve an inner calmness – become less anxious.
2. Quit reacting to everything & everyone.3. Think through your own principles, beliefs
and convictions.4. State your own convictions & beliefs
Goals
5. Take action on your beliefs & convictions.6. Refuse to criticize the beliefs of others.7. Refuse to get involved in emotional debate
with others who object to your beliefs.8. Stay connected and interested.
Hospitals
• Don’t stay too long.• Don’t touch the bed.• Do pray.• Do listen.• Do care.
Emergency Room
• Ask the nurse• Be courageous• Be considerate• Be calm
Intensive Care
• Be considerate of the family regarding time limits or the number of people who can visit at one time.
• Talk to the nurse & follow hospital protocol.• Be perceptive regarding the needs of the
family.
The Dying
Be a caring presence Reflect God
Six Stages of Grief
• Denial• Anger• Bargaining• Depression• Acceptance• Christian Hope
Funerals