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Intergenerational Coparenting: Supporting Young Parents

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Intergenerational Coparenting: Supporting Young ParentsOctober 20th, 2016

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Agenda• Introductions and logistics• Welcome and opening remarks – SC Campaign• Teenaged Parenting: The Importance of

Cooperation and Support• Coparenting Communication Skills and

Additional Resources• Examples from the Field• Healthy Relationship Education• Q&A

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Presenters• Shannon Lindsay, Training Coordinator, South Carolina

Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy

• Andrea Heyward, Pregnancy Assistance Fund Coordinator, South Carolina Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy

• Jacquelyn Mallette, PhD, CFLE, Assistant Professor, East Carolina University

• Stephanie Toelle, CFLE, Extension Agent IV-Family & Consumer Sciences, UF/IFAS Duval County Extension Services

• Robyn Cenizal, CFLE, Director, National Resource Center for Healthy Marriage and Families

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Welcome and Opening Remarks

Shannon LindsayTraining Coordinator

South Carolina Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy

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Opening Remarks

• Project Overview: The Children's Trust Fund of South Carolina, in conjunction with the South Carolina Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy, has created the program Community Support for Young Parents. The program assists young parents in making positive, short-term choices that could positively influence the long-term well-being of their young families. Program goals include an increased number and quality of services for expectant and parenting teens, fathers, families and students; increased educational attainment among expectant and parenting young mothers and fathers; reduced number of repeat teen births; and improved parenting skills.

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Background

• Our partners here in SC participated in a NRCHMF Integration Institute here in SC in February 2015.

• As a result of participation in the Institute, the SCCTPTP developed an action plan to integrate healthy relationship education into our existing services.

• Training and education is a major service offered to our partners in SC and so we have been thoughtful and deliberate about highlighting healthy relationships and utilizing the resources and expertise of the NRCHMF

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Poll Question #1

• What percent of all teen births in South Carolina are to 18-19 year-olds each year?o 0-25%o 26-50%o 51-75%o 76-100%

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How did we get here?

• In SC, nearly ⁄1 3 of births to teens are repeat births as compared to ⁄1 6 nationally

• We know that pregnant and parenting teens experience more success when their support systems are strong and equipped to provide services that address their specific and unique needs

• Co-parenting resources are typically focused on older parents

• Resources for young parents and their parents on navigating intergenerational parenting differences are hard to find.

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Teenaged Parenting: The Importance of Cooperation and Support

Jacquelyn MallettePhD, CFLE

Assistant Professor, East Carolina University

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Poll Question #2

• Which of the following roles are important to the maternal identity of teen moms?o Parentso Peerso Father of babyo All of the above

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Challenges of Teenaged Parenting

Rates of teenaged pregnancy

Relationship trends among teen parents• Discontinuation of romantic relationship• Shared connection through coparentingChallenges associated with teen parenting• For mother• For father• For their child

The role of support

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Maternal Role Attainment (MRA)Maternal Identity – end point of MRA• Acceptance of role as mother• Pleasure and competence with parenting• Sense that significant persons accept her parenting

performance

Challenge of MRA for teenaged mothers

Role of support• Parents• Peers• Father of the baby

Mercer, 1986; Rubin, 1984

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Adolescent Coparenting

Characteristics of adolescent coparenting relationships• Lack of resources and support• Conflict and parenting stress• Trouble adjusting to maternal role

Role of the father• Assumptions• Conflict versus cooperation• Nature of the relationship• Consequences for children

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Adolescent Father Involvement

Benefits of quality father-child interactions• For children• For mother• For father

Risk for father absence• Vulnerable characteristics• Non-residential status

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Implications for Practice

Healthy Relationship Education• Maternal Role Attainment• The Coparental Relationship• Father Involvement

Dissemination• Accurate and accessible interventions• Partnerships with teen pregnancy/parenting

organizations• Integration of programming

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References Beers, L. A., & Hollo, R. E. (2009). Approaching the adolescent-headed family: A review of teen parenting.

Current Problems in Pediatric And Adolescent Health Care, 39(9), 216-233. Birkeland, R.W. (2004). Adolescent motherhood: A study of depression, parenting stress, maternal self-efficacy,

and maternal role identity. University of South Florida, US, Source: Dissertation Abstracts International: Section B: The Sciences & Engineering, Vol 64(7-B).

Fagan, J. (2014). Adolescent parents’ partner conflict and parenting alliance, fathers’ prenatal involvement, and fathers’ engagement with infants. Journal of Family Issues, 35, 1415-1439.

Herrman, J. W. (2008). Adolescent perceptions of teen births. Journal of Obstetric, Gynecologic, & Neonatal Nursing, 37(1), 42-50.

Letourneau, N. L., Stewart, M. J., & Barnfather, A. K. (2004). Adolescent mothers: Support needs, resources, and support-education interventions. Journal of Adolescent Health, 35(6), 509-525.

Mallette, J. K., Futris, T. G., Brown, G. L. and Oshri, A. (2015). The influence of father involvement and interparentalrelationship quality on adolescent mothers' maternal identity. Family Relations, 64, 476–489.

Martin J.A., Hamilton B.E., Osterman M.J.K., Curtin, M.A. & Mathews, T.J. (2015). Births: Final data for 2013. National Vital Statistics Reports. 64(1). Hyattsville, MD: National Center for Health Statistics.

Mercer, R.T. (1986). Predictors of maternal role attainment at one year post birth. Western Journal of Nursing Research, 8, 9-32.

Mollborn, S., & Lovegrove, P. J. (2011). How teenage fathers matter for children: Evidence from the ECLS-B. Journal of Family Issues, 32, 3-30.

Paquette, D., & Bigras, M. (2010). The risky situation: A procedure for assessing the father-child activation relationship. Early Child Development And Care, 180(1-2), 33-50.

Rubin, R. (1984). Maternal identity and the maternal experience. New York: Springer. Turner, R. J., Grindstaff, C. F., & Phillips, N. (1990). Social support and outcome in teenage pregnancy. Journal of

Health and Social Behavior, 31, 43–57. Whitson, M. L., Martinez, A., Ayala, C., & Kaufman, J. S. (2011). Predictors of parenting and infant outcomes for

impoverished adolescent parents. Journal of Family Social Work, 14, 284–297. doi:10.1080/10522158.2011.587173

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Coparenting Communication Skillsand Additional Resources

Stephanie ToelleExtension Agent IV-Family & Consumer Sciences,

University of Florida/IFAS Duval County Extension Services

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Poll Question #3

• How familiar are you with Cooperative Extension as a community resource?o Not familiar at allo Somewhat familiaro Very familiar

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Coparenting and Challenges Across

Generations• Defining Coparenting: Parents and caregivers

working together to raise a child

• 3 Ways that Teens Coparent

• Extended family: Exchange resources for power and influence

• Good coparenting predicts better child adjustment; distressed coparenting predicts later childhood problems

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Coparenting and Parenting Style

• Discrepancy in parenting styles creates conflict for coparents and confusion for child

• 4 Parenting Styles

• Goals: o Parents/caregiver s work together to negotiate and

resolve differences

o Create the most cohesive, supportive family environment for the baby so it has the greatest opportunity for success.

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9 Communication Skills to Apply to

Intergenerational Coparenting

The Four Don’ts

Criticism

Contempt

Defensiveness

Stonewalling

The Five Do’s

Calm Down

Complain

Speak Non-Defensively

Validate

Overlearn the skills

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10 Rules for Constructive Conflict

1. Refuse to use destructive conflict tactics

2. Choose to gain the skills to conflict constructively

3. Focus on feelings first, then move to the specific issue

4. Focus on one issue at a time

5. Identify the patterns of behavior that reveal the root cause

6. Think win-win

7. Learn to calm yourself

8. Learn to calm the other person

9. Be congruent in your communication

10.Seek closure and resolution of the specific issue asap

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Select Reliable Sources of Information

• Talk with your partner

• Ask friends

• Seek community resources

• Search for helpful books

• Find Internet resources

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Recommended Resources:

Parenting & Child Development• Centers for Disease Control and Prevention:

http://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/childdevelopment/positiveparenting/index.html

• Child Development and Parenting (University of Florida Extension): http://edis.ifas.ufl.edu/topics/families/children.html

• ChildMind Institute: http://childmind.org/audience/for-families/

• Healthy Children (American Academy of Pediatrics): https://www.healthychildren.org/English/Pages/default.aspx

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Recommended Resources:

Parenting & Child Development• Just in Time Parenting (eXtension.org):

http://www.jitp.extension.org/

• Parent Further (Search Institute): http://www.parentfurther.com/

• Parenting 24/7 (University of Illinois Extension): http://parenting247.org/

• National Parent Helpline: http://www.nationalparenthelpline.org/

• Zero to Three: https://www.zerotothree.org/early-development

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Recommended Resources:

Interpersonal Skills• 9 Important Communication Skills for Every Relationship

http://edis.ifas.ufl.edu/pdffiles/FY/FY127700.pdf

• 10 Rules for Constructive Conflict http://edis.ifas.ufl.edu/pdffiles/FY/FY127600.pdf

• Conflict Resolution: Five Simple Tips for Handling a Difficult Situation http://msue.anr.msu.edu/news/conflict_resolution_five_simple_tips_for_handling_a_difficult_situation

• Effective Communication Skills: “I” Messages and Beyond http://extension.usu.edu/files/publications/publication/FC_Relationships_2012-01pr.pdf

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Recommended Resources:

Interpersonal Skills• Effective Communication Skills: Resolving Conflicts

http://extension.usu.edu/files/publications/publication/FC_Relationships_2012-02pr.pdf

• What Is Your Parenting Style? http://www.extension.umn.edu/family/parents-forever/resources-for-families/children/docs/parenting-style-assessment.pdf

• When People Parent Together: Let’s Talk About Co-Parenting http://edis.ifas.ufl.edu/pdffiles/FY/FY100000.pdf

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Recommended Resources:

Curricula• The Guide for New Parents (University of Georgia Cooperative

Extension) http://www.fcs.uga.edu/extension/guide-for-new-parents

• Stay Connected (Alabama Cooperative Extension System) http://www.aces.edu/teens/stayconnected/parentgoals.php

• Together We Can: Creating a Healthy Future for Our Family (Michigan State University Extension) http://msue.anr.msu.edu/resources/together_we_can_curriculum

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References• Author unknown. (2014). What is your parenting style? St. Paul, MN: University of

Minnesota Extension. Retrieved on 9/25/16 at http://www.extension.umn.edu/family/parents-forever/resources-for-families/children/docs/parenting-style-assessment.pdf

• Beers, L. A.S., & Hollo, R. E. (2009). Approaching the adolescent-headed family: A review of teen parenting. Current Problems in Pediatric Adolescent Health Care, 39, 216-233. doi: 10.1016/j.cppeds.2009.09.001.

• Diehl, D.C., Wente, J.N., & Forthun, L.F. (2015). Strengthening families: Knowledge of parenting and child development. Gainesville, FL: University of Florida Extension. Retrieved on 9/25/16 at http://edis.ifas.ufl.edu/pdffiles/FY/FY124500.pdf.

• Harris, V.W. (2012). 9 Important Communication Skills for Every Relationship. Gainesville, FL: University of Florida Extension. Retrieved on 9/25/16 at http://edis.ifas.ufl.edu/pdffiles/FY/FY127700.pdf

• Harris, V.W. (2012). 10 rules for constructive conflict. Gainesville, FL: University of Florida Extension. Retrieved on 9/25/16 at http://edis.ifas.ufl.edu/pdffiles/FY/FY127600.pdf.

• McHale, J., Baker, J., Radunovich, H.L. (2015). When people parent together: Let’s talk about co-parenting. Gainesville, FL: University of Florida Extension. Retrieved on 9/25/16 at http://edis.ifas.ufl.edu/pdffiles/FY/FY100000.pdf

• Mollborn, S., & Jacobs, J. (2015). “I’ll be there for you”: Teen parents’ coparentingrelationships. Journal of Marriage and Family, 77, 373-387. doi: 10.1111/jomf.12175.

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Examples from the Field:Current Grantee Work

Andrea HeywardPregnancy Assistance Fund Coordinator

South Carolina Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy

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Community Support for Young Parents

• Office of Adolescent Health, Pregnancy Assistance Fund (PAF)

Funding for the program is provided by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Office of Adolescent Health (CFDA no. 93.500). Contents are solely the responsibility of the authors

and do not necessarily represent the official views of the Department of Health and Human Services or the Office of

Adolescent Health

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Program Overview

1. Increased quality, quantity and awareness of services for young parents in SC;

2. Increased educational attainment among expectant and parenting young mothers and fathers;

3. Reduced number of repeat teen births;4. Improved parenting skills leading to children being

well cared for.

Total Served (Last Project Year – August 1, 2015 – July 31, 2016):

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Program Overview

*Non-participant Family Members (NPFM)

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Examples from the Field

• Program Highlight – Darlington County First Steps (Darlington, South Carolina)

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Fatherhood Program Activities

• Father Talks

• Responsible Fatherhood Curriculum

• Be Proud! Be Responsible!

• Assistance with Child Support/Custody

• Educational & Job Skills Information

• Guest Speakers

• Pool Tournaments & Special Events

• Sporting Events via Cable TV

• Partner Referrals

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Motherhood Program Activities

• Tracy Talks!• Nurturing Parenting• Parents As Teachers: Teen Curriculum • Motheread/Fatheread• Be Proud! Be Responsible! Be Protective!• 17 Days• Guest Speakers• Computer Access• Partner Referrals

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Key Activities with NPFMs

• Family Events – Thanksgiving Celebration; Christmas on a Dime

• Referrals to Individual and Family Counseling Services• Linkages to support services (i.e. financial, housing,

emergency services, etc.)

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Christmas on a Dime Event

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Christmas on a Dime Event

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Christmas on a Dime Event

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Intergenerational Families • Common Issues:

o Parent-Child Communication

o Support of young fathers

o Defined roles of family members (parent v. grandparent)

o Household Stability

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Parent-Child Communication

• “This is my house and we will do things my way!”

• Key Strategies:o “Parents need somewhere to vent.”

• This is a critical transition for parents of teen parents, who may experience a variety of feelings including frustration and disappointment.

• Referrals to individual and family counseling are critical for both young parent and supporting family members

o Identify conflict-resolution strategies

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Support of Young Fathers

• “He just isn’t responsible enough!”

• Key Strategies:o Engage young father’s mother (“gatekeeper”) to

• Paternal grandmothers often have positive influence on the young father’s desire to be involved with young child(ren)

o Reframe family structure – Most client homes are single-parent, male-absent homes

• Work with young mothers and extended family members to emphasize the importance to father’s being engaged

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Defined Roles of Family Members

• “My mom thinks it’s her baby!”

• Key Strategies:o Empower young parents

• Engage young parent in positive parenting programs to strengthen parenting skills

o Help families to establish boundaries• Clearly define roles and responsibilities of young parent

and supporting family members

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Household Stability

• Common Issues:o Families typically seek support during a time of crisis/conflicto Typical need is for financial assistanceo Generational issues – young parenthood, low-income,

mental health, etc.

• Key Strategies:o Linkages to service agencies to assist with financial crisiso Referrals to individual and family counseling services to

address conflict and emotional issues

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National Resource Center for Healthy Marriage and Families

Robyn Cenizal, Resource Center Director

ICF

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Poll Question #4

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