intergenerational befriending workshop pp
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“Befriending is a relationship between a trained volunteer and an isolated or lonely individual (befriendee), which is initiated, supported and monitored by a voluntary or statutory agency”
Definition of befriending
Befriending is … (yes / no / maybe)
1. Just like friendship
2. A way to provide respite for the befriendee’s carer
3. Focused mainly on building a good relationship
between the befriender and the befriendee
4. Giving advice to befriendees about lifestyle and
behaviour
Befriending and friendship
Befriending involves creating and maintaining a personal relationship, so there are obviously elements of friendship present in a befriending
relationship.
Befriending and friendship
However, there are important differences. Whilst friendly, it is a
professional relationship governed by boundaries and carried out in line with
the outcomes of the supervising organisation.
It’s all about the relationship
The relationship itself is the main focus of a befriending relationship. This is why
good communication skills and an open, empathic attitude are the most
important characteristics of a befriender.
Giving advice
Befrienders and coordinators of befriending services often
provide useful information about health and lifestyle to
befriendees if requested.
Giving advice
However, this is very different from giving advice and it is not part of the befriender’s
role to give advice about any aspect of lifestyle or behaviour even if they are an expert in that field in their professional
life.
Befriending is … (yes / no / maybe)
5. Focused on supporting the befriendee to reach
certain goals
6. The key to solving all the befriendee’s problems
7. Giving help with practical tasks and problems
8. About the befriender as much as about the
befriendee
Befriending and goals
Befriending is about the relationship and the quality of the time spent together.
Many personal goals may be achieved as a result of the increased confidence and
wellbeing which this relationship brings …
Befriending and goals
… and befrienders can be instrumental in supporting
befriendees to resolve practical issues, BUT these are all essentially a by-product of the relationship itself.
The scope of befriending
Befriending can have a powerful positive impact on the life of an isolated or lonely
person, but it is important not to make promises which are either too wide or too
specific to be realistically fulfilled.
Befriending and the befriender
It is essential that the relationship is right for the befriender too. Coordinators need to check in regularly with befrienders to
make sure they’re happy with how things are going.
Befriending is … (yes / no / maybe)
9. An informal way of providing counselling or
therapy
10. Providing a relationship that others in the
client’s life can not
11. Something a befriendee can turn to in an
emergency
12. Something which essentially only involves two
people – the befriender and the befriendee
Befriending is unique
Befriending services work with people who lack meaningful informal social relationships. The essential support
they provide is usually not available to befriendees in any other form.
Not an emergency service
Befriending is a long-term, preventative intervention. Though befrienders need to be trained on how to respond should an
emergency arise while they are with their befriender ….
Not an emergency service
… organisations must make it clear to befriendees and
befrienders alike that befrienders are not there to be
called upon I an emergency.
Models of befriending delivery
Face-to-face:
1:1
Groups
Distance:
Telephone
Email / letter
Intergenerational Projects:
Residential setting
Befrienders in groups
???
The future of befriending is waiting to be written!
Delivery models
New project
CONNECT- open to young people who are 16-19, who are unsure of what steps to take next or are not ready to move on to employment
or further education.
COGNITIVE STIMULATION THERAPY
Topsy “ Really enjoys
the sessions and likes
meeting everybody”
Bella “She enjoys us
coming up”
Bessie “ Thinks we are
always perfect and
that we make their
day. 1-2-3 and a hop!
Guiding Principles The skills and experience of CST group facilitators are integral to the effective running of
sessions. There are 18 'Key Principles' which facilitators must incorporate into sessions:
Mental stimulation
New ideas, thoughts and associations
Using orientation, both sensitively and implicitly
Opinions rather than facts
Using reminiscence as an aid to the here-and-now
Providing triggers to aid recall
Continuity and consistency between sessions
Implicit (rather than explicit) learning
Stimulating language
Stimulating executive functioning
Person-centredness
Respect
Involvement
Inclusion
Choice
Fun
Maximising potential
Building / strengthening relationships
Below is a comment from Carl (age 16) who attends
The Connect Project –
“……..I like the befriending sessions because I learn
from the residents and enjoy meeting new people. I
have suffered from panic attacks in the past but
going to the befriending sessions has helped to ease
these greatly. I think the residents enjoy our
company and like to mix with the younger
generation”…………
And from Sandy (age 16)
“…….. I think what we gain from Befriending is more
self-confidence with speaking to new people as well as
communication skills. They gain more interaction from
a different generation which they share their stories
from experiences through their life”……
The benefits of befriending
Increased confidence and self-esteem
Increased involvement with communities
More able to manage challenges of everyday life
The benefits of befriending
More cohesive and integrated communities communities
Less pressure on health and social care services
Reductions in rates of crime, homelessness, substance abuse and suicide
The benefits of intergenerational befriending
Greater communication and understanding between young and old
Befrienders learn skills from past they have no other way of learning about. They impart ‘modern’ skills which will be useful to the befriendee
Befriendees enjoy knowing that their skills and knowledge are appreciated. They gain practical knowledge of of new skills
Discussion questions
What might be the benefits to your client group of developing an
intergenerational befriending project?
What do you think would be the main challenges facing your
organisation in developing an intergenerational project? What
resources would you need to overcome them?
What three actions could you take in the next month towards the
development of an intergenerational befriending project?
Intergenerational Befriending
www.befriending.co.uk www.vaorkney.org.uk