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Speed Seduction

Introductory CourseTranscript:

Inner GameBasicsPart 1

Created By

Ross JeffriesThe Guru of Getting Some

www.Seduction.com

For the smart guy who refuses to resort to bullying, begging, buying, B.S, boozeorbiceps, in his seduction of women.


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Speed Seduction Introductory Course"Inner Game Basics, Part 1" Transcript

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Ross: You want to do walk-ups and language patterns. I want to begin to

show you the process of meeting women using the Speed

Seduction technology and tools, and then I want to show you how

language patterns work and give you a few that you can try out.

I have not really delved deeply into language patterns with the

small pieces the last few years, so Im going to do that.

Yesterday, I did some change work with some people and I started

the process of getting the ball rolling for them. I talked about this

idea of ruminating how many people ruminate on their mistakes.They dwell on what theyve done wrong over and over again.

In an area of life where youve encountered a tremendous amount

of difficulty a lot of failure (or what you thought was failure), a lot

of frustration, a lot of limiting beliefs, a lot of patterns of thinking that

just dont work its a mistake to assume that if I just give you a

new set of things to do, youre going to go out and do them and getconsistent results. The problem is all that old stuff is going to keep

coming up.

If youre prepared for it, if you know that its going to come up and

you know how to deal with it when it does, then it wont get in your

way.

One-third of Speed Seduction deals with what you do from your

skin inside. It deals with what you do with yourself, what you do


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with your patterns of thinking, what you do with your physiology,

what you do with the way you move energy through your body such

that, first of all, the old stuff is no longer running. Youre no longer

dwelling on mistakes and programming them back in.

One of the points that I made is when you dwell on something in

your mind, in effect youre rehearsing it. What you put into your

brain with strong belief, strong emotion and a lot of repetition,

youre just programming them back into your brain.

Theres no mysterious reason why youve been stuck. Its not somecurse from God. Its not that you are a thing called a loser. Its

simply been that youve been reprogramming your ineffective

behavior back into your head over and over again, so of course you

naturally repeat the ineffective behavior and then you get the same

bad results, and then you draw the same stupid conclusions and

youre stuck in that loop.

For many of you, the key is this. Youve been trying to get out of

that loop by pouring more stuff into your head. The way to get out

of that loop is to show you something better to do. People dwell on

mistakes because theyre trying to find the answers, so they dont

repeat them.

The irony is the very way youre trying to correct mistakeguarantees its programmed back in. Dealing with women can be

challenging. It should not be suffering or difficult. If its suffering or

difficult, its because a few things are going on.


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Number one, youre programming your mistakes back in and youre

fighting yourself. Number two, your model for how women work is

just inaccurate. If you think women are unisexual and that you have

to get them to fall in love with you or that women only like to fuck

men when theyre in love, your model is incorrect.

I want to give you a really accurate, powerful model for how women

work which is what were doing but I also want to get you out of

your own way.

The third piece, once weve done that, is teach you how to programin how youd like to feel, how youd like to act, how youd like to

sound to give you new choices in your behavior, to activate new

circuitry in your mind but we have to do it in the right order.

I do believe in positive programming and creative rehearsal. I

believe in it passionately. However, its got to be done at the right

time. If I dont stop that rumination process, if youre still dwelling onmistakes at the same time youre doing positive programming, what

do you think is going to happen? Theyre going to fight each other.

Heres why. Lets say you have a really good day, youre feeling

good and you do your positive programming and then you go out

and have a million repetitions of the old stuff and maybe 100

repetitions of the new stuff which do you think is going to havemore power? The old stuff.


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I didnt tell you to take many notes, but I did tell you to take notes

on these two terms: cognitive momentum and emotional inertia.

Theyre crucial in understanding.

For those of you who are creative writers, your insight into your

characters who youre writing will be greatly enhanced if you

think, What are the patterns of cognitive momentum and emotional

inertia that drive my character unconsciously without them even

being aware of it?

Every human being engages in dwelling on things. Its just trainingyour mind to do it in the right way. Very few people know the proper

and useful way to dwell on things. We dwell on things in a way that

repeats the error.

What do I mean by cognitive momentum and emotional inertia? I

mean that old pattern that youve been running in your head over

and over again dwelling on mistakes or saying things like, I justcant get really good women, or I always have approach anxiety,

act like commands to your brain. Theyre going to open and close

access to levels of awareness. Theyre going to open and close

access to new choices and new behaviors. Theyre going to open

and close access to flows of feeling and energy. Theyre going to

open and close access to information about the other person. They

act like major commands to open or close all those gates.

If youre repeating mistakes and telling yourself, I just cant do it,

guess what? Your brain is going to listen, its going to shut down


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access to the behaviors that you need, to the responses that you

need, to the timing, to the beliefs, to the insights and the practices.

Its going to shut it all down and of course youre going to stay stuck

not because you hate yourself, not because you have this thing

called low self-esteem.

Someone came to me once and said, I have low self-esteem. I

said, Hang on. Im going to go to the kitchen and get a quart. I got

a bunch of water and went to pour it on their head. They went, No,

thats not what I meant.

Its not that people have confidence or self-esteem. Its that people

do processes that either serve them or dont serve them. When you

do a process that doesnt serve you, its not because youre a loser

or youre unlucky or the universe hates you. I was on a coaching

call and I said, Matthew, you think the universe fucking hates you.

You think God hates you and it was all put here just so you cant

get pussy. Thats what he thought without him having to verbalize

it.

When these things come up, they come up simply because youve

done so much of it. Theyre going to come up because they have

momentum. If you take a fan and you get it spinning and unplug it

from the wall, does the fan stop immediately? No, because it has

momentum.


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We all know Newtons laws of motion. An object in motion tends to

remain in motion unless acted upon by a force. Objects at rest tend

to remain at rest unless acted upon by an outside force.

Its the same thing with our basic fundamental patterns of thought.

These patterns that have been coming up are coming up because

they have momentum and inertia. Thats all.

So what do you do when something has momentum and inertia?

Well, you can try to push back against it, but pushing back against

it does what? It creates friction. A lot of what youve been feeling inyour world is not really depression, sadness or fear. Its just

neurological friction, because youre pushing back against

something that has so much momentum. Part of you is feeding it

and part of you is pushing back against it. It becomes exhausting.

How many people found that the process of trying to get good with

women has been exhausting emotionally and cognitively?

Its not because women are that difficult. They can be, but its not

why. Its because youve been reprogramming stuff back in and

then youre pushing against it. Youre trying to push through it or

push back against it. Thats exhausting.

If the only thing you do is stop that process, youll take a huge step

towards really improving your life and attracting women. Heres

another key insight. When people are pushing back against their


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own unconscious processes, theyre noisy energetically. Theyre

just generating a lot of noise.

Have you ever tried to tune into a radio station and you just couldntget it? Maybe you heard a little bit. There was a lot of squack and

bleed over from other stations and a lot of white noise? Its like that.

I believe that humans really can pick up on vibe unconsciously.

If youre pushing against your own unconscious patternings, youre

going to be noisy. That shows up as unattractive because it shows

up as being ungrouned and uncalm and uncertain.

The other advantage when you clean the mind is not only are you

no longer pushing against yourself, but you show up inherently

subtly more attractive because youre no longer doing something

that most human beings just continue to do.

Listen to me, because this is a really important point. Someone

wrote a vicious blog series about my London seminar. It said, Ross

wants attention. He always says look up here, look up here. No. I

want to see your expressions to see that youre getting the point, so

I know I dont have to keep saying it.

When you show up quiet, you become subtly more attractive even

before you get the social skills really polished and smooth. Even

before you get the language skills really polished and smooth, you

start showing up a lot more attractive because youre quiet inside


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and you dont have that friction. That causes you to stand out, but

at the same time, women cant quite put their finger on what it is.

Theyre just attracted to it.

Im not saying that you shouldnt work on the language skills or

social skills. Im saying you can show up attractive even before you

have that.

Notice Im not saying that youre going to be some radiant smooth-

talking guy who entertains the whole room. You can learn to do

that. There is such a thing as I call it high wattage charisma.

I can walk into a room and take over the room and control the

room, but it burns a lot of energy. Not everyone can do it, and its

unnecessary. Its completely unnecessary to be high value. What

the fuck does that mean? Value is measured in what? To be the

high-value guy who is the alpha male who controls the whole

room? What the fuck is that? Id rather slip in the back door whilehes entertaining the room and pull the girls up. He can be my

distraction and entertainment.

Heres the other beautiful part of this good news. It means that with

your own personality, with your own sense of who you are, you can

be attractive without having to imitate anybody else.

It improves how quick you learn because youre no longer looking

through the filter of your mistakes, it gets you out of your own way


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so it makes your actions much smoother, it quiets down your

energetic field, and finally it lets you calibrate to other people.

If youre quiet in your mind and your energy is grounded and youreno longer pushing against yourself, not only are you not noisy, but it

means that you dont have to observe other people through your

own noise. That means you can pick up on the subtle cues.

Many of you have been this close to getting laid, but because you

werent reading the signals, you missed it.

Christine, have you ever been in a situation with a guy where you

just wanted that guy but he didnt get it or see it? He just didnt see

the signals.

Christine: Yes.

Ross: Because he was probably chattering away in his head. It has many

advantages, this ability to stop putting mistakes back into your mind

and to learn to stop it. This is why Im going to show you a method

to do this that you must practice.

Part of my job as the teacher is to convey new understandings and

drill you in new skills. Part of my job is to transform your

consciousness as youre sitting there listening. But the most

important part is to give you practices that you have to do. You

must do the practices because these things are contrary to how


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most humans live their lives. If you do the practice, you get the

skills and benefits. If you dont do the practice, you wont.

Matthew is an example of someone whos doing the practices. Igave him meditation practices to do and breathing practices. Have

they made a difference to you?

Matthew: A huge difference.

Ross: Talk about this. I want to motivate you guys a little bit more before I

teach you this. Matthew, can you say what practices I gave you to

do?

Matthew: The one thing in the morning was the grounding. I breathe through

here and here, and just really grounding.

Ross: I gave you a breathing exercise to do.

Matthew: Yeah, for like 10 minutes. Then I do a 20 minute where I sit in the

lotus position. I do the fire breath first, and then I do the 20-minute

sitting in meditation without any expectations or anything. Thats

what slowed everything down. I was able to command and just

have total equanimity without thinking or tripping out. It just helped

me with everything.

Ross: You also used to be someone who dwelled on mistakes and failure.


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Matthew: Thats what I was running constantly in my head.

Ross: How did we get you to stop doing that?

Matthew: It was the conscious language.

Ross: So you no longer dwell on your mistakes?

Matthew: No. But now I catch them when it does come up. You were saying

the million with the hundred thing.

Ross: I gave him something Im going to give you guys to do. I was rough

on Matthew. I knew I had to be, because Matthew came to me with

a lot of self-pity. He was running a lot of self-pity and self-pity is the

worst thing you can do, because self-pity is taking pain and piling

on misery and story and drama. I gave him an assignment that

whenever he started to tell himself things about how limited he was,

he had to stop and change how he language it. Were going to

show you that. That made a tremendous difference for you, didnt

it?

Matthew: Yeah, it did. Every time I would start speaking in that way, you

would say, Shut up, stop, and say up until recently Ive been

experiencing frustration, experience this, but now I choose to take it

wherever I want to take it. I thought that was the stupidest thing in

the world.


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Ross: Didnt you think I was full of shit and stupid?

Matthew: Yeah, I did, until I started writing down

Ross: Some of what Im going to teach you is going to seem totally

obvious. Youre already doing it; no problem. Some of it may seem,

Thats a little different, but Im going to give it a shot. Where youre

really going to find leverage is the stuff that looks like stupid-ass,

gay, new age, fucked up, idiotic, insane stuff. But ironically, thats

the stuff that has the leverage to change you because it is so

different from what youre used to.

Matthew: I started drilling my thoughts and when my thoughts would pop up,

Id see a really hot girl or something and Id have the feelings and

Id write it down. Usually every thought was negative or from the

past and I had to change that thinking.

It still pops up a little bit, but now I catch it a lot quicker. Its lost the

cognitive momentum, the wheel thats been turning a lot more

smoothly in my life. The conscious language is huge and the

grounding exercises have helped me. Everything just comes

together.

Ross: Were going to get to some practical stuff in a minute, but I want

you to hear it so you understand where its going. When people

come to me for change work or private coaching, I know there are

three major changes in their orientation I have to do.


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The first thing I have to do is train them to look for whats working. I

need to train them and demand that the first thing they tell me is

anything they have done thats worked, no matter how small,

because usually in this area of life guys have a habit of only saying

the failure.

I tell this story many times and it bears repeating. Its about a guy

who used my stuff when he went into a club. Have you ever seen a

girl whos so hot guys do U turns? They get this close, and then

they deflect and walk away. She was just shooting everyone done.

He went into state. He walked up to her and I think he said

something like, I dont know what youre doing to keep all the guys

away, but its not working on me, so I thought Id give you a chance

to meet me. My name is so-and-so. Within 20 minutes, they were

making out like crazy. This guy felt like a God. This is a guy who

had not gotten laid in two or three years, and suddenly the hottest

girl in the club is macking on him and grinding on his crotch. All the

guys were looking at him like, Who the fuck is this dude?

He gets her phone number, goes home and figures, Im going to

wait three days. Im going to make this bitch wait, because shes

not used to it. Three days later, he goes to grab the phone and call

her and its not there. Where is it? Hes looking all around and

trashes his condo. Fuck. Its trash day tomorrow. He mustve

thrown it in the dumpster out back.


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He dives into the dumpster behind the condo building. He said he

was down there 90 minutes going through dirty diapers, cat litter,

rotting food and all sorts of stuff. 90 minutes later, he comes up

empty-handed.

He said to me, Ross, Ive been depressed for six weeks. I cant

even talk to a girl. Im just a failure.

It occurs to me that he had to hypnotically hallucinate away

everything he did right. He had to forget about every bit of skill he

did to get that girl making out with him. He had trained himself tolook through the eyes of defeat, failure, frustration, and pain.

One of the orientations I teach guys to do is to, first and foremost,

notice anything thats working no matter how small. The second

orientation I give guys is orienting themselves into their body so

they know what its like to be in their body and feel grounded

through their feet. Its very important.

The third orientation I give guys is an action orientation, meaning

when you have a question about whether something is going to

work, you dont roll around in your head. You go out to the world

and do multiple repeat experiments. You let the world and your

actions in the world teach you what actually works.

If you can make those three shifts, if you can shift into being in your

body instead of just floating around, if you can shift to noticing what


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works, and finally if you can shift into having an action orientation

that you get your answers through actions in the world and

combine that with a quiet mind thats no longer fighting yourself,

everything will fall into place. Everything else that I teach you will

come so much faster and so much stronger.

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