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How do we, as men, know if a woman is interested in us? In pick up artist parlance, one way (not the best, but most common) is by reading a woman’s “Indicators of Interest”or IOIs. To put it simply, an Indicator of Interest is some verbal or nonverbal display of her attraction to you.

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Indicators of Interest List:

10 Mi t k t 10 Mistakes to Understanding Understanding

IOIs

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How do we, as men, know if a woman is interested in us?interested in us?In pick up artist parlance, one way (not the best but most common) is by the best, but most common) is by reading a woman’s “Indicators of Interest”or IOIs. To put it simply, an p p yIndicator of Interest is some verbal or nonverbal display of her attraction to

Sh ’ di i l th t h you. She’s sending you signals that she likes you, whether it’s her touching your arm or the beautiful girl telling you

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arm or the beautiful girl telling you outright that she finds you attractive.

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Unfortunately, too many guys, pick up artists or not are making these 10 artists or not, are making these 10 mistakes when it comes to IOIs.

Are you?Are you?

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Indicators of Interest List: 10 Mistakes to Understanding IOIsUnderstanding IOIs

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Looking for Indicators of Interest: I hate to break this to you guys but hate to break this to you, guys, but you’re not going to get any. Don’t look for them. Unless the girl clubs you over the head and drags you off to make out in the g yback of the bar, you’re not going to understand her subtle hints anyway. So t l i h t stop over-analyzing her movements,

behaviors and body language – they don’t mean a thing Be confident and

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don t mean a thing. Be confident and game forward.

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Relying on Indicators of Interest: I have been in situations where I honestly have been in situations where I honestly don’t know if the girl found me physically attractive in the first place (and I’m p (secure enough in myself to admit that most women simply do not find my 5 ffoot 5 inches Asian physique the ideal sexual specimen), but I’m pretty sure I MADE her attracted to me afterwardsMADE her attracted to me afterwards.

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I am not an altogether persuasive man, but what I am is a force of charisma but what I am is a force of charisma, dominance and personality.

In essence, I gamed forward in the absence of any IOIs.absence of any IOIs.

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Thinking Race Isn’t a Factor: I’m Asian More often than not non-Asian Asian. More often than not, non Asian girls assume that Asian men only date Asian women. They don’t even bother ysending signals because they don’t think it’s going to go anywhere. This is something we as Asian PUAs can change, but we need to dominate with

b f thi h d our game before this happens and display our own masculine, sexual charisma and confidence

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charisma and confidence.

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Thinking Asian Girls Aren’t Different:Many Asian women do NOT give signals Many Asian women do NOT give signals. Period. I know, it’s weird, but trust me. I’m sure it has something to do with the gculture and how they’re supposed to be seen as mild-mannered and quiet.

Even so, it’s still an issue and if you’re going for this kind of girl, you need to remember that.

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And it’s not just limited to Asian girls, there are a certain subtype of girls that there are a certain subtype of girls that WILL NOT GIVE IOIs even if their life depended on it. pIn my experience, you just have to game on, pile through, and see if they pass the p g y pcompliance test. Remember compliance tests are better than IOIs and not

i li t t i NOT th passing a compliance test is NOT the same thing as her FAILING a compliance test

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compliance test.

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Thinking Too Much About Them: Can you tell who is and is not giving IOIs you tell who is and is not giving IOIs between the ABCs students and women?Too many PUAs are obsessed about Too many PUAs are obsessed about trying to find Indicators of Interest that they scour online PUA forums for lists of yIOIs, but instead it becomes a CRUTCHfor them to NOT talk to a girl. They’re

i l t i i th l t l unconsciously training themselves to only talk to a girl that’s giving HIM signals first That’s not confidence that’s just

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first. That s not confidence, that s just playing it safe.

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What are you going to do? Keep COUNTof IOIs and signals in the middle of of IOIs and signals in the middle of flirting? HELL NO!

Use your confidence and personality to MAKE her attracted. You never know, MAKE her attracted. You never know, she may be in the beginning phase of being attracted to you or she can be persuaded via your game to BE attracted to you.

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Making Excuses: Saying things like “I’m looking for signals before I make a looking for signals before I make a move” or “I can’t try anything unless I know whether or not she’s interested” sounds like a good plan initially; after all, no harm in playing it safe, right?

Except, of course, there IS harm.

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If you’re waiting for a girl to give you signals before approaching you will be signals before approaching, you will be waiting a VERY long time.

This is one of the highest beta behavioral characteristics in unsuccessful men, characteristics in unsuccessful men, Asian and non-Asian alike.

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Skipping the Compliance Test: A compliance test is in short asking the compliance test is, in short, asking the woman to comply to a favor or request to see how into you she really is. y y

A quick and easy test is to simply ask to A quick and easy test is to simply ask to move to a different location of the bar or club.

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If she accepts and does what you ask, she’s becoming more interested in you she s becoming more interested in you. Read this article about the C-Phase: Compliance, Comfort & Connect! p ,

Compliance tests are the only REAL way Compliance tests are the only REAL way to find out if she likes you and is far, FAR more powerful than simple IOIs.

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Experience Matters: Think back to jr. high and high school what were you high and high school…what were you doing at the time? Were you making out behind the bleachers during football ggames? Or were you not in attendance because yyou were cramming for the SATs so you could get into the top schools? Chances are, if you’re Asian, you were doing the latter.

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Not to say that all Asians conform to stereotypes but unfortunately it’s just stereotypes, but, unfortunately, it s just in our culture to hold off on girls until we get school squared away. Mix this in with g q your already timid dating culture and you find that an estimated 33% of Asian men simply don’t know what to do in the club scene. While this can be overcome, it’s an active process that must be worked an active process that must be worked on all the time. You have to get experience in order to know what you’re

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experience in order to know what you re doing with Indicators of Interest!

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Getting Frustrated: Alright, alright. So there are some signals out there that a there are some signals out there that a woman will give you if she really is interested, but you CANNOT rely on , y ythese. They are more often than not too subtle yfor you to understand anyway, and that’s not an insult – women, especially b tif l j t t d t beautiful women, are just too good at flirting and seduction, and the better they are the more subtle the hints

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they are, the more subtle the hints.

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For example: making and holding eye contact is going to be a little more contact is going to be a little more assertive; she wants to talk to you if she maintains the eye contact. Playing with y y gher hair, however, is so subtle that she probably doesn’t even know she’s doing it, as it’s a subconscious thing. Touching and saying she likes something b t i about you are even more aggressive

indicators of interest, and complying with a request is one of the stronger hints a

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a request is one of the stronger hints a girl can give you.

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Again, though, DO NOT RELY ON THESE For those of us who are average THESE. For those of us who are average or not-so average looking, we aren’t going to receive a lot of IOIs due to our g gpassive value. At least not initially. Also, if you’re an y yAFC (Average Frustrated Chump) you don’t know where and how to look for th if tti IOIthem even if you were getting IOIs.

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I only listed them because there are curious minds out there curious minds out there.

However if you listen to only one point However, if you listen to only one point of my ten point article and ignore the rest, your game WILL NOT IMPROVE. rest, your game WILL NOT IMPROVE. I’m sorry, but it’s true.

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Not Taking a Bootcamp: Yes, this is important Why? Because if you’re asking important. Why? Because if you re asking me about signals then I fear for your game. We take guys (and yes, about g g y ( y ,33% of our PUA bootcamp clients are non-Asian) that need that extra push and show them the ropes; teach them what to do and how to do it.

It’s incredibly beneficial and can do nothing but help

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nothing but help.

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don’t need to advertise because my lifestyle advertises for me – I date lifestyle advertises for me I date beautiful women on a regular basis, and I’m just like many of you. I used to be a j y yrocket scientist and I lost a lot of time that I could have spent on refining my game.As you can see, that has not stopped me

I k I h l b I li now. I know I can help you because I live and breathe the results.

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After reading this article, I hope you’ve learned to not look for signals or worse learned to not look for signals or, worse, waiting for her to make the first move.As a man and aspiring PUA it is up to As a man and aspiring PUA, it is up to YOU to take charge and push through. So, next time, instead of searching for ghints and missing your opportunity, just GO for it.

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As the great Wayne Gretzky said:“You miss 100% of the shots that you “You miss 100% of the shots that you DON’T take.”If you still need convincing about the If you still need convincing about the success rate of this approach, try one of the many ABCs of Attraction bootcampsthe many ABCs of Attraction bootcampsavailable in all major cities.

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