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NI-". SirncLrssa sta;eti that, *,ele it i-in to i-rer'. she ..voukl '*ant llr. Ficijei to t'ecei';e

coLrnseiling to aclclless issl:es of'anger ancl vei.tgealce toivards her that she has e:rperiencerifi-om irin-r since tl:eir separaricn. FLirthelnior-e, she is concet'necL al.out hot, IIi. Fidjei's negati',-e

legai:d ti;r' her, anc! u'c.i-iien iil qenerai- lla';e and rvill continire to aiiict her .^ons. Site believe,.i\Il'. irici]ei has coniinliall;; shareii these ','iews u,ith the chilcjren rathe;- thzrn jLrst spenciitrq-

qLraliry tbther'-son tir:re lvith thern. Ailcliiionali',', beca,-ise Mr. Irid.)el has otirer chilclren fi'cm his

previor-rs malriages rvhom he abancloneci, N{s. Simotissa cloes not believe that NJr. Fidjel iscr:mrnit:ed to iris Flanza ancl \&'a-lici ibl the long-ter:n. In spite of this. anrl "in tire u,c.rst case

sceiralio," she believes N{r'. FiJ]ei's access s}rorilli remait: as it cttt'retrtlv is.

P ar:ent-Child Observat ionsI obserr"ed N{s. SimoLrssa arici tire chilclren ciuring zr }rome visit ancl tluring o{iice

appointrnents. r\t NIs. SirnoLrs-"a's home, both boys rvere excited that I had come to r.,isit. -fhey

seemecl comfortable in the horne anC eager to sho'"v rne arctind. The small 9-store;;. 9-bedr"oorntorvn hoine rvas neat ancl pleasantly tb'nished. Ms- Sirr-ioussa and tl're ci.lllcli'en rvere.iLrst sittingclorvn for lunch u,iren I ar':'ir,ed. Both cliilclren leaciily and aDpropriately.ioinecl N{s. SirnoLrssa atthe table u'hen aslied and began eating. 'fhe three chattecl casr-ra1iy as they ate. At one point,I-Iarnza became quite silly, u,as unabie to stop giggling, anci spat some food. l\{s. Simoussafirmll'and appropriately adr,'ised l-Iamza that he l-racl earned a "tin-ie out" and sent him to thestairs.just offthe hitchen. I.{amza rnildly cornplainecl bLrt readily complied. At Flarnza'a reqlrest,N'fs. Simoussa confirned that he rvas to remain on the stails ibr I minutes, not 9 becaLrse hisbirthclay rvas not Lurtil the fbllou,ing Inonth. N'Is. Sirnoussa continued to interact r,r'ith \\ralid as

they ate. Llamza remained on the stairs ibr the allotted time. After a gentle reminder by N'Is.

SirnoLrssa of her expectations lbr his behaviour, ire rvas allou'ed to re-]oin the family to finish hisrneal. After lr-rncir, tire boys *,ere pleased to shos' rne ti-reir beclroon, rvhich they share. -lhe

roorn rvas neatly lirrnishecl .,vith bunk becls, a dresser, and a desh r.r,ith compr:ter.

I)Lrring visits to my o{Ice, Ivls. Sirnorlssa \vas calm and patient rvit}r both c}rilciren. Attinres s}-re aliorved some oltheir more exuberant behaviour-, s'.lch as llamza bouncing as he szrt

on the couch, or Walid r,vanting to give hel iiisses and climb into her' lap, to go rLncheckedbefbre gently but firmiy reclit'ectiiig thern and ren-rincling tl-rern ol her expectations. Thechildren attencled at my office trvice rvith their mother. Each time, they arrived rvith smiles anclsor]re as-e-appr-opr-iate silliness betu,een then-r, t,hich A4s. Simoussa somctimes appl'opt'iately

.ioined and at other times applopliately managed.

Structured Activity. At rny office, I instn-rcted lVIs. Simotrssa and the cirilclren to decidetoc-etlter hou'they rvotrlcl create a single pictLrre of an event or speciirl occasion the-y had alreaciyshared, or rvould lilte to shar-e together. Thev lr,ele fiu'ther instructecl to make sure that each olthem had the opportunity to contribLrte. On the table rr.,ere one sheet of paper- ancl 3 boxes ofcrayons. A second plece of paper u,as placeri off to the side and alvay i}om their rvorli alea.NthoLrgir it '"r'as visible, the papel was sornewhat oLrt of the rvay and clearly not part of'thematelials to be Lrsed {bl this activity-

Ms. Siilorissa invitecl both children to sl-rale theil icieas of r.vhat to dr;rrv. She guicledthem to a joint tlecision about u,hat to clras', ancl praised the boys throrighout. When theattention of one or the other rvanecl, she redirected them eflectivelv. She tooli cale to ellsut'etliey lollou'ed r;ry clirectior.rs. S}:e clid this by :rsking tlie chilclren qLrestions to elicit tireinfbrmation fl'om thenr. Several titnes, I-Iamza made suggestions that deviared flror:r the

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