I am a Person Who…I am a Person Who…Re-Write and complete the following sentences as quickly as Re-Write and complete the following sentences as quickly as

possible. Write the 1possible. Write the 1stst thing that comes to mind!! thing that comes to mind!!

I am a person who likes I am a person who likes I am a person who canI am a person who canI am a person who has I am a person who has I am a person who hates I am a person who hates I am a person who never I am a person who never I am a person who alwaysI am a person who alwaysI am a person who should I am a person who should I am a person who needs I am a person who needs I am a person who wants I am a person who wants I am a person who would rather I am a person who would rather than than

Put a (*) next to thing that makes you the most proud. Place Put a (*) next to thing that makes you the most proud. Place a (-) next to those things that you would like to changea (-) next to those things that you would like to change

Our time in this Our time in this world is limited. world is limited.

Make it happen for Make it happen for yourself so you yourself so you

leave your mark in leave your mark in history!history!

Self-concept: Self-concept: Picture or Picture or perception of perception of ourselvesourselves

Self-ideal: The Self-ideal: The way we would way we would

like to belike to be

Self Esteem: Feelings we Self Esteem: Feelings we have about ourselveshave about ourselves

Self esteem: Self esteem: What’s it made of?What’s it made of?

Your self-esteem is Your self-esteem is made up of all the made up of all the experiences and experiences and

interpersonal interpersonal relationships relationships

you’ve had in your you’ve had in your life. life.

Everyone you’ve Everyone you’ve ever met has added ever met has added

to or taken away to or taken away from how you see from how you see

yourself!yourself!

How much do you How much do you believe in your self? believe in your self? On a piece of paper On a piece of paper write down the write down the percentage of how percentage of how much you believe in much you believe in yourself. 100%? yourself. 100%? 75%? 50%?75%? 50%?

What are you What are you achieving with that achieving with that percentage?percentage?

What would happen What would happen if you believed in if you believed in yourself 25% more?yourself 25% more?

Dreams and self belief Dreams and self belief are free. You can are free. You can take all you want take all you want and walk away.and walk away.

How is your self-concept built & destroyed?How is your self-concept built & destroyed?

BuildingBuildingFind a good role modelFind a good role modelPraise & complimentsPraise & complimentsFocus on the positiveFocus on the positive

Keep criticism to a minimumKeep criticism to a minimumSet & achieve goalsSet & achieve goals

DestroyedDestroyedComparing yourself to othersComparing yourself to othersPutting yourself downPutting yourself downDrug abuseDrug abuse??

Effects of Low Self EsteemEffects of Low Self EsteemPeople with low self-esteem possess the People with low self-esteem possess the

following characteristics:following characteristics: They don’t believe in themselves.They don’t believe in themselves. They see themselves failing before they They see themselves failing before they

begin.begin. They have a hard time forgiving their They have a hard time forgiving their

mistakes and make themselves pay the mistakes and make themselves pay the price forever.price forever.

They believe they can never be as good as They believe they can never be as good as they should be or as others.they should be or as others.

They are afraid to show their creativity because they will be ridiculed.

They are dissatisfied with their lives. They spend most of their time alone. They complain and criticize. They worry about everything and do

nothing.

Effects of High Self EsteemEffects of High Self EsteemPeople with high self-esteem possess People with high self-esteem possess

the following characteristics:the following characteristics: They like to meet new people.They like to meet new people. They don’t worry about how others They don’t worry about how others

will judge them.will judge them. They have the courage to express They have the courage to express

themselves.themselves. Their lives are enriched with each Their lives are enriched with each

new encounter.new encounter. They are nicer to be around. Their ideas are met with interest

because others want to hear what they have to say.

They are magnets to positive opportunities!

Tips for building Self EsteemTips for building Self Esteem1.1. Identify with people, books, videos, television shows, etc., that build your Identify with people, books, videos, television shows, etc., that build your

self-esteemself-esteem2.2. Build others – give sincere compliments oftenBuild others – give sincere compliments often3.3. Think positivelyThink positively4.4. Set and achieve goalsSet and achieve goals5.5. Do something challenging each dayDo something challenging each day6.6. Look your bestLook your best7.7. Eat correctlyEat correctly8.8. Do something for someone elseDo something for someone else9.9. Learn a new skillLearn a new skill10.10. ““Act as if” you possess traits you would like to haveAct as if” you possess traits you would like to have11.11. Observe self-concept peopleObserve self-concept people12.12. Handle things one at a timeHandle things one at a time13.13. Use criticism constructivelyUse criticism constructively14.14. Improve your personal living spaceImprove your personal living space15.15. Allow personal growth time each dayAllow personal growth time each day16.16. Post self-improvement reminders in obvious placesPost self-improvement reminders in obvious places17.17. Do not say negative things about yourselfDo not say negative things about yourself18.18. Reward yourself oftenReward yourself often19.19. List your accomplishments each evening List your accomplishments each evening

How do values and morals fit into How do values and morals fit into feeling good about yourself?feeling good about yourself?

Knowing yourself is a Knowing yourself is a prerequisite to a good prerequisite to a good self esteemself esteem

Discover your values – Discover your values – a value is something a value is something you strongly believe inyou strongly believe in

Live by Live by whatwhat you value you value – the closer your – the closer your values come to your values come to your actions the happier actions the happier you will be.you will be.

You become which you think

about most.

Change the bad

Appreciate life

Willing to try

new things Believes in self

Is not a threat to others

Doesn’t submit to

peer pressure

Accept failure

Leader to

others

Good Self

Esteem

Who has contributed to Who has contributed to your self esteem?your self esteem?

Keeping it Real…Keeping it Real…

No One Can Make YOU Feel Inferior Without Your Consent!!!

Eleanor Roosevelt

Accept yourself: Stop worrying about the things you Accept yourself: Stop worrying about the things you can’t change. Be more accepting of others and can’t change. Be more accepting of others and the things they can’t change.the things they can’t change.

Try not to compare with others. It’s unfair. You may Try not to compare with others. It’s unfair. You may compare their strengths with your weaknesses. compare their strengths with your weaknesses. Judge yourself in terms of your own growth Judge yourself in terms of your own growth

Have Realistic Expectations – We expect to much from Have Realistic Expectations – We expect to much from ourselves. Perfection is not possible but bettering ourselves. Perfection is not possible but bettering our-self should be a lifetime goal. We grow with our-self should be a lifetime goal. We grow with models who appear to be perfect at everything. models who appear to be perfect at everything. Hero’s are good to look at but they have their Hero’s are good to look at but they have their problems too.problems too.

Emphasize your strengthsEmphasize your strengths

Change what can be changed. Some things fast, Change what can be changed. Some things fast, others gradual, and others never. There are others gradual, and others never. There are things we inherit but we can change our attitude things we inherit but we can change our attitude about it. Try new experiences.about it. Try new experiences.

Self-esteem comes from Self-esteem comes from every experience of every experience of your life.your life.

How you view yourself How you view yourself affects everything you affects everything you do in life.do in life.

High self-esteem gives High self-esteem gives you a GOOD feeling you a GOOD feeling about yourself.about yourself.

Low self-esteem distorts Low self-esteem distorts your view of yourself.your view of yourself.Self-esteem can be Self-esteem can be improved!improved!

Remember

Work Towards a Healthy IdentityWork Towards a Healthy Identity

Recognize your Recognize your strengths & weaknessesstrengths & weaknessesDevelop a purpose in Develop a purpose in your lifeyour lifeDemonstrate positive Demonstrate positive valuesvaluesContribute to a health Contribute to a health communitycommunityForm meaningful Form meaningful relationshipsrelationshipsAvoid unhealthy risk Avoid unhealthy risk behaviorsbehaviors

Final ThoughtsFinal Thoughts

You are a unique You are a unique individual. No individual. No one else is like one else is like

you in the whole you in the whole world. This world. This makes you makes you

special already!special already!

Practice thinking positive and accept compliments. Just Practice thinking positive and accept compliments. Just say “thank you”. Give compliments to others. It makes say “thank you”. Give compliments to others. It makes you feel good. you feel good.

Activity:Activity: Face & look at the person next to you. One is “A” and Face & look at the person next to you. One is “A” and

the other is “the other is “BB”. ”.

““AA” says to “” says to “BB”: “you are absolutely, undeniably a ”: “you are absolutely, undeniably a remarkable person/student/etc”. remarkable person/student/etc”. “B” “B” responds with responds with “thank you”.“thank you”.

Reverse it: But “B” puts on a attitude with it and says: Reverse it: But “B” puts on a attitude with it and says: “you are absolutely, undeniably a remarkable person, “you are absolutely, undeniably a remarkable person, etc.”. “A” responds with: “you got that right honey”.etc.”. “A” responds with: “you got that right honey”.

There are two different people in the There are two different people in the world. One that says “I wish I had” and world. One that says “I wish I had” and the one that says “I’m glad I did”. the one that says “I’m glad I did”. Remember you can have anything in this Remember you can have anything in this world if you just believe in yourself.world if you just believe in yourself.