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HOW TO SAY NO. Refusal Skills. Communication strategies that can help you say no when you are urged to take part in behaviors that are unsafe or unhealthful, or that go against your values. . SAYING NO CAN BE DIFFICULT. When is it hard to say, “NO”? Saying no to someone you care about - PowerPoint PPT Presentation

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HOW TO SAY NO

HOW TO SAY NO

Refusal SkillsCommunication strategies that can help you say no when you are urged to take part in behaviors that are unsafe or unhealthful, or that go against your values.

SAYING NO CAN BE DIFFICULTWhen is it hard to say, NO?Saying no to someone you care aboutSaying no to someone of authorityYou feel like there may be a loss or you might miss out

Relate to students- explain when you have to say no and it is difficult. It is a skill that everyone needs or you may find yourself in situations you regret. Refusal StrategiesSAY NO IN A FIRM VOICEDo this calmly and clearly. Use expressions such as Id rather not.

Prompt students to give examples of ways they could say No. Be sure to stress that Nos should not be ambiguous Refusal StrategiesEXPLAIN WHYState your feelings. Tell the other person that the suggested activity or behavior goes against your values or beliefs.

Be as truthful as possible. If you get caught in a lie you may find yourself losing your excuse and failing to refuse. Refusal StrategiesSUGGEST ALTERNATIVESPropose a safe, healthful activity to do instead.

Explain that this will allow the person you are refusing to save face. It can diffuse a situation and help the person whose idea you are rejecting move on. Refusal StrategiesUSE APPROPRIATE BODY LANGUAGEMake it clear that you dont intend to back down from your position. Look directly into the other persons eyes

This should be used through out the sequence. Explain the difference between passive, assertive, and aggressive Refusal StrategiesLEAVE IF NECESSARYIf the other person continues to pressure you, or simply wont take no for an answer, just walk away

Explain that these steps are progressive. If you say no and person excepts it as that, there is no need to move to a further step. If they push, give them a explanation. If the continue to push offer an alternative. If they push beyond that leave and consider whether this person has your best interest at heart and whether they should be considered a friend. Application ActivityIn a small group of 3-4 prepare to act out the refusal scenario given to you. Act out your scenario twiceThe first time try to refuse but fail and end up compromising yourselfThe second time successfully refuse