When our birthdays rolled around, Mom would whip up a box of Betty Crocker, holler to the neighbor kids and serve frosted slabs on paper napkins. Done!

But over the past (ahem) two decades, the kids’ birthday party industry has exploded like a well stuffed piñata, and proper planning can be a total mystery. Limos? Snow machines? Gift registries? What’s a newbie to do?

Here’s a clue: you can plan an extravaganza that’s as affordable, manageable and memorable as your own backyard birthdays, not to mention a total blast for both you and your kiddo.

Stick with Kidsguide as we unlock the secrets to pull-ing off the Perfect Party Caper.

THE PLANNING. Any great quest starts with a mis-sion, and here it is: to celebrate your little lovey. That’s it!

Planning a party, we’re not out to win our kids’ af-fection, impress the PTA crowd or fuel our Instagram feeds. There’s no need to get blown up by peer pres-sure, sucked into late-night Pinterest binges (oooh, apple donuts!) or tormented by your tab at Party City.

“There were many years that parents were trying to do the most creative or original theme, or party ideas that had never been done before,” said Erin Young, who’s run her own party-planning company, Parties by Erin & Co., since 2007 (bestpartiesbyerin.com).

“But I’ve noticed the ‘out-doing the last party’ thing has died down quite a bit. I always ask my clients, what can we do to make your party perfect, and now the response 95 percent of the time is, ‘I just want my child to be happy.’”

So start with a little detective work. Four to six weeks out, schedule a friendly interrogation. What does the birthday kiddo really love? Who does she see at her party? What does she want to avoid? Birthday bliss could mean anything from a candy-fueled fourth-grade karaoke fest to a trip with a best bud to the Columbia Memorial Space Center.

If you have a wee one, look for clues. Does he love puppies? Elmo? Bubbles? Eureka, there’s your theme!

And if you think you’re limited to the “Frozen” aisle at Michaels, let it go. Consider your kid’s favorite books, characters, celebrities, hobbies or vacation spots. With a little creativity, you can plan a great bash on any budget.

Once you’ve pinned down a theme, Young recommends booking any performers, facili-ties or food right away. “If you have your ven-dors and entertainment set ahead of time,“ she said, “there is so much less stress leading up to the party.”

Count on an hour and a half to two hours on a week-end afternoon or early evening. And, for everyone’s sake, avoid nap time, advises Rachel Fernandez, Vice President of Operations for Let’s Have a Cart Party (letshaveacartparty.com). She remembers one sleepy toddler falling face-first into his frosting.

THE SCENE. You’ve got your theme, now it’s time to set the scene.

HOME, SWEET HOME. For comfort, convenience and control, there’s no place like home. You know exactly where to find the ranch dressing and emer-gency baby wipes. You’re not worried about losing a little guest in the shark exhibit. Need to talk to the manager? It’s you!

And at home, you can choose to keep things dollar-store-easy with DIY food and decorations, or go big with hired help.

MAIN ATTRACTIONS. If you’re not up for a homegrown party, you’re expecting a rowdy bunch, or your invite list is overpowering your apartment, think about outsourcing.

“When you add up the food and tables and chairs and bouncy houses and entertainers you might need to hire for home, a birthday party package at a venue

The PERFECT Party Caper

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How to Host a Party Your Kids–and You–Will Love

can be very appealing,” said Ken Garcia, manager at Golf N’ Stuff in Norwalk (golfnstuff.com), which gives birthday groups full run of the park, a server and ev-erything from pizza to party hats. “Best of all, there’s no mess to clean up.”

Your crew can bounce off the walls at Big Air Tram-poline Park ($50 off coupon on page 45!), direct a music video at IncrediFlix, take a spin at East West Ice Palace, “fly” a combat mission at Flightdeck (10% off on page 47), paint a masterpiece at Art Steps, cook up Pizoukie Sundaes at Lil’ Chef School and more.

Basic party packages usually include a party room and activity, but you can often spring for invitations, decorations, food, favors and other perks. Sign on the dotted line and you’re done!

THE BIRTHDAY EXPERIENCE. Some of the very best birthdays aren’t parties at all. Sift through nearly any section of Kidsguide to find the perfect birthday adventure.

Climb aboard the trains at Travel Town. Go horseback riding. Have afternoon tea and then hunt for ghosts on the Queen Mary. Learn to fish in Dana Point. Peer into the La Brea Tar Pits. Take a surfing or fencing class. Find out who’s new at the aquarium or the zoo. Head to Griffith Observatory (it’s free!). Work on your swing at the batting cages. Check out the Kidsguide

Calendar (kidsguidemagazine.com) for an upcoming festival or concert.

And don’t overlook your kiddo’s all-time favorite place. Even if it doesn’t offer traditional birthday party packages, most of the time the staff would be happy to make any birthday wishes come true. It doesn’t hurt to ask.

THE SUSPECTS. Who to invite? Here’s how to pull together your lineup:

DO consider the classic rule of thumb—one guest for each year of the birthday bambino’s age.

DON’T be afraid to adjust the number up or down, but be real: “Having a very large group can be stressful for the parent and keeps them from en-joying their child’s special day,” said Elisa Zamora of Blue Submarine. She recommends 20 or less.

DON’T feel obligated to invite your offspring’s whole class. For a smaller group, pop the invites in the mail.

DO consider your venue. A crowd of squirmy first-graders might be pinched in your parlor, but they’ll have plenty of elbow room at a roller rink.

DO recruit other grownups or a neighborhood teen to help run games, pass out cake or supervise, espe-cially if you’ll be walking through an amusement park or other public venue. Plan on one adult for every four kids.

DO be clear on your invites whether parents and siblings are welcome. If not, you can nicely say it’s a “drop-off” party (generally for kids ages 6+), with a set pick-up time.

THE TOOLS. Your scheme is coming together, now it’s time to get your hands on the goods.

THE INVITATIONS. Who doesn’t like finding a neon-bright envelope in the mail? Pick up a pack of invitations at any discount store, or get creative.

Smilebox (smilebox.com) lets you customize hun-dreds of templates, and you can email, print or post your creation to social media, all for free. Cruise through dozens of free printables at Greetings Is-land (greetingsisland.com). Or go fancy and order a set from tinyprints.com or minted.com.

Plan on sending your invites at least two weeks in advance. Be sure to include the location and street address, a start and stop time, whether the party’s a drop-off and if you’ll be serving a meal or just cake. Should the guests tote a towel and swimsuit, dress for a mess, or bring a used-toy donation for a local shelter in lieu of a gift? Say so now. Juggler starting at 2 p.m. sharp? Clue in your guests so they don’t miss the show.

THE DECORATIONS. Sure, you can load up on pa-per décor at the party store, but there might be a better (cheaper! cuter!) way. To really deck out your digs, find some partners in crime. Grill your craftiest friends, put grandma on the case or send out a call on social media letting accomplices know what you’re looking for. Cardboard boxes for fort-building. Tents for a backyard “campout.” Firewood for your Paul Bunyan party, with a flapjacks “cake.” Empty suitcases for a trip around the world. Swim goggles for your mad scientists. Orange cones and caution tape for your construction zone. Old sheets for mural painting.

Check Kidsguide’s “Parties” board on Pinterest. And don’t miss the awesome bloggers who devote themselves to all things party: karaspartyideas.com, catchmyparty.com, blog.birdsparty.com or party-wagon.com, with brilliantly low-cost ideas, free printables and how to’s.

“My son wanted a LEGO piñata for his birthday party. I searched online and in stores and came up empty,” said Kidsguide reader Aurora Abt, who turned to the blogs for help. “Lo and behold, I found pictures and step-by-step instructions. It was easy to make and a fraction of the cost of a generic piñata.”

THE EATS. What to serve? “Don’t overthink it,” advised Fernandez of Let’s Have a Cart Party, which has been serving treats from vintage carts at Southland events for more than 45 years. “Kids are pretty easy to please.”

Choosing just one or two main dishes helps you plan quantities, avoid waste and save cash, she said. Their most popular kid items are…drumroll…hot dogs, hamburgers, chicken nuggets, French fries and hand-dipped ice cream bars, but she also fields loads of requests for pizza, tacos and quesa-dillas. Count on at least two pieces of the main dish for each grown-up and one for each kid, she said. Include a few safe options, like fresh fruits and veggies, for vegetarians/vegans and kids with allergies.

You can add in some entertainment by having guests make their own grub. Set out toppings for a make-your-own hot dog, mini pizza or nachos bar. Sketch a menu on a chalkboard and let kids choose their bread and fillings for a schmancy grilled cheese. Create a caramel apple station, or spear banana chunks with straws and let guests dip them in chocolate and sprinkles. Fill hardware-store paint buckets with pretzels, dried fruit, choco-late chips, cereal and marshmallows to make pre-hike trail mix.

And don’t be surprised to find that a caterer is totally affordable.“We buy everything in bulk, so we can

pass those savings along to our customers,” said Fernandez, who can help you plan for any budget (see a coupon for a free cart on page 69).

THE ENTERTAINMENT. For tiny revelers, Uncle Bob might make a great Batman, but savvy kids will appreciate a pro. There are plenty of performers, face painters, reptile wranglers—even ponies—who will come straight to you.

Flip through the “Parties” section starting on page 44 and order up your choice of superheroes, fairies and other eye-popping visitors. Enlist a magician to stupefy your guests. Order a mini tidepool for your backyard, where guests can touch live sea creatures and get their pictures snapped with a shark jaw. Or schedule a science show full of explosions, bubbling potions, experiments with hardboiled eggs, and slime to take home. Have giant plastic orbs delivered and let your guests walk around on your pool for the afternoon.

Whatever you do, Blue Submarine’s Elisa Zamora recommends starting the activity as soon as most guests have arrived (thebluesubmarine.com). “Kids of all ages will not be as interested if they’ve already found something else to do,” she said.

Fill in the rest of your time with simple games and hands-on diversions. See ideas on page 72.

But again, don’t go overboard. “I’ve entertained at parties where they’ve had a bounce house and a taco truck and a LEGO guy and a character and a pony and a magician,” Young said. “If you have too much going on, kids don’t know where to focus. Make it easy.”

MYSTERY SOLVED. And when the last guest leaves and your birthday kiddo’s sitting there grin-

ning, the only mystery will be why you didn’t do this sooner. And whodunnit? You did!