How To Flirt With a Married Woman In a Bar

by Romell Mack

There are plenty of "available" married women. I say that they're available because, in the rightplace and with the right guys, some women who claim to be faithful to their husbands are far toowilling to cheat. Some of the most "available" married women are the ones without (butsometimes, with...) their husbands at bars, lounges and nightclubs on a Friday night.

But how do you approach a married woman in a bar? And once you approach her, how do youflirt with her?

A married woman in a bar is often easier to seduce than a single woman in a bar

Go to any bar in your local area tonight. Look around. What you will see are plenty of womendrinking, dancing, talking and laughing with friends and getting hit on by horny men hoping to getlucky. Well, guess what? With all of the sexy (and not so sexy) available women in the spot,believe it or not, the one you're most likely to seduce is the married chick sitting at the far end ofthe bar ­ alone.

Now, that married woman may not be alone; maybe she's with friends, but as long as she's notwith her husband (though I'll tell you how to approach this situation in a moment), she's a prettygood candidate for flirtatious conversation ­ at the minimum.

Is she alone?

Now why would a married woman be alone in a bar? Maybe she's waiting for her husband, herfriends or "the other man" in her life! If she's truly alone, there's a reason why. Why don't you findout? Sit next to her, order a drink and start an "innocent", casual conversation. It's very likely thatshe welcomes conversation, she just doesn't want to be harassed!

Some guys get too aggressive with their approach and married women tend to prefer keepinginteraction low­key because of their situation. So, don't push it, just start a conversation, do alittle flirting by playing off what she says, do a little more flirting based on her responses, and thenjust see how it goes.

Note: You don't have to always initiate communication. Take your time. If you take a seat next to(or close to) her at the bar, allow the first few moments to flow naturally. Play the eye contactand body language game. She may initiate actual verbal communication ­ that takes somepressure off of you. Now, she has given you your opening and it's up to you how you want to

carry it. Remember, let things flow...

Is she with friends or colleagues?

The approach you take when a married woman is with others is vital. In my book I write abouthow to handle a situation when a married woman is out with friends. There are specifictechniques I lay out for you in detail. I won't go into them here, but I can give you some helpfuladvice.

You could simply use one of her friends or colleagues (male or female) to your advantage. Howso? Spark up a conversation with someone in the group. Use the conversation as well as yourobservation to get a feel for the dynamic of the group and overall environment. Of course, playthe eye contact and body language game with the woman you have your eye on and if youaccess that the situation is right, make your move.

You have to understand that friends and colleagues can present challenges. For one, it's not themost favorable situation to have her friends or co­workers witnessing the interaction. She maybe uncomfortable if those around her are watching and eavesdropping with raised eyebrows asyou flirt with her, and she (hopefully) flirts back.

But as I've said, friends and co­workers can also serve an advantage for you. People tend to becomfortable in groups. When you add the alcohol and music ­ it all can be quite an aphrodisiac!Within a bar atmosphere, so much is going on, people all around you are hooking up with eachother ­ both you and the married woman can feed off the whole environment and each other. Ifyou're on top of your flirting game, she might not want to go home to her husband, instead, shemight want to go home with you!

Is she with her husband?

To be straight up with you, I don't really recommend flirting with a woman in a bar if that womanis with her husband! Now, in my book I do share strategies on how to pursue a married womanwhen she's with her husband, but it can be a dangerous mission! It can be done successfully,but you have to be careful and very skilled in order to pull it off. And oftentimes you need factorsaround the situation to click just right.

You're definitely looking to fail (and possibly get yourself caught up in a confrontation) if you're tooaggressive about it. If you approach her and play her husband like he's no threat or doesn't evenexist ­ well, you're a much braver (or some would say "dumber") guy than the vast majority ofguys. If you are going to try and get it done, your path to getting her attention is through her man.

Spark up a conversation with her man. Talk sports or whatever subjects you two have incommon. Buy him a drink (if it "feels right", offer to buy her one as well). Your goal is to get him ina comfort zone around you and keep him in that comfort zone while you sneakily yet safely play

the eye contact and body language with his wife. Engaging with conversation with her? Evenbetter. But let her initiate and lead conversation (at least for awhile) to keep her man's suspicionlow.

As I write about in my book in order to "close the deal", you're going to have to convey a proposalto meet up with her at a later time without her husband. Unless her man passes out drunk,you're unlikely to pull her away from a one­night fling right then and there. But if the sparks areflying she'll be determined to hook up with you in the very near future under much safercircumstances.

If you're interested in reading a how­to guide on having affairs ­ for entertainment or educationalpurposes, of course, check out How To Sleep With His Wife: A guy's manual to having affairswith married women.