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How to Effectively Deal with the Emotional Roller Coaster
What Infidelity Looks & Feels Like
A Thousand Questions
Can I trust you?
Why was I so stupid?
How did I miss the signs?
Did you?
How did this happen?
Will this happen?
What, when, where, why?
What’s next?
Looking to the Future…
Where do we go from here?
How do we stop the emotional roller coaster?
Three Building Blocks to Recovery
Act on Truth
Communicate Understanding
Genuine Openness and
Self-Awareness
Genuine Openness Self-Awareness
Talk – full disclosure
Answer questions
Talking heals
Two peoplelearning about self
Asking difficult personal questions
Genuine Openness
The Person Who Had the Affair
The Person Who Was Cheated On
Discuss the whole situation
Answer thequestions
Communicating desire for the relationship
Ask yourquestions
Learn to talkabout your pain
Express your truthwith love
Self-Awareness
The Person Who Had the Affair
The Person Who Was Cheated On
Beyond the Justification
The Questions
Hurt
Anger
Disconnection
Learn from your pain
How did I miss this the signs?
Boundaries
What can I learn from this experience?
Communicate Understanding
Role of the One Who
Had the Affair
Role of the One Who Was Cheated
OnI have to earnback the trust
I don’t expect quick forgiveness
I want to better understand your pain
I apologize for the pain I caused
I am willing tocontinually admit my mistake
I want to find a good resolution
I will own up to my issues
I understand that for us to heal I have to let you deal with your
strugglesI will talk openly about my
pain, not in a punishing way
I will have compassion on you because I have loved you
Act on the Truth
Role of the One Who
Had the Affair
Role of the One Who Was Cheated On
You’ve said it now do it
Earn trustLow cost High cost
Pay the price–feel your partner’s emotions
Feel good about your forgiveness
Be present
Deal with your pain
Grow
Allow connection
Take risks
Three Building Blocks to Recovery
Act on Truth
Communicate Understanding
Genuine Openness and
Self-Awareness