how to breakthrough to your brilliance...
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HOW TO BREAKTHROUGH TO YOUR BRILLIANCE AND PRODUCE RESULTS
Adam H. White III
CEO | Adam White Speaks
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Adam H. White III CEO | Adam White Speaks
Author of “7 Tests of Great Leadership” and “7 Keys to Overcoming
Fear”, Adam White is a renowned speaker and authority on the
psychology of leadership, organizational development, transformation
and high performance. What started as a desire to help people
transform the quality of their lives has grown into a lifelong passion as
he is called upon by leaders of organizations, entrepreneurs, teachers,
parents, and individuals. Adam has spent years studying the DNA of
Leadership and the psychology of what makes people and
organizations succeed or fail. Adam has demonstrated leadership
through entrepreneurship, owning a Subway Franchise, multiple
investment properties and several business start-ups. Adam shares his
message, tools, and strategies that are designed to improve leadership
development and employee engagement that ultimately increases
bottom-line profitability. When Adam comes to speak to your
organization get ready for change and transformation.
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ADAM WHITE Leadership Expert, Speaker, Success & Life Coach
adamwhitespeaks.com | 734-756-9114 | [email protected]
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BREAKTHROUGH | PRODUCE
Produce
: to make or create something
: to cause something to exist or happen
: to give birth or rise to
: to cause to have existence
: to compose, create, or bring out
From the beginning of time we were created to produce
results…
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BREAKTHROUGH | HUMAN BEHAVIOR
The first step to Breaking Through is Understanding “Human Behavior”
Human Behavior is based on the principle that people will only change to get
further away from pain or closer to pleasure.
As humans when we subconsciously perceive an activity or change as
uncomfortable, we will instinctively avoid it and rationalize our behavior in order
to justify staying the same. There is a very common unconscious process that
causes individuals to think that they are too busy, or that they are already doing
their best.
The more we can understand what’s naturally going on with people and within
ourselves, the more compassion, connection, and positive influence towards
CHANGE we can have as a parent, a leader, a professional, a loving partner or
a friend.
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BREAKTHROUGH | RESISTENCE
3 things that cause resistance to Change
1) People resist change when they don’t “feel” like doing.
2) People resist change that they “perceive” as being “uncomfortable.”
3) People resist change because of “fear”
(fear of the unknown – What will happen if I make this change? Will it take me
out of my comfort zone?)
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BREAKTHROUGH | FEAR
THE PRIMARY THING THAT STOPS US FROM BREAKING
THROUGH? FEAR
FEAR OF
REJECTION
FEAR OF
FAILURE
FEAR OF
SUCCESS
FEAR OF BEING
ALONE
FEAR OF THE
UNKNOWN
Fear is Hard-Wired into every Human Being.
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BREAKTHROUGH | 2 PRIMARY FEARS
2 PRIMARY FEARS IN ALL HUMAN BEINGS
THE FEAR OF NOT BEING ENOUGH. (good enough)
2) FEAR WE WON’T BE LOVED. (acceptance)
All fears are rooted in these (2) Primary Fears.
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BREAKTHROUGH | MASTER FEAR
FEAR is a Mental Construct.. But I am REAL
Fear is only an impulse to protect you from danger
Fear is simply a “what if” statement that keeps generating negative
thoughts.
Practice facing your Fears and you will gain the confidence to OVERCOME
them.
See Fear as a Blessing and Anxiety as good impulses that protect not as
an emotion that stops us from producing results.
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FEAR IS A MENTAL CONSTRUCT
BUT I AM REAL
FEAR IS A MENTAL CONSTRUCT
BUT I AM REAL
FEAR IS A MENTAL CONSTRUCT
BUT I AM REAL
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BREAKTHROUGH | STARTS WITH YOU
IN ORDER TO BREAKTHROUGH TO YOUR BRILLIANCE
YOU HAVE TO START WITH CHANGING YOU!
CHANGE WILL CONTINUE TO HAPPEN AROUND YOU
AND TO YOU. YOUR JOB IS NOT TO TRY AND
CHANGE THE CHANGE, BUT RATHER EMBRACE THE
CHANGE BY CHANGING YOU!
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BREAKTHROUGH | THOUGHT
Everything you see around you in a man-made world began as a thought
or an idea in the mind of a single person before it was translated into
reality. Everything in your life started as a thought, a wish, a hope, or a
dream either in your mind or in the mind of someone else. Your thoughts
are “CREATIVE”.
Your thoughts form and shape your world and everything that happens to
you. The great summary statement of all religions, philosophies,
metaphysics, psychology, and success is this: You become what you
think about most of the time.
Your outer world ultimately becomes a reflection of your inner world.
Whatever you think about continuously emerges in your reality.
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BREAKTHROUGH | THE MIND
Auto Pilot: The Mind’s 3 Favorite Options
Generalization – Generalization is noticing how an experiences is similar
to other experiences. Generalizations can also contribute to limiting
beliefs. Generalizations become beliefs, and those beliefs then start to run
your life. Beliefs are so strong that when you have a belief, it starts to alter
what you perceive. Now all these external stimuli coming in have to get
through these belief filters. Your mind doesn’t really get the raw
information. It doesn’t get to choose anymore.
Deletion – Deletion is dropping away aspects of an experience. Deletion is
natural. When we can’t remember something or when we leave out the
background and other people in our memory that’s Deletion.
Distortion – Distortion is changing an experience from what is actually is
to some modified form of what it is.
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BREAKTHROUGH |THOUGHT PROCESS
STIMULUS MEANING
MEANING EMOTION
EMOTION ACTION
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BREAKTHROUGH | GUARD YOUR MIND
Guard your Mind
The mind is like a factory. Whatever you think about all day
long pours ingredients into this mental factory and that is
what builds the economic, social, financial fabric of our
lives.
Stand Guard at the door of your Mind, and watch what
ingredients you let people deposit into your mental Factory.
You will have to live with the results. Protect your thoughts.
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BREAKTHROUGH | COMMUNICATION
COMMUNICATION
The Quality of My Life is determined by the Quality
of my Communication.
In order to have influence with people, it’s more
important “HOW” you communication WITH them
rather than “WHAT” you communicate TO them.
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THE FIVE LAYERS OF PERSONALITY
ACTIONS
ATTITUDE
EXPECTATIONS
BELIEFS
VALUES
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CYCLE OF RESULTS
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BREAKTHROUGH | THINK & WRITE
SELF PERCEPTION
Write (3) Words that Describe Your Ideal SELF?
EXTERNAL PERCEPTION
Write (3) Words that Describe How you Want Others to See
or Interact with You?
**Begin to close the gap between what your current self is to what you
desire it to be.***
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BREAKTHROUGH | 3 LEVELS OF LIFE
3 Levels Of Life that affect how
we Breakthrough to Brilliance
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THE CAGED LIFE
The feelings of being trapped in a
cage life. Trapped in a relationship,
trapped in a job, trapped in an
addiction. Feelings of resentment,
bitterness. Bitterness becomes
acceptance. Stop asking for help
from others. Feels no one
understand me. No one is going
through what I’m going through.
Could feel suicidal, isolated,
unloved, unworthy and have all
but given up on life.
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THE COMFORTABLE LIFE
Comfort brings too many choices.
Wasted time trying to decide. No
action, no momentum, no decision.
Not trapped, but not focused. Lots
of activity but no movement.
Distractions prevent decisions and
prevent focus.
No action due to distractions
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THE CHARGED LIFE
More energy, eating well,
exercising. Engaged and
motivated. Inspired and looking
forward to the future. Intentional
plan of growth. Actively engaging
in self-management.
Enthusiastic about the future.
Great work relationships, and
family relationships. Fully
expressive and confident.
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THE COST OF DISTRACTIONS
• 4 Hours a day of distractions is
an average of 13 years lost in
your lifetime. (the average
person watches 4 hours of TV
every day).
• 13 years of Average Income lost
equals $800,000.
• If that lost income of $800,000
was invested with an average
rate of return over 13 years it
would be an extra 8 Million
Dollars in our lifetime.
DON’T LET DISTRACTIONS
STOP YOUR SUCCESS!!!
4 Hours of
Distractions per day
13 Years of Life
Lost
Average Income of
$800,000
Invested over 13
years = 8 MILLION
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BREAKTHROUGH |EXTERNAL INFLUENCERS
External Influencers Can’t Stop Breakthrough Results
When we are controlled by others, life loses it’s flair and we are
cast into melancholy and mediocrity. We relinquish our free will to
a society of strangers that speak only of conformity and caution.
Our true self is subjugated and a pseudo self emerges, a mere
reflection of a society that has lost its way. They start running our
lives and soon we are not “us” anymore. We become walking
zombies filled with the commands of others’ preferences and
expectations.
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BREAKTHROUGH | SELF-OPRESSION
Self-Oppression Can Block Us from Producing Results
Unfortunately, most oppression comes not from others but for a
source we least suspect: ourselves.
Self-oppression is the condition of letting our own negative
thoughts and actions restrict us. It is an “inside job”, a burdening
of our spirit by incessant doubt, worry, fear, and distraction.
None of us wants to be the cause of our own failure in life, yet
most often we are. Our own bad habits rip the vibrancy from life.
We are the ultimate oppressors of our own happiness.
That Self-Oppression keeps us trapped where we are: afraid to
try to change, afraid to take action and embrace change.
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HOW TO BREAKTHROUGH…
GETTING THE RESULTS…
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BREAKTHROUGH | DECIDE
What You Become is not based on Conditions, but DECISIONS.
Change Happens when you DECIDE.
What am I going to PRODUCE? - Begin with the end in mind.
Always finish it first in your mind before you build it.
You cannot Create or Embrace Change without first knowing what
type of life ,career, relationships you want to build.
LIFE DOESN’T HAPPEN BY CHANCE BUT BY CHANGE!
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BREAKTHROUGH | CHANGE PERSPECTIVE
2 Things that will shift Your Perspective About Change:
1 – Something new comes IN
2- Something new comes from WITHIN
Success or Failure are not Giant Events in our life, but rather
what we do or fail to do daily. It’s the little things that we miss
each day that culminates into ultimate failure or ultimate success.
Results are therefore produced over a sustained and consistent
period of time. Daily practices, daily disciplines, and daily habits
contain the hidden secret to our long term success.
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BREAKTHROUGH | INCREASE YOUR VALUE
How can 2 people have the same set of circumstances but
one does twice or three times as well economically?
The difference is not time. You can’t get any more time.
When midnight strikes that’s it, no one gets any more time
out of the day. The answer is: VALUE.
You are paid for VALUE, not time.
If you want an above average life: Learn to Work Harder on
YOURSELF than on your Job.
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BREAKTHROUGH | DON’T LIVE IN THE PAST
Living in the Past (The Way things have been)…
A person who can’t see a future is left with retrospective
thoughts.
They develop the ability to look into the past to make their
current situation, problems, less “real.” But in robbing the
present of its reality, it becomes easy to overlook the
possibilities of making the present something better or
making changes in the present.
If You Always Do What you have Always done….
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BREAKTHROUGH | PURPOSE & MEANING
On Finding Purpose and Meaning…
A poll was taken and it found that 89% of people polled said man
needs “something” for the sake of which to live. 61% said there
was someone in their own lives for which they were even willing
to die for.
The key to producing better results is to find that deeper purpose
and meaning for your life.
Is there someone in your life that you are willing to die for?
Results become easier when you have a why, a purpose, and a
meaning.The results are then worth it.
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BREAKTHROUGH | ULTIMATE RESULTS
In order to make changes in our life or embrace changes
that are happening around us, we must make the changes
within us. Start will getting clarity on things you want to keep
and things you want to change in your life, career, family,
etc.
WRITE DOWN THE THINGS IN YOUR LIFE YOU ARE
HAPPY ABOUT?
WRITE DOWN THE THINGS IN YOUR LIFE YOU ARE
UNHAPPY ABOUT?
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THE 3 MOST IMPORTANT QUESTIONS