9 Priceless Lessons I’ve 9 Priceless Lessons I’ve Learned in MY Journey to Heal Learned in MY Journey to Heal

from HIS Affairfrom HIS Affair

#1 – Don’t Act on an Impulse#1 – Don’t Act on an Impulse

If you’ve just found out If you’ve just found out about his affair, about his affair, resist the resist the immediate urge to “throw immediate urge to “throw him out to the curbhim out to the curb”. ”. Especially if you have Especially if you have children.children.

Facing the pain, taking time Facing the pain, taking time to gain perspective and to gain perspective and drafting a relief plan are drafting a relief plan are some of the some of the emergency emergency first stepsfirst steps to take right now. to take right now.

If you’ve JUST found out about your If you’ve JUST found out about your spouse’s cheating, there are a spouse’s cheating, there are a few few critical steps you have to takecritical steps you have to take. .

See my post “See my post “Husband Cheated? Here’s What to DHusband Cheated? Here’s What to Do Nexto Next

” (link)– ” (link)– Right NowRight Now..

#2 – “Once a Cheater Always a #2 – “Once a Cheater Always a Cheater” is NOT TrueCheater” is NOT True

Once a cheater is NOT Once a cheater is NOT always a cheater. Many always a cheater. Many times an affair is a result times an affair is a result of a of a serious serious communication communication breakdownbreakdown..

This CAN be fixed if This CAN be fixed if you have the right tools you have the right tools and the right kind of and the right kind of help.help.

#3 – Get Rid of the Haunting Images#3 – Get Rid of the Haunting Images

Nothing will hurt your Nothing will hurt your healing process more than healing process more than the the obsessive thoughts obsessive thoughts about him and her about him and her together and other together and other negative thoughtsnegative thoughts taking taking control of you.control of you.

There are effective ways to There are effective ways to get ridget rid of these negative of these negative and destructive images and and destructive images and thoughts.thoughts.

To be able to function through this crisis To be able to function through this crisis you have to you have to get the negativity and get the negativity and obsessive images out of your wayobsessive images out of your way. .

To learn how to do that, see my post “To learn how to do that, see my post “How Do I Deal With The Obsessive ImHow Do I Deal With The Obsessive Images in My Mindages in My Mind

??”” (link) (link)

#4 – Learn how to Deal With Your #4 – Learn how to Deal With Your Painful EmotionsPainful Emotions

A crazy cocktail of A crazy cocktail of denial, anger, grief, denial, anger, grief, disappointment and disappointment and complete loss of self complete loss of self esteem. esteem. How can you How can you get through another get through another day feeling like thisday feeling like this??

Learn effective ways to Learn effective ways to DEAL with the painful DEAL with the painful emotions right now.emotions right now.

Letting these painful emotions take over you Letting these painful emotions take over you and become WHO you ARE is and become WHO you ARE is very very

dangerousdangerous. .

You have to open the door for the healing of You have to open the door for the healing of yourself and (possibly) your relationship. yourself and (possibly) your relationship.

To see how to do that see my post “To see how to do that see my post “How Do How Do I Live With the Painful Emotions?I Live With the Painful Emotions?” (link)” (link)

#5 – Find Out if You Can EVER #5 – Find Out if You Can EVER Trust Him AgainTrust Him Again

Your mind tells you that Your mind tells you that you can never trust him you can never trust him again (or anyone else). again (or anyone else). But your heart doesn’t But your heart doesn’t want to believe it. want to believe it.

There are There are simple signs simple signs you can look foryou can look for to see to see if you can ever trust him if you can ever trust him again.again.

You can find out these 5 important signs You can find out these 5 important signs in my article – “in my article – “5 Signs That You Can 5 Signs That You Can Start to Trust Your Cheating Spouse Start to Trust Your Cheating Spouse

Again” (link) Again” (link)

They will help you see where exactly They will help you see where exactly you stand and clear your head you stand and clear your head

immediately. immediately.

#6 – A Simple Trick to Find Out if #6 – A Simple Trick to Find Out if He Still Loves YouHe Still Loves You

How can a man that How can a man that claims he loves you – claims he loves you – And do this to you? And do this to you? Does he love you at all?Does he love you at all?

If this question bothers If this question bothers you, I can share a you, I can share a simple trick to help simple trick to help you find out if your you find out if your husband still loves husband still loves youyou..

You may find it hard to believe, but your You may find it hard to believe, but your husband’s infidelity does NOT mean that he husband’s infidelity does NOT mean that he

doesn’t love you. doesn’t love you.

To find out about the “To find out about the “Magic PillMagic Pill” question ” question you have to ask him to find out – See my you have to ask him to find out – See my

article “article “Cheating Man – Does Your Cheating Man – Does Your Husband Still Love You?Husband Still Love You?” (link)” (link)

#7 – Decide if You Really Want to #7 – Decide if You Really Want to Know EVERYTHINGKnow EVERYTHING

Every cheated woman Every cheated woman wants to know wants to know everythingeverything about the about the infidelity; Where, why, infidelity; Where, why, how, when and how, when and whowho..

Sometimes discovering Sometimes discovering everythingeverything about the about the affair can be affair can be a very bad a very bad movemove..

You have to discover the possible outcome You have to discover the possible outcome of knowing of knowing every gory detailevery gory detail of his of his

infidelity, and how exactly you can deal infidelity, and how exactly you can deal with it – Before you ask for it. with it – Before you ask for it.

To learn these important facts – See my To learn these important facts – See my article “article “How to Deal With the Gory How to Deal With the Gory

Details of his Affair? (link)Details of his Affair? (link)

#8 – Do NOT Tell Your Friends and #8 – Do NOT Tell Your Friends and FamilyFamily

Though it’s natural to Though it’s natural to seek help and comfort seek help and comfort from your loved ones, from your loved ones, telling your friends telling your friends and family about his and family about his cheating can cheating can destroy destroy the chances of your the chances of your marriage to survivemarriage to survive. .

I urge you to I urge you to WAIT and think twice before WAIT and think twice before telling anyonetelling anyone that knows your spouse about that knows your spouse about

what he did. That is if you still haven’t decided what he did. That is if you still haven’t decided that your marriage is over.that your marriage is over.

First, learn First, learn why this could ruin your chanceswhy this could ruin your chances of of saving your marriage and who else can you saving your marriage and who else can you

safely confide in, In my post “safely confide in, In my post “What NOT to What NOT to Do When Your Husband CheatsDo When Your Husband Cheats” (link)” (link)

#9 – One “Little” Book Can Save #9 – One “Little” Book Can Save Your MarriageYour Marriage

The most important The most important thing to understand is thing to understand is that you CAN’T that you CAN’T survive this ALONE.survive this ALONE.

Finding the right kind Finding the right kind of help will determine of help will determine the rest of your the rest of your relationship and the relationship and the rest of your life.rest of your life.

After realizing that marriage counseling After realizing that marriage counseling sessions are not what I want, I found a sessions are not what I want, I found a marriage help program that changed marriage help program that changed

everything from that moment on.everything from that moment on.

I’ve shared my experience and my results I’ve shared my experience and my results in my post “in my post “How DrHow Dr. . Gunzburg’s “Survive Gunzburg’s “Survive

an Affair” Book Saved My 11 Year an Affair” Book Saved My 11 Year Marriage”Marriage”