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TOP TEN THINGS THAT MAKE PEOPLE

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10. People who drive like idiots, especially those that slow down to look at something going on on the other side of the freeway.



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9. People who use their text messaging while they’re having a conversation with you.



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8. People who talk during the movies.



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7. Companies that make you scroll through a zillion options before you can speak to a live person.



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6. People who smoke where they’re not supposed to.



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4. Gossip.



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3. Large SUV's with just a driver and no passengers.



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2. People who are rude.



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1. The number one reason on our survey that makes people mad? Themselves.


4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7


POSITIVE NEGATIVELove is patient It does not envyLove is kind It doesn’t boastLove rejoices with the truth It is not proudLove protects It is not rudeLove always trusts It is not self-seekingLove always hopes It is not easily angeredLove always perseveres It keeps no record

It does not delight in evil


Aspects of Anger 4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. “sharpen” & “alongside”


Aspects of Anger 4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. “short tempered”


Aspects of Anger 4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. “short tempered”7Since an overseer is entrusted with God's work, he must be blameless—not overbearing, not quick-tempered, not given to drunkenness, not violent, not pursuing dishonest gain. Titus 1:7


Aspects of Anger 4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. “short tempered”7Since an overseer is entrusted with God's work, he must be blameless—not overbearing, not quick-tempered, not given to drunkenness, not violent, not pursuing dishonest gain. Titus 1:7

Angry people are focused, not on others, but on

themselves & their own comfort & convenience


Aspects of Anger 4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.


Aspects of Anger 4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. “calculate or to reckon”



1 When the time drew near for David to die, he gave a charge to Solomon his son. 2 "I am about to go the way of all the earth," he said. "So be strong, show yourself a man, 3 and observe what the LORD your God requires: Walk in his ways, and keep his decrees and commands, his laws and requirements, as written in the Law of Moses, so that you may prosper in all you do and wherever you go, 4 and that the LORD may keep his promise to me: 'If your descendants watch how they live, and if they walk faithfully before me with all their heart and soul, you will never fail to have a man on the throne of Israel.' 1 Kings 2:1-4



5 "Now you yourself know what Joab son of Zeruiah did to me—what he did to the two commanders of Israel's armies, Abner son of Ner and Amasa son of Jether. He killed them, shedding their blood in peacetime as if in battle, and with that blood stained the belt around his waist and the sandals on his feet. 6 Deal with him according to your wisdom, but do not let his gray head go down to the grave [a] in peace. 7 "But show kindness to the sons of Barzillai of Gilead and let them be among those who eat at your table. They stood by me when I fled from your brother Absalom.



8 "And remember, you have with you Shimei son of Gera, the Benjamite from Bahurim, who called down bitter curses on me the day I went to Mahanaim. When he came down to meet me at the Jordan, I swore to him by the LORD : 'I will not put you to death by the sword.' 9 But now, do not consider him innocent. You are a man of wisdom; you will know what to do to him. Bring his gray head down to the grave in blood." 1 Kings 2:5-9



Proverbs 15:1; 1 A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh

word stirs up anger. Proverbs 29:20;

20 Do you see a man who speaks in haste? There is more hope for a fool than for him. Proverbs 17:14;

14 Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam; so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out.

“No form of vice or worldliness nor greed of gold, nor drunkenness itself, does more to un-Christianize society than a bad temper. For embittering life, for breaking up communities, for destroying the most sacred relationships, for devastating homes, for taking the bloom off childhood, in short, for sheer gratuitous misery producing power, the influence of a bad temper stands all by itself alone.” Henry Drummond


Effects of Anger• Creates distance, both emotional

& physical



& physical

33 The king was shaken. He went up to the room over the gateway and wept. As he went, he said: "O my son Absalom! My son, my son Absalom! If only I had died instead of you—O Absalom, my son, my son!"2 Samuel 18:33



& physical• Opens the door for all kind of

violence & abuse




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19The acts of the sinful nature are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; 20idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions 21and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.Galatians 5:19-21




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• Opens the door for Satanic oppression




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• Opens the door for Satanic oppression26"In your anger do not sin": Do not let the sun go down

while you are still angry, 27and do not give the devil a foothold. Ephesians 4:26-27




violence & abuse

• Opens the door for Satanic oppression26"In your anger do not sin": Do not let the sun go down

while you are still angry, 27and do not give the devil a foothold. Ephesians 4:26-27

DepressionAnxietyBitternessAdditions (Drugs, Pornography, Gambling, etc.)Obsessive Compulsive ActivitiesInability to stop thinking about people you

don’t likeInability to stop worryingInability to control violent urges




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• Can keep us from walking in the light & loving others




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9Anyone who claims to be in the light but hates his brother is still in the darkness. 10Whoever loves his brother lives in the light, and there is nothing in him[c] to make him stumble. 11But whoever hates his brother is in the darkness and walks around in the darkness; he does not know where he is going, because the darkness has blinded him. 1 John 2:9-11




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Anger Management Principles• Research the root reason for

your anger



your anger

I loved someone very much and that person died.

I don’t like my job. I don’t have a job. I was passed over for a promotion at

work. My spouse criticizes me too much. My parents are not pleased with me. I have to work too much. My marriage failed (or is failing). My spouse doesn’t understand me.



your anger

My kids don’t listen to me. I can’t have my kids. One of my children is in trouble (drugs,

sex, etc.). I can’t forgive myself for a big mistake I

made. My dad (or mom) left me when I was

young. My parents always belittled me. I can’t forgive _____ _ for what he/she

did to me.



your anger

My friends don’t care My kids don’t respect me I’m adopted I was abused as a child



your anger• Recover the lost art of listening




19My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, 20for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires. James 4:19




Proverbs 29:1111 A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise

man keeps himself under control. Proverbs 14:29;

29 A patient man has great understanding, but a quick-tempered man displays folly. Proverbs 15:18;

18 A hot-tempered man stirs up dissension, but a patient man calms a quarrel








9% of your time will be spent writing, 16 % of your time will be spent reading, 30% of your time will be spent speaking and 45% of your time will be spent listening.








• Relax and clear your mind. • Direct your eyes and body towards the

person speaking.• Avoid formulating what you are going to say

until they have finished speaking. • Listen for intent as well as content.



your anger• Recover the lost art of listening• Resolve to speak softly



your anger• Recover the lost art of listening• Resolve to speak softly1A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1



your anger• Recover the lost art of listening• Resolve to speak softly4Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. Ephesians 6:4



your anger• Recover the lost art of listening• Resolve to speak softly• Resign yourself to forgiving the

one who has injured you.





Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. Luke 6:37





Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. Luke 6:37

“release fully, to unbind or to let go”




one who has injured you.Forgive – loose, set free”

43When he had said this, Jesus called in a loud voice, "Lazarus, come out!" 44The dead man came out, his hands and feet wrapped with strips of linen, and a cloth around his face. Jesus said to them, "Take off the grave clothes and let him go.“ John 11:44




one who has injured you. Write it down.




one who has injured you. Write it down. Do all you can to work it out.




one who has injured you. Write it down. Do all you can to work it out.

18If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Romans 12:18




one who has injured you. Write it down. Do all you can to work it out. Give it up.




one who has injured you. Write it down. Do all you can to work it out. Give it up.

19Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God's wrath, for it is written: "It is mine to avenge; I will repay,"says the Lord. 20On the contrary: "If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head."21Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. Romans 12:19-21


What about you?• Are your quick-tempered or

easily provoked?• Who has hurt or disappointed

you? Have you forgiven them?• Do you need to be a better

listener? What steps can you take?

• How comfortable are people to be around you? Are you always yelling? Or, do you have a kind and gentle spirit?

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