hanging on to hope through a serious illness
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Hanging On to Hope Hanging On to Hope
Through A Serious Through A Serious
IllnessIllness
Working Your Way Working Your Way
ThroughThrough
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When I got sick, I discovered I
Didn’t have all the answers
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I felt
–
Confused
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Frightened
–
desperate
Working Your Way Working Your Way
ThroughThrough
Who
would
comfort
me?
Cheer Yourself OnCheer Yourself On
Comfort
Yourself
Keep up your
self-esteem
Be kind to
yourself
Hug yourselfDon’t think
you are
worthless
Don’t be afraid
to tell your
needs
Don’t feel
guilty if you
are sick to do
things.
Cherish your
very existence
Fighting
spirit
Set Goals For YourselfSet Goals For Yourself
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No matter how small, any goal
helps you feel a sense of
achievement.
•
Keep up interest in your life
projects.
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Even if you have only 5 minutes a
day, use that time and build on it.
“SURVIVORS SURVIVORS
ARE PEOPLE WHO
MOVE PURPOSEFULLY TOWARD
EITHER
RESOLUTION RESOLUTION OR
ACCEPTANCEACCEPTANCE”
Robert Veninga, A Gift of Hope
Set Goals For YourselfSet Goals For Yourself
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Doing, Learning, re-learning
will help you:
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FEEL ALIVE
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REGAIN SELF-ESTEEM
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Making me important againMaking me important again
HOW TO LIVE HOW TO LIVE
WITH ILLNESS # 1WITH ILLNESS # 1
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Talk about the
illness
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You can’t make
life normal
again by trying
to hide what is
wrong.
Orville Kelly, founder,
Make Today Count
HOW TO LIVE HOW TO LIVE
WITH ILLNESS # 2WITH ILLNESS # 2
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Accept death as
part of life
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It is.
Orville Kelly, founder,
Make Today Count
HOW TO LIVE HOW TO LIVE
WITH ILLNESS # 3WITH ILLNESS # 3
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Consider each
day as another
day of life, a
gift from God.
Orville Kelly, founder,
Make Today Count
HOW TO LIVE HOW TO LIVE
WITH ILLNESS # 4WITH ILLNESS # 4
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Realize that
life is never
going to be
perfect.
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It wasn’t before
and it won’t be
now.
Orville Kelly, founder,
Make Today Count
HOW TO LIVE HOW TO LIVE
WITH ILLNESS # 5WITH ILLNESS # 5
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Pray !
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It isn’t a sign
of weakness.
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It is your
strength.
Orville Kelly, founder,
Make Today Count
HOW TO LIVE HOW TO LIVE
WITH ILLNESS # 6WITH ILLNESS # 6
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Learn to live
with your
illness instead
of considering
yourself dying
from it.
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We are all
dying in some
manner.
Orville Kelly, founder,
Make Today Count
HOW TO LIVE HOW TO LIVE
WITH ILLNESS # 7WITH ILLNESS # 7
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Put your
friends and
relatives at
ease yourself.
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If you don’t
want pity,
don’t ask for
it.
Orville Kelly, founder,
Make Today Count
HOW TO LIVE HOW TO LIVE
WITH ILLNESS # 8WITH ILLNESS # 8
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Make all
practical
arrangements
for funerals,
wills, etc.
Orville Kelly, founder,
Make Today Count
HOW TO LIVE HOW TO LIVE
WITH ILLNESS # 9WITH ILLNESS # 9
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Set new goals;
realize your
limitations.
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The simple
things can be
the most
enjoyable.
Orville Kelly, founder,
Make Today Count
HOW TO LIVE HOW TO LIVE
WITH ILLNESS # 10WITH ILLNESS # 10
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Discuss your
problems with
your family as
they occur.
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Include the
children if
possible.
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After all, your
problem is not an
individual one.Orville Kelly, founder,
Make Today Count
Keep Your Sense Of Keep Your Sense Of
HumorHumor
•
Learn to
Laugh at
yourself and
enjoy life.
Be Thankful for each Be Thankful for each
day and greet it day and greet it
joyouslyjoyously
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Make every
moment special.
•
Live life to the
fullest even
for a short
period of time
Be Thankful for each Be Thankful for each
day and greet it day and greet it
joyouslyjoyously
•
Be with the ones
you love most
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Tell them often
how you feel
while you still
have a chance
Accept the comfort Accept the comfort
offered by offered by
friends and familyfriends and family
•
The strong support of all who loved
and prayed for me … in my darkest hours.
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Don’t be afraid to let others know how
vulnerable you are.
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It’s not a sign of weakness to allow them
to do what they can to make things
easier for you.
Accept the comfort offered by Accept the comfort offered by
friends and familyfriends and family
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Trust in God’s care enables a
person to relax into God’s hands,
and gives one a sense of being one
with God, at one with the only
power capable of reaching
through distance or delirium, the
only power capable of making some
good out of our own helplessness
and inadequacy.
Leonard Bowman
The Importance of Being Sick
Turn To Your Turn To Your
Faith and Religious Faith and Religious
TraditionTradition
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Be open to
possibilities about
god.
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We don’t think we
need God until
we run into
trouble.
Turn To Your Turn To Your
Faith and Religious TraditionFaith and Religious Tradition
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Learn how vulnerable we are,
how our lives are in God’s hands.
Turn To Your Turn To Your
Faith and Religious TraditionFaith and Religious Tradition
•Your friends
•will stand by you
&
•companion you
•if you are lucky
But GODGOD,
even if you are
“UNLUCKY”
WILL SURROUNDSURROUND YOU
Search For Meaning Search For Meaning
from your Adversityfrom your Adversity
I didn’t ask for this
painful experience.
But I can choose my response to it
I can choose to grow from it &
Shape it into a positive force
in my life
Take HeartTake Heart
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By facing death, I learned how to live
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Out of struggle, confusion and fear is:
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GOD WANTS HEART
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Prove a good friend to yourself
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Allow yourself to learn on the willing
arms of family, friends and caregivers.
Learn
secrets of
precious love
secrets of
precious peace